Where's the support when you need it?

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much. I totally understand. Those are the suggestions they keep putting forth to me as well. I couldn't agree more about not wanting to compromise or have to give up your dream because of it. It's just not fair we all deserve the day we've dreamt of. I will definitely try to stay as positive and calm as possible. I hope it all works out for you as well!

We are the same date, but in CA. We are out of state also and am trying to navigate all this. My party has been very mixed but those negative Nancy’s for some reason get to me a lot more than the supportive ones. We haven’t decided what we are doing yet, but you aren’t alone in this girl. It’s a crazy time right now and I’m curious what others are doing in October are doing.

Hi Amanda, I'm terribly sorry that you are getting negative reactions from your bridal party!! You definitely don't deserve it!

I can somewhat relate. We're also planning to get married in October and in March we found out that our venue is closing permanently I immediately texted my sister, who is my MOH, and her response was to see if we could get our deposit back. My mind wasn't on money that day so I felt thrown off. Later that day she sent a text saying that my FH and I should be thankful for our health and basically that a wedding wasn't that important. I have avoided planning anything with her as she genuinely seems uninterested. What has surprised me the most is that a friend who isn't in my wedding party has been sending me messages of encouragement and advice. When she sees something wedding-related, she tags me in it. Sometimes I think we seek support from people and then there are those who just give it freely.

I wish you and your groom the best! I hope your wedding is everything and more

View Quoted Comment Our plan B was to have a small ceremony with my parents his parents and sins less then 10 ppl. My photographer agreed to come. I brought a wedding dress from lulus and I’ve been learning how to do my hair and makeup the way I want it.


We had luck finding an air bnb cabin. So we will be getting married in someone’s beautiful back yard. We are going to do take out food as well and I will be zooming the ceremony for anyone who wants to watch. I was able to put the link on my wedding website to avoid ppl asking me for it over and over again lol.
I brought myself a mug that says why plan one wedding when you can plan two ! Because come 2021 I paid for a party and I’m having it! Lol
My best advice no matter what you do Itis about you. If you have to go to plan B make it special for you no matter what. You might not be able to have a party that day but you can relish in your love and still get dressed up. I could go on and on with the other plan B ideas I had from using my mother in laws backyard to clearing out my living room, but the silver lining in all of this is found is you create your happiness. Don’t let anyone take that away from you. Hope this helps

*siblings sorry silly auto correct 🙃

That sucks! But I realize that some people are more concerned about the pandemic than others. Some of my friends are cool with getting out (like I am). For example, 4 of us get together on certain Fridays for “girls night IN”.... while other friends stay locked inside, afraid to open the window and watch the news all day, with high anxiety. Also as brides, we’re probably a little more hopeful about the future than the average individual (for obvious reasons) which helps lessen the anxiety. But, then again, maybe that’s just me and my personality. Lol!


We’re in October as well. And I have to say... with everything going on and all of the uncertainty, I’m so glad that we don’t have a bridal party to contend with. 😬

View Quoted Comment Thanl you! It seems most October brides are hopeful and definitely waiting it out to see what happens. I really believe we still have time. I'm sorry your getting those negative people too. It can definitely be hard to keep them out of your head. I feel like ive been very up and down with my positivity. I hope things can work out for you!

View Quoted Comment I am so very sorry Jaqueline. I can't imagine the stress that would cause and I wish as your sister even more so than as your maid of honor she would be there for you. But i completely agree. There are so many people you expect to have your back who dont and then there is the surprise few who do. Thank you for your positivity and i hope you get to have the day of your dreams as well.

View Quoted Comment Those are great ideas for plan b! It sounds perfect and as long as you are happy that is all that matters. I will definitely keep those ideas in mind if the time comes. Thank you so much! I truly believe one way or another we will all get the day we want.

View Quoted Comment Yes i definitely think that's the case. There is a real divide in guests and the bridal party of who feels comfortable and whos ready to go. All we can do is hope it all works out. I just wish those negative people would keep it to themselves. I hope you have the day of your dreams as well. Screw this pandemic.

I am so sorry to hear that you've been getting a lot of backlash from your bridal party for wanting to remain hopeful. As for me, my wedding isn't until February 2021, so I've got time, but I won't lie and tell you that I've had a fellow bridesmaid miss my mini-wedding dress try on at my home because of her fears.

Yes... and I'm really trying to keep my cool about it. My step-mother and papa told me two weeks ago that they would be not be attending my June 20th wedding and my sister called me Saturday to inform me that she's still not comfortable being around people at this time. Part of me want to really want to be upset and tell them that we really wanted a destination wedding and opted for a beach wedding within driving distance just so they all could attend and how bad this makes me feel and the other part of me just say the Hell with it those whose suppose to be there will be there period point blank. I plan on getting married on June 20th if it's the Lord's will even if it's just me, my FH and the officiator...

I'm sorry about the long message but trust I totally understand how you feel and based of the location that everyone is coming from, just be careful and try not to let it get the best of you.

View Quoted Comment Wow i am so sorry your getting all these close important people saying they won't come. It's such a difficult thing to have to deal with on top of all the stress already going on. In the last few days other family members aunts, uncles have said they will not come if i get married this year. Of course you want people to feel safe but i also feel like I'm being bullied into doing what everyone else wants. I keep yo-yoing on how i feel or what i want at this point. It was always very important to me to have a big wedding with all my family there. But with so many refusing to consider coming already and my wedding is in October its breaking my heart. If you want to get married June 20th and that makes you happy and will have no regrets than you should do it. Ay the end of the day it has to be a decision that you and your FH agree on and will make you happy.

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Tank you Amanda and you do the same... You've gone through a lot to prepare for your special day. I respect those who don't feel comfortable and I set up everything with people living in the same house sitting together and the resort have rules for social distancing as well and I gong to pray and move forward...

Good vibes to you and I hope all works out for the better good for you.

Girl, I feel you. Take a deep breath and do what is best for you. This whole thing is so stressful, and people are at home with way too much time on our hands, so spend that time worrying. My wedding is Sept 19. It a supposed to be a small 10 person wedding in France, and lately, the lack of support has been insane. I've been getting mixed views from all the guests. My fiance's family wants me to postpone to next year. My mother says if I postpone, she won't come because she thinks I'm being dramatic and since my fiance and I live together, what's the point in a wedding anyway. My fiance's best man won't come anymore regardless because he's too worried to travel at all, even if we postpone it to Sept 2021.


Originally, I wanted to just elope in the mountains of our state, Colorado, with just us. My fiance wanted a huge wedding, so our compromise was to get married in Europe and rent a historic mansion out for a few days to celebrate with just our close family. Now, I have no idea what to do. We can postpone, but we can't cancel and get our money back.
We've all been robbed. We are supposed to be excited in the months leading up to our wedding, not anxious and stressed. We gotta stick together. On a positive note, I feel that all of us 2020 brides are linked in a unique way. We understand the stress and the frustration.

View Quoted Comment Wow I am so sorry that they are being so unsupportive. It is so hard to make the call to put the day you've dreamt of and planned so much for on hold because of so many things out of our control. The wedding you have planned sounds so beautiful! I keep going back and forth myself. Somedays all the negativity really makes me want to cancel it and be done with the stress. But i also feel like if i do that im giving in and i will have resentment for years to come.
Thank goodness we have each other in this because literally no one understands but each other.

I am so sorry you are not getting the support that you should be. As a resident of NC, I've been watching our reopening plan and it really sounds like the state will be back to normal by the end of June, mid-July.

I think you just have to stand by your guns and trust and believe it will all work out for the best. I have faith. Our wedding is scheduled for October 10th in the Keys and the Keys are scheduled to open back up to tourists at the end of this month.

I have actually gotten the opposite from my party. I’m stressing it myself but they just keep saying it’s going to happen but if I want to postpone, they understand that also. I’m a NC bride in the fall also. Can I ask when you have set for you to make a decision on whether you plan to move forward or postpone? That’s what I’m trying to decide—-when do you make the final call?

View Quoted Comment That's great that you have a good support team. My wedding planner said the latest i should send out invites would be beginning of August. So to get the invitations made in time we would need to make a decision early July. My fear is will my venue be allowed to hold the number of guests we originally booked for? Also the amount of people reaching out to me everyday saying they won't feel comfortable traveling if we have the wedding this year is growing by the day. I almoat feel like a decision is being made for me. Where in NC are you getting married?

Sry you are hearing negative comments.

I'm getting married in September in Jamaica and I have only had my FH aunt and mom express concern or talk about maybe we should postpone. His cousin decided he's too afraid to travel and I'm OK with that. Everyone else keeps telling me they are looking forward to the wedding more so because It's our first vacation of the year since lock down. This weekend I guess his Mom came around and said that she prays it all works out for us.