what do you give for weddings? cash or gift?

Chicago suburbs (although I currently live north of Milwaukee, WI) . I give a gift for the shower and check for the wedding.

NJ cash always.

Cash always. NJ

NYC - always give cash/check for weddings

actual gifts at showers.

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I think for me it really depends on the couple. If I really know the person and know they have been living together for some time I usually give cash. On the other end, if it isn't someone I know very well I usually just shop off the registry.

I'm from Alabama & I have seen a mixture of both. I will have a gift table at my reception and also a fun cake in the face jar that goes to our "honeymoon fund"

I typically send a big gift before the wedding to their home and then bring a thoughtful card to the wedding. For very close friends, I do the above in addition to another small personal gift on their wedding day.

I see more cards than gifts at weddings I've been to but there are still quite a few gifts at the table. Wisconsin.

SoCal- I feel like it's 50/50. My family is originally from the south so maybe that's why they like registry gifts. However, FH is Filipino & most of his friends are Vietnamese & they do strictly cash. But I feel like every wedding I've been to regardless has a table of gifts as well as a fairly full card box.

I grew up in Florida, but now live in Pennsylvania. I prefer to give gifts from registries, but will give cash if 1. They don't have a registry, 2. Everything on the registry is way outside of my "poor starving graduate student" budget, or 3. I wait until way too late to get a physical gift.

I live in Texas. If I'm not attending the wedding, I'll send a gift off the registry. When I was a poor college student and didn't want to give the couple $30 cash, I'd purchase off the registry. Now, I just give cash.

Rhode Island : bridal shower you have a registry and you get gifts, wedding is cash only. Such an inconvenience to get someone to lug gifts wherever when the couple is leaving for their honeymoon. Just a hassle and doesn't look neat and nice like cards do

You give enough to cover your plate plus whatever you can as a gift, its to help pay for the wedding essentially

SouthernBeauty, say it isn't so!

Caitlin, how do you know how much your plate costs? My dad (a wonderful and generous host) used to say "You wanna make a wedding and want me to pay for it???"

I'll buy something from the registery for the shower and then also get a card and put some cash in it for the weddind.

For the wedding, I give cash unless I see something on the registry I really like. For shower, give something on registry

Tennessee- I have seen both.. At the shower it's always a gift though.

In Maryland I give cash for wedding, gift for shower. I was under the impression it is rude to bring a gift to the wedding and have the bride and groom worry about it. If you want to do a gift instead, you are to mail it to their home.

Northern VA: Most of my guests were from out of town but it was about 50/50.

Northeast (Philly area) - always cash/check for wedding. Some people might give small but meaningful gifts as well, but generally it's 95% cash/check. Physical gifts are usually given at the bridal shower. It's been this way for as long as I can remember.

Gift if out of town and gift card if in town