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Kellie
Savvy May 2019

What's stressing you out?

Kellie, on April 2, 2019 at 4:18 PM

Posted in Planning 116

What's going on with planning your wedding that is currently stressing you out? My wedding is on May 4, 2019 and I just found out yesterday that the venue we were going to have our ceremony and reception at is canceling on us. The venue was free and had adequate seating, they weren't requiring a...

What's going on with planning your wedding that is currently stressing you out? My wedding is on May 4, 2019 and I just found out yesterday that the venue we were going to have our ceremony and reception at is canceling on us. The venue was free and had adequate seating, they weren't requiring a refundable security deposit or anything like that so there was no agreement in writing. They are claiming that I "misunderstood them" and that they never okayed the date. There is no way I would have sent out Save the Dates if it wasn't crystal clear that the date was secured.

Because the venue was free I didn't budget for renting tables & chairs or paying for a venue. I have a meeting with a venue tomorrow and hopefully I can secure it and let everyone know of the change. I need some major pampering and drinks, but now I'm extra poor lol.

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  • K
    Savvy May 2019
    Kim ·
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    I’m so sorry you have that to worry about! I hope everything works out!

    Right now I don’t have specific stress but moreso stress that I’m forgetting something. I have things planned out but then little things pop up and while it’s stuff that would be more cool to have than must have, I still worry.
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  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
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    We saved a ton by looking around Etsy. Now my BM bouqets are small and pretty but you can tell they are fake. But flowers was something I was willing to go cheap on. They do have realistic ones on Etsy to.
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  • Alhina
    Devoted August 2019
    Alhina ·
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    I was in the same situation a month ago. My decorator quit on us. She sent me a text saying that she couldn't do my wedding anymore without any explanation. Just a week ago she text me and said her and her husband are going through a divorce. I explained to her that's not business like especially if you are just starting your business. All she had to do was meet with me in person and explain her situation. Anyway when she sent me that text message my heart dropped. I didn't know what to do or start from. I was stressed to the t. I started ordering things to decorate my own wedding. Luckily my mom found a decorator for me. She was more expensive but hey she been in the business for 20 some years. Just take a deep breath and let things flow. You will find a venue even better. I know its easier said than done when being the bride.
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  • Alhina
    Devoted August 2019
    Alhina ·
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    Hey Bridgette, do you have a wedding planner or coordinator to help you with the details of the wedding?
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  • Shannon
    Savvy November 2019
    Shannon ·
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    Finding a venue for this coming fall in the northern VA/DC area 🤪 6 months planning here, am I nuts?
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  • Korynn
    Dedicated November 2020
    Korynn ·
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    The most stressful thing to date? The cruise-line cancelling the booking that housed our on-board ceremony and seventy sailing guests. Presently? Trying to get it through my FSIL's thick skull that no, we will not invite their father to our wedding. FH hates his father due to circumstances best left unsaid, and she just doesn't get it.

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  • M
    Dedicated June 2019
    Mia ·
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    Making sure I can fit in my dress and breath in it! I had my first fitting and my dress was zippable but tight as heck! I also had a small gut. Searching for a good undergarment to take care of my bump.

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  • Caitlin
    Dedicated October 2020
    Caitlin ·
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    Goodness, the stress is real. For me, it's that we've been engaged since September and still want to aim for a wedding before 2019 ends, but we've yet to do anything. I JUST got my fiance past the stage of arguing with me about needing to keep things as inexpensive as we can manage where possible (we discussed this a year ago and he KNOWS I have zero desire to spend oodles of money on a wedding). We're finally seeing a venue on Wednesday and I'm remaining hopeful that it's nice. We want a wedding on a boat and I found a yacht that seems to have very nice staff who are willing to work with couples who want to keep things budget-friendly. Fingers crossed we get good news out of this, because I'm rapidly realizing searching for venues and trying to line things up is not my forte.

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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    I'm doing the same thing. They're gorgeous and also double as an extra gift for bridesmaids and my bouquet is a keepsake for me!

    What's stressing you out? 1
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  • Arkilia
    Super November 2021
    Arkilia ·
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    Finding a freakin caterer, I'm about to pull my hair out... I am so picky and still haven't found what I want. Ugh
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  • Wssfklcaaxc
    Savvy December 2019
    Wssfklcaaxc ·
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    I got stressed when I read this myself. This is one of my biggest fears as well. People don't keep their committment most times. I hope the meeting go well
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  • Alyssa
    Super September 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    Oh yikes! That sounds stressful. I am so sorry, but I am sure your wedding will be beautiful none the less.

    My biggest stress right now is all the little things that are adding up.

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  • C
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Christina ·
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    Everyone having a negative opinion but not wanting to help pay

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  • K
    Savvy May 2021
    KatieBugg247 ·
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    My FH parents have filed for a divorce and his mom has made it a situation where we have to choose which of his parents get invited to the wedding. (There is a civil protection order involved) To me it just seems like his mom is being nasty and doing whatever she can to hurt his dad so we have chose to invite his dad and his dads family and friends which consist of like four maybe five people. Looking at our guest list you would think that I was being selfish and making it all about me despite me cutting family members out that I am not close to or never see.

    His parents, mainly his mom is stressing me out because this whole divorce situation could be handled differently and in a more civil way so we do not have to pick sides for our wedding.

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  • C
    Savvy January 2020
    Catalina ·
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    Oh gosh I couldn't imagine that Smiley surprise

    Nothing too stressful right now. I just booked my engagement photo session and im nervous for those because i dont like having my picture taken usually but im sure once it gets closer to my date i ll be stressing a little hah

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  • Brooke
    Dedicated October 2020
    Brooke ·
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    Saving all the money we need is stressing me out! I'm always ready stressed about money, but this wedding is making it 10x worse! We'll get a little help from my family, but I don't see us getting help from FH family because they have so many young kids and already have a hard time with money. I'm FREAKING out. A year and a half to go still........ Sorry about your venue, that's really shady! And very crappy! I hope everything works out.
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  • Rebekah
    Savvy September 2019
    Rebekah ·
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    Ohhh I’m sorry about that!! I hope it gets sorted out with an even better solution!
    im stressing about out of town guests accommodations lol
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  • Lucy
    Just Said Yes January 2020
    Lucy ·
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    Hi! I would feel super stressed like you! I hope you find a place!!
    What is stressing me out is my wedding dress. We have a low budget and I really don’t want to spend on a dress that I’m only going to wear once... so I’m stuck between looking online or actually go to a bridal shop which I know it will be very difficult to find an affordable pretty dress...
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    Dedicated August 2019
    Shameeka ·
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    I thought I was the only one stressing out about flowers and the cost. I was wondering if I was the only one. I've had maybe 2 minor anxiety attacks...

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  • S
    Dedicated August 2019
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    MIa.. drinking water with Lemons helped a lot with my small gut. With a schedule like mines I have no time for the gym. It worked also.

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