What to say in a "sorry, you're not invited anymore" announcement?

Eek I don't how that will go over. Usually when you send an STD, that let's the person know they are invited and to keep that future date open.

is there no way you can still invite these people?? If it is now a Destination wedding, you could just tell them that. Not sure. I live near Disney but I realize many people on here are from all over the US. Maybe even the world.

Good luck with this. Wish I had some advice.

Hm if you want to still extend the DW offer to them, go for it. Tell them that you're sorry for the inconvenience but you and FH have decided to make a change to the wedding. You're making it a destination wedding to Orlando, FL. You would love to see them and hope they can make it. However if you're thinking of not having these people come, that might be a tougher pill to swallow... IDK, I cant think of a way this will come out with coming across as "never mind please dont come". lol

Honestly, I think it's in really bad taste to cut your guest list after sending your STD's out already. I understand you wanted a Disney wedding but I think many will be hurt when they find out you cut them because you changed your mind on the venue. You should have settled on a venue and a budget/guestlist BEFORE sending the STD's out.

Is there a reason why you have to cut it? If I received a STD and then was uninvited for any reason other than a cancelled wedding, I would be hurt.

Can you do a reception at home with those guests instead? at least that way it wouldn't be "you're not invited anymore" just an inviation to a different celebration.. has your date changed at all? can you have the Disney Wedding before the date you sent to everyone?

One potential snag in this is that most Disney Weddings have a limit to the number of guests you can have without the price exponentially increasing. Depending on the number guests you can have come compared to your guest list, you may want to consider a reception of some sort where you live for those not venturing to Orlando.

I agree with Mrs. Clark. I would be hurt if I received a STD and then was uninvited to the wedding.

I think you should try to have something here for those guests that arent invited. Just send notice that plans have changed, you'll be married at WDW and then still having a reception at this time, date. It can be scaled down, but you should do something for them.

It's nice that you and FH want to get married at Disney World, but It's not in good taste to rescind a STD which implied they were already invited. I agree with the other ladies to host a reception in your home town or maybe just getting married on your original date in your home town and take a nice honeymoon at Disney World, maybe a vow renewal in a couple of years, they aren't that expensive compared to their other wedding packages. I'd be extremely mad if i was invited to a wedding only to find out i was no longer invited because the couple "changed their mind" I have to agree it's in quite bad taste. I'm sorry for bluntness and i feel where you are coming from because this very same idea crossed my mind many times.

When we changed our date the STD's had already gone out a few months before. I designed a postcard on VP with a little poem stating that we were "Changing the Date" and included a little treat of beach themed soaps,purchased on Etsy, tied in a bag with a starfish charm. Now you don't have to go that far but you could come up with some sort of wording stating that we have had a "Change of Plans", maybe including that this is your dream or whatever reason in a nutshell. I agree with some of the other brides that maybe an informal at home reception for those close to you that may want to celebrate. Even if its just a potluck and you share pictures.

Our limit is 18 guests for the wedding we're planning and we were only inviting about 60 to begin with (including children). Between both our families we have maybe 13 guests accounted for if all of those people decide to come (but 9 for sure). How would I word that we would still like it for guests to attend if they can make the trip, but that space is limited? Granted, I don't expect that any of my other guests would actually make the trip at all, but just to be polite? I don't want to extend the invite to everyone and by some miracle everyone show up!

Can you invite them for a small BBQ or something after the wedding? Like a laid back reception? Nothing too big, so that you don't spend a bunch of extra money on it, but at least a little something to let those people know that you're thinking of them and want them to celebrate with you.

I agree, have some sort of BBQ or something in place of the wedding. I think since you invited everyone, you kind of have to follow through with that. I see STDs as an invitation.

I wouldn't invite anyone except for those that you EXPECT to be there... for all others, again, I recommend just doing a small reception when you get home.. like Future Mrs X said..

I agree, that is a great idea! I talked to my uncle (who LOVES throwing parties) and he agreed (to put it mildly) to let us have a big cookout at his house after the honeymoon. Wonderful idea, ladies! Thanks so much!

Also, what do you think of this wording that was suggested (it was also suggested to avoid the topic of the new venue at all costs):

Due to a change of plans, we will no longer be celebrating our marriage on ORIGINAL DATE in ORIGINAL TOWN. Instead, we will be having an intimate ceremony elsewhere, and we would love to celebrate with everyone on MONTH DATE in NC TOWN after the wedding. Please mark your calendar to help us ring in our newly wedded bliss- we can't wait to see you! Love, BRIDE & GROOM.

Send them a new STD saying. FH and I have moved our ceremony to Disney land and instead would like you to keep ___ date open to have a celebration with us following the ceremony. Sorry for the invonvenience.

Your destination has changed and the wedding will now be held at Disney World. But do not "univite" them. Give them the opportunity to decide if they want to still come. Honestly a trip is still going to cost a plane ticket and hotel if they were going to travel in the first place.

I have to agree that it's not just bad taste, but it's very hurtful and rude. I really hate saying that because (from the other instances that you have been on the forums) I would never think to say that you were a rude person, infact you seem very nice. The issue is that it's not so much about inconveniece, but these are family and friends that you are really going to hurt. I can definitely understand wanting to get married at Disney World, I think all of us would love too, so I would offer these suggestions. My top suggestion would be to contiinue with the ceremony and reception you had originally planned and on your 1 year anniversary do a vow renewal and vacation at Disney World. Or you could do a double weeding (why not, celebrities do.) Have the big original wedding then run off to Disney World and have a second ceremony just the 2 of you or include any family members that would be able to come. Last option would be to call or send a person note to everyone that CONTINUED

Due to space we are having a BBQ at home after the wedding

is there anyway you can change your date to a few days before what the std card said? and still have a BBQ or something on the date your std card said

I also really like how MRS smith worded it