When does it become acceptable to fire a bridesmaid?

She was always rude, but that's been our friendship, in a joking manner. I wouldn't ever call her nice or sweet

Most people say it's tacky to kick someone out of a bridal party and while in most cases I would agree, in your case I would politely tell her you no longer want her in the wedding. It will end your friendship (in most cases) but she does not sound like a friend I would want. Yikes!

If you truly do not want the friendship any longer--as this will be a friendship ended--you have my blessing to let her step down.

But you don't need my blessing, you need to do the best thing for you and your mental well being. If she's truly as toxic as you say, I think you should have a one on one with her, gauge her responses and decide what will be best for you moving forward.

Wow bridemaidzilla! The only duty of BM is to show up in a dress on your wedding day. Seem like she will not perform that only duty so I think you good enough reasons to exclude her from the bridal party. Of course, be prepare for friendship to be lost. IMOH you are not going to miss out much.

Ummm, I would try talking to her. If that doesn't work I would ask her does she want to be a bridesmaid? And give her the option to quit or stay. If she wants to stay let her know this is a stressful time and you need her to be more supportive

and friendly. If she says no, tell her you understand. Then send her a wedding invitation.

Im confused why you would want this person as a friend let alone a BM. IF this is a sudden change in her behavior or attitude, sit her down and talk to her about it. give her the chance to opt out instead of firing her

Why is she your friend?

Um, why are you friends with this horrible person?

Yeah I'm starting to lean more with PP. if you don't want to continue your friendship (I don't see why you would) have her step down. She sounds like a terrible person.

Normally I'm anti firing but this would be an exception. It sounds like she's bitter and jealous.

Told you your dress was hideous? Oh helllllll to the No!

We've been friends for a long time. We lost a child, stillborn, and she was the only one who didn't treat me differently afterwards. Like I was glass that could shatter at any minute. She didn't talk about me to other people while I was in the room, like I wasn't even there. She was very supportive in that chapter of my life. All my other friend's kind of abandoned me because they didn't know how to talk to me anymore. And that was an awesome thing of her to do. But now that supportive friend is gone. I don't see why for any reason other than jealousy. This is one good thing for me. John is everything. I've had a lot of shitty cards dealt to me over the years. So if she's jealous...It's just not fair to take it out on me like this.

Anyone who acts like that does not deserve to be in your wedding. My mother always said "never let someone steal your joy" and that's what this woman seems to be trying to do. I say ask her to step down, as far as it ending a friendship she seems to be doing a good enough job of that all on her own. I wouldn't worry about that, she doesn't sound like a nice person. Your wedding is meant to be a joyful and happy day and it won't be with her toxicity around you. Good luck OP!

I agree with what everyone has already said. She's clearly a toxic person and if you are okay with ending your friendship, by all means, kick her out. If you want to keep her friendship though, I'm not really sure what to tell you. She clearly isn't a very good friend and isn't super interested in your wedding. It's really your call though. Good luck! I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

I agree with the other ladies, call her out on her behavior and let her hang herself. She sounds dreadful to deal with. I'm sorry you have to deal with her.

If you don't kick her out, you'll probably kick her to the curb after..: it happens.

WOW. What was your relationship like before this?? I mean, this does not even sound like a friend at all.

The only time you fire a BM is if she slept with your FH; in that case, you fire him too!

Did she bang your fh?

Yes=bye!

No= see below

Do you want to be friends with her after the wedding?

Yes= she is in the bp

No= why the f did you ask her to begin with?

Honey, that's no "best friend" you need to sit her down and tell her how she makes you feel, if she doesn't seem invested in saving or working on your friendship or taking your feelings into consideration, well, then...girl bye!

Next time she says, i dont wanna be a BM, just say BYE, and dont come back. Nobody got time for this BS.