what do you give for weddings? cash or gift?

NYC: Cash.. if I brought a gift

to a wedding I would definitely get a side eye from people.

@CarrieLynn yay date twins! Are you freaking out yet? I am! Also, where are you located? I am curious if region of the country has influence on our preference for physical gift giving.

I'm from Oregon, every wedding that I've been to had presents brought to the reception. Most people FHs family tend to give both gifts and cash.

Iowa, cash is most common here. Though there are usually a handful of gifts on the table.

New York- Gifts for shower and cash for the wedding.

I should also say, I would like cash of course. I was just raised that you don't do that so I don't think my family and friends at the wedding will do that for me and I am CERTAINLY not asking for cash in any form. We did a small registry but we also have a fairly small wedding.

Maui, HI - cash! Never been to a wedding that had physical gifts

I always give a gift. I don't actually bring it to the wedding. I have it shipped to their house around the time of the wedding. I'm in Northern CA and we got a little bit more cash gifts than physical. We got a lot of physical gifts too though. I actually got mostly cash at my shower. I think it came down to what was easiest for my family. It was a small shower with all family.

I have always purchased something off the registry and had it automatically sent to them. Isn't that the point of a registry?? I know some people gave cash, but I always assumed most people bought off the registry. (Southern California)

Chicago- cash at the wedding, gifts at showers. Sometimes, rarely, gifts at weddings too.

NYC- I always give a gift, but everyone else I know gives money.

I try to buy items off the registry -I'm in Alabama

If they have a registry, I buy something off the registry and send it to their house ahead of time (or whatever address they chose). If no registry, cash and card. I haven't taken a physical gift to a wedding in years (most people don't even have tables for that anymore from what I've seen).

- Southern California (but i'm also including a few southern and north east weddings in this)

I would never, ever give cash. Never. Just couldn't, although I see all the reasons why it's useful, etc. I'm with you, RustytheDog--linens, china, silver (I once gave a silver teaspoon--all I could afford, but I had it engraved), crystal, towels, cutlery, thank God for registries--all very old-fashioned, I know. And I still treasure a number of our wedding presents after 34 years.

And I send the gift to the bride's home; I don't bring it to the wedding for the newly-weds to have to transport home from their venue.

Follow Ms. Manners, and err on the side of caution.

NYC and cash always for weddings. Actual gifts at showers.

I.ve been in and to weddings all over the country. I currently live in Arizona and grew up mostly in California. I always check the registries first. If I have a difficult time, I will usually end up either doing a gift card to a place on their registry, or give them cash they can use for their honeymoon. I also have done the knot registry and given the happy couple money under their name. I'll give them a card with the information that I gave them $ on the knot and to enjoy.

From relatively rural south: I give a physical gift unless either I know the couple is moving or already living together then I give cash or a gift card

Rhode Island.

Gift off the registry for the shower. Cash gift at the wedding.

Hmmm I'm from VA and it depends on the couple. I try to get stuff off the registry though.

SE Michigan and very Italian (and now Polish) roots.

I give a gift off the registry for shower and cashimoto for the wedding OR

depending on the relationship, I may get something off the registry or my little head like the entire set of china or Kitchenaid and that is shower and wedding.