what do you give for weddings? cash or gift?

South Carolina- I typically give a gift.

Upstate NY - Cash

Ontario, Canada-Cash for the wedding present. Registry item for a shower. If I'm super close to the person I like to include a small personalized item I know they will treasure in addition to the cash.

If I come to the wedding I definitely bring a gift. If I can't make it I would rather send a gift from their registry, but if they aren't registered I would send a check.

Southern NJ and cash

NJ - Physical gift from registry at the bridal shower and cash the night of the wedding

NYC

Monetary gift only (cash or check. No gift cards)

Physical gifts are for bridal showers.

KC- almost always go with a physical gift. Normally we know them well enough to buy them something we know is their style. I like to buy personalized things. But if we don't, we will give something from their registry. I've given money to honeyfunds. I've given cash a couple of times, but usually it's an actual gift.

From New England, now in DC. Cash for wedding, gift for shower.

Los Angeles-always cash

Boxed gift, sent to the bride's home several weeks before the wedding. California.

@Casssandra7- where do you live?

Date twin!! I'm from Texas, and I've always given a physical gift. I order online and have it sent to the couple.

Boston- cash

Seriously, I feel like there are so few of us physical gift givers! I was raised you give linens, towels, any "disposable" items for a shower, and then give items that supposedly the couple will keep FOREVER for a wedding present (silver, china, crystal), and all off their registry so you know its something they need/want. I wouldn't have thought to give money/cash/check anymore than I would at a birthday party. Apparently I am the extreme minority.

ETZ: mobile screwed up my typing

Northeast- a physical gift for the shower and cash for the wedding.

I live in Colorado, but most of the weddings I've been to have been at "home" in downstate Illinois. I usually send a gift off the registry prior to the wedding, but I was relieved to find out on WW that cash is acceptable. Certainly makes the shopping easier. We're going to try the small-registry-in-the-hopes-people-will-give-cash - I'm interested to see what my guests do!

@rusty I assumed the same thing. In my family we always give gifts. I am from CT, but my mom was raised in the South. There was always this idea that giving cash is tacky in some way. I give a gift from the registry or a thoughtful gift. Cash would be a last resort.

At this point, though, I would rather receive cash than stuff.

Typically it's been my experience that people give physical gifts for the shower and cards with money for the wedding (from NJ originally, now Maryland....most of the weddings I've been to have been in NJ and NY)

Virginia: giving cash is often seen as impersonal or thoughtless. The idea behind selecting a physical gift is that you put time into your choice, although choosing from a registry the couple has created kind of negates that a little.