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Rebecca
Dedicated October 2009

What time should the wedding start? HELP PLEASE

Rebecca, on July 7, 2009 at 11:47 AM Posted in Planning 0 20

My mother and I keep going back and forth over what time the wedding should start. Our reception starts at 8pm (guest can arrive at 7:45) and is about 20 mins away from the church we will be married at. I think the wedding should start at 6:30 since the actual ceremony will only take about 20-25mins. We are doing a receiving line afterwards but I can't imagine that taking too long. She thinks the wedding should start at 6, that way we won't have to rush through the receiving line and pictures afterwards. The problem is I don't want the guests waiting around with nothing to do until the reception starts. Any suggestions or advice?

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Latest activity by meagan2797, on July 25, 2009 at 5:35 PM
  • J
    Savvy November 2010
    jenjen09 ·
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    My friend had a wedding at 3 and reception at five it was 20 minutes away!and it just seemed to rushy.maybe some quest would like to chill out for a couple hours.

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  • jpeterson
    Devoted July 2009
    jpeterson ·
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    Most people do "happy hour" for their guests while they are waiting for you to be done with pictures... if that is not an option, I would suggest doing pics before the wedding so that you can go straight to the reception after the receiving line...

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  • sugarpie212
    Just Said Yes November 2009
    sugarpie212 ·
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    Definitely go with your moms advice. The pictures will take longer than you think... guests expect to wait for the arrival of the bride and groom for a while. It's not rude and is perfectly ok. It's your day and you don't want to be rushed. Chances are you'll be late to the rehearsal anyway.

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  • Janice Trowbridge
    Janice Trowbridge ·
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    Are you taking any pictures before the wedding? If not, you probably will not have enough time for the receiving line and pictures before the reception. Receiving lines take much more time than brides think they will and you should give your photographer at least 30 minutes after the ceremony. Normally the reception site will have a cocktail hour to give the couple time for photography. If your wedding starts at 6:00 pm, your timeline will look like this:

    6:00 wedding

    6:30 receiving line

    7:00 photography

    7:30 leave for reception

    That would would have your guests arriving at the reception site at between 7:00 and 7:30. If there is a cocktail hour from 7:00 to 8:00, that will work out perfectly. There isn't much time for photography but it is doable if you take some photos before the wedding such as you alone, you with your bridesmaids, you with your immediate family. Then have your groom do his pictures alone, with his guys, and him with his family.

    I hope that helps Smiley smile

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  • M.J
    Devoted August 2009
    M.J ·
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    Yes... Go with your mom's advice!

    It was just my cousin's wedding a couple of weeks ago (I was a bridesmaid) The church and reception were just like 20 mins away also... She had her ceremony at 430 and the reception started at 7. Time went by sooo fast! We didn't leave the church until 645! All the pictures seemed really rushed! and the guest had to wait for like 30-45 mins longer!

    Time flys and you don't want grumpy guests!

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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated October 2009
    Rebecca ·
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    No we are not taking pictures before the wedding. The guests will have cocktails and hors d'oeuvres until we are announced. I think they are planning to announce us at 8:30.

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  • wonderful moment
    Master March 2010
    wonderful moment ·
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    I think 6:30 is good. That way the guest would have sometime to mangle but not to much were people get board.

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  • L
    VIP August 2009
    lauren10 ·
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    I think Janice's timeline looks perfect. How many guests do you have? they told me about 20-25mins per 100 people for the receiving line.

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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated October 2009
    Rebecca ·
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    I agree, I like that timeline. But the problem is we don't have the reception venue until 8, so it leaves me back to thinking what will the guests do? We tried to get the reception venue at 7 but someone is having a gala there and has rented out the entire place until 6. So 8 is the earliest we can start the reception.

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  • Riyukku
    Super April 2012
    Riyukku ·
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    The post on reception timeline may also help you make a decision. I found it very helpful

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  • L
    VIP August 2009
    lauren10 ·
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    It won't really be a whole lot of time for them to have nothing to do though...after the ceremony they might stop off at a store, or for gas or have a smoke...take their time getting to the place. If the ceremony is at 6, they probably won't get out of the church parking lot until 7ish...then a 20 minute drive, and they can get in to the reception at 7:45...perfect. If they know the reception is at 8, they'll figure out what to do, don't worry!

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  • Nicoler030
    Devoted October 2018
    Nicoler030 ·
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    I think you should go with your moms advice... You dont want to feel pressed for time..guest really dont mind waiting cause they are mingling with other guest and before you know it you guys will be there

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    Master June 2010
    wowjunkie ·
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    Definitely space it out more. If you're worried about having too much time in between put on your invitations that the reception starts at 8, so everyone will know what time they have to be there by.

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    Just Said Yes August 2009
    fabulous ·
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    Eh, don't rush it. Take your time!

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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated October 2009
    Rebecca ·
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    Thanks everyone I really appreciate the advice Smiley smile

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  • lscott
    Savvy June 2009
    lscott ·
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    If you are looking for a wedding planner

    http://www.latoyagaskinsweddings.com

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  • Michelle McKee
    Michelle McKee ·
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    One thing to add...many guests have a tendancy to hang out while the photographer is taking picturesSmiley smile.

    If you're not taking pictures before the wedding, a half hour is going to be rushed. Have you talked about this with your photographer?

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
    Master August 2010
    FMS, the barefoot wife! ·
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    I would ask your photographer how long he/she thinks/would like the after ceremony photos will be, I think the norm is about 2 hours, more if you have a lrager bridal party and family and are travelling to various places to get pictures. I would like 3 pm ceremony start time, that way we can allow for delays and still have enough time for photos, travel around mte area for more photos, and get to the reception Supper is at 6 Cocktails start at 5

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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated October 2009
    Rebecca ·
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    Yeah we talked with the photographer and we decided to go with the 6 pm start time, especially because we do have a big wedding party Smiley smile

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  • meagan2797
    Dedicated August 2009
    meagan2797 ·
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    I think your time is fine, because all the wedding party will stay after for pictures and stuff but your guests can go directly onto the reception to start the party you can have appetizers waiting until you all arrive, thats what im doing.

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