Where's the support when you need it?

We are getting married on the same day. My bridal party has been nothing but supportive as they should be.


I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. We decided that by July we would have a better idea of what to do. We are planning things as we normally would do. In fact, lots of spring brides have opted for October.
Our planner and venue have said they don’t anticipate us not being able to have our wedding.
It’s a bit too soon to make a call for the fall. Keep your head up and be hopeful! Don’t let people’s negativity stress you out.

I have gotten that reaction from coworkers who arent attending the wedding. the only one whos suggested i postpone is my fiances mom. i am not moving my date until i absolutely have to. why put extra stress. some people dont like the idea of being limbo not knowing what to do so they feel better postponing but some of us are willing to wait it out. they shouldnt be pressuring you like that its your day and ultimately your decision. if they dont feel comfortable attending forget them

* and i dont mean forget them for wanting to postpone i just mean personally if i chose to move forward and certain people didnt want to come its not gonna affect my decision

I hate to be a downer, but I think your bridal party is just super concerned. I feel so bad for the states hit hardest (especially NY). I think small local weddings *may* be ok this fall but can’t imagine asking guests to travel from/to NY for a wedding. I think you may see a very high decline rate. 😫


My hubby & I talked this week and no longer feel comfortable taking our Euro honeymoon this fall (cancelled in May). I will only travel in fall for work, if required. No event is worth risking my life or my family’s. While it’s not helpful/supportive your bridal party keeps bringing it up they’re telling you how concerned they are.

Hi! Former date twins!

I'm sorry people are making you feel this way. It's your day and you should be able to make decisions when you're ready.

Your family/bridal party may be nervous only because NY has the highest cases in all of the United States and they might be scared they can't attend.

We are in the process of postponing until next year because it makes us feel comfortable but you need to do what is right for you and your fiance.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate it. Exactly at the end of the day we have to make the decision that is best for us and what will make us the happiest at this point. Im sorry your hearing a bit of the same thing as me but it's comforting to know that their are other brides in the same boat and we are not alone in this.

View Quoted Comment That's awesome hopefully we will get to stay date twins! I hope that with enough time between then and now things will calm down and people will feel more comfortable as well.

View Quoted Comment As a New Yorker I completely get why their concerned since we have had the highest rate of infection. I also think there is still a lot of time left and things are changing every day. Our neighbouring state NJ just started opening up and starting their phase one so i am trying to stay positive. Also since my venue is in NC they had significantly less of an infection rate and began opening up last week. I would never force them to come if they felt uncomfortable. But i also don't feel that adding more stress to your friend or family member in a difficult time is helping matters. Only time will tell.

I’m getting married Sept 4th in NC and I live here in NC. My family tho is coming from NY and all of them are super excited saying they will need this celebration in Sept for freedom lol it’s going to be ok!! Just breath and keep pushing forward I’m confident my little ass will be walking down that aisle on Sept 4th!! I already postponed once we were originally supposed to get married next Sunday (May 24th)

View Quoted Comment If its any consollation, ny’s infection rate is going way down right now. other states its going up. were past our peak and we have a clear plan to reopen. im in hudson valley region if all goes well we should be set for phase 1 may 24. that puts us at late june/ early july for phase 3. i think when the infection rate is so low we wont think of it as much of a threat anymore. we may have an effective treatment soon. i get that people r freaking out but its just too soon to tell what will happen. ny i feel is in a better place than most other places even though we were hit the hardest BECAUSE we were hit the hardest. we took the biggest steps to contain

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They probably are also stressing out because they care and WANT to attend but are freaked out right now. You can always say something like, "We'll postpone if/when we need to--for everyone's health. But right now, PLEASE only send me positive vibes about this. I'm already stressed out. I could really use your support."

Sorry that you are going through this. My bridal party & family has been supportive when I moved my April 2020 wedding to September 2020. I dont really talk to them about my wedding planning though. I have seen that usually it's not a good idea to share wedding plans with everyone especially when some people have never planned a wedding in their life. I mostly keep my plans & ideas to myself.
I'm not quite sure if we will go through with our September date, I'm so tired of all this wait & I understand how you feel. We might just end up having a small ceremony in our backyard & only invite a few people & whoever comes then that's great if not that's fine too. We will limit it to 15 or 25 people possibly. I'm not sure if I'll even have a big wedding anymore.

I would say just dont discuss the plans right now & if they ask say you are waiting until it gets closer to make a decision so they can leave you alone. I think it's fine that people ask you shouldn't get bothered by that because it is their health they are concerned about & we should all be considerate of one another.

View Quoted Comment That's perfect wording i feel like i should make that a damn Facebook post lol.

View Quoted Comment That is so good to hear! I hope it all works out. I'm sorry you had to move your date but I hope Sept 4th will be all you dreamed of!

View Quoted Comment I hope all goes to plan and you can start phase 1 soon! I can only hope for us here in the city we will be able to start reopening beginning to middle of June. I agree i think because so many people had it and we hit our peak already it should help us. Now just to pray there is no second wave.

View Quoted Comment Well good luck and i hope you are able to have your day in September. Yes it seems like keeping things close to the chest at this time is better because everyone has an opinion. Of course everyone has their right to worry and ask questions just as much as i have a right to make a decision about my wedding day. I think if everyone kept each other's feelings in mind it would make things easier for all.

It’s been hard 8-8 is our date and with everything going on my cousin my bridesmaid passed away so, it makes everyone nervous but it actually made want to cancel everything but two years prior I was a bridesmaid and my cousins wedding and I remember her telling me whoever supposed to be here will be here continue on with your celebration I can just hear her saying that to me and it makes me want to push forward no matter what happens during Covid life still goes on, some people will be at your big day and some people won’t but whatever, God has planned is how it’s supposed to be. Goodluck stay positive 🙏🏽

View Quoted Comment I am so sorry to hear about your cousin. That is a beautiful way to look at things and great advice. I agree whatever is meant to be will always find it's way.

This is me right now!! It’s making me so upset. I have family coming from overseas so it’s even worse.

View Quoted Comment I am so sorry! Are they still able to even travel because of what's going on?