what is the difference between cold feet and being nervous?

Are you nervous about the wedding, or about the marriage? And if it is the marriage, what are the reasons for your nervousness?

I second Brian, when I hear "cold feet" I usually think of someone who is second-guessing or unsure of actually getting married. Nervous is just the excitement/anxiety/stress of the actual event. I have no doubts/worries/concerns about getting married to FH, however, I am totally nervous about the big day because I am not one for attention. There's a big difference to me.

Cold Feet= Second guessing whether or not you should get married. I know that I am nervous and sometimes flat out aggrivated about the whole planning BS. There are days that I don't want to go through with the whole shtick. However, I know that for the rest of my life I want to be with my FH and I will do whatever it takes for that to happen.

I had cold feet, because I was married before and it didn't work out.

If you're worried about marriage in general (it's a huge step), then I think that's a healthy form of cold feet. You're making a huge commitment, go in with your eyes wide open!

However, if you're having doubts about your fiance, then it's cause for concern. I don't mean "He wears stupid socks, and sleeps with them on, blerg," sorts of doubts. I mean doubts about his character, your compatibility, the respect and health of your relationship, etc.

I think cold feet are a good thing, actually!

I'm with Shannon, being nervous and "cold feet" about marriage just means you take the commitment seriously. having 2nd thoughts about the person you are marrying - big red flag.

If you take marriage seriously, I think anyone is nervous and just a little scared about the major commitment they are going to make. However, the trust and love that your FH is THE guy will outweigh any nervous feelings you have

I agree with everyone above

Cold feet usually means you are having second thoughts about getting married.

Being nervous means you are not second guessing anything but you might be afraid of something.

Ex: I have yet to experience cold feet but I am nervous in regards to to walking down the isle for fear of tripping or crying so much that I can't see where I am walking and also hoping that everyone (guests) are on their best behaviors and no fights break out from stupid drunkenness.

As far as the actual marriage aspect of it all I have not experience nervousness or cold feet at all but it is a huge step in life to commit to another person that is not taken lightly so to me I would think it is normal to feel some degree of nervousness or cold feet

His Angel, you must be reading my mind. That is exactly what I wanted to say.

Thanks for the responses ladies! The reason I asked this question is that I stated to a friend of mine that I was nervous about the wedding (make sure it goes well) and also nervous about the marriage (will I be a good wife) sort of thing. SHe said that I was getting "cold feet". I love my FH with all my heart and he does with me. There is no doubt about that! Im just nervous about the whole deal! Shannon..it IS a huge step in everyones lives and it just blows my mind that Im actually gonna do this thing!

Thanx Brian C., I was about to say that I have no idea, lol.

Now that I know the difference I can say that I experienced the nerves mostly. I think with every big decision in life, cold feet is a given.

I thought cold feet ment you need socks or to turn up the heat? Just kidding, I agree with Shannon and Sharon or in this case S-squared