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Master October 2011

What are your top/bottom 5 wedding priorities?

Nik_McAwesomepants, on December 6, 2010 at 11:25 AM Posted in Planning 1 55

When I first started planning I got this book on how to have a wedding for $5k (our budget is $10k so I figured I would save double lol, not so much...). One of the first things the book had me do was list the 5 things that are most important to me for my wedding. This helped me put certain things in perspective and not concentrate so much on how much things cost, but how much it was worth to me. I threw in the bottom 5 just for fun :-)

Here's my top 5

1- Food & Alcohol!!

2- DJ

3- Pictures

4- Location(s) with character (no hotel ballrooms)

5- Decor

Bottom 5

1- Flowers

2- Cake

3- Invitations (they're just gonna throw them away anyway)

4- Favors (MOH and I are still going back and forth over this)

5- Videography (if we can afford it, great. If not, I really don't care that much)

What about you ladies? You'll be surprised how much perspective this simple list gives Smiley smile


Latest activity by Nik_McAwesomepants, on December 7, 2010 at 10:51 AM
  • CherylR
    Super March 2011
    CherylR ·
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    Top Five

    1. Photographer and videographer

    2. Food

    3. Venue

    4. DJ

    5. Attire (Dress and Tux)

    Bottom Five

    1. Limos (in the top 5 on FS list lol)

    2. Flowers

    3. Invitations

    4. Favors (doing a donation)

    5. Alcohol (luckily the venue comes with open bar because I could care less lol)

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  • Nik_McAwesomepants
    Master October 2011
    Nik_McAwesomepants ·
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    Lol luck you on the bar! I doubt my FH even has a top or bottom 5 lol, I don't think he thinks about it that much :-P

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  • MrsD2011
    Master October 2011
    MrsD2011 ·
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    Good question:

    I haven't thought much about it ...

    1) Location (it had to be a catholic church and I wanted the reception to be held somewhere where people didn't have to drive)

    2)Date (it had to be in October or November)

    3) Food

    4) Alcohol

    5) Photography/Videography

    Bottom Five

    1) my dress (I could care less and really don't feel it is necessary to spend more than 500 on a dress I'm going to wear once and then for a lifetime it'll sit in the back of my closet)

    2) Flowers (really they are far to expensive, so I plan to just do bouquets and boutonnaires, I'm going to DIY the mum planters (using fake flowers)

    3) Invitations (I'm trying to convince my Mom to just let me DIY, because yeah they're gonna be tossed)


    5) A hotel suite for the night (luckily our pkg comes with one, so I didn't have to worry about it)

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  • Sheila
    Master May 2011
    Sheila ·
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    TOP 5



    outside location


    under 3000

    BOTTOM 5






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  • poppyaka
    Devoted June 2011
    poppyaka ·
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    Here's my top 5

    1- Venue Mansion (Ceremony/Recption)

    2- Wedding Planner

    3- Caterering Vendor

    4- Photography Vendor

    5- Videographer Vendor

    Bottom 5

    1- Invitation Vendor

    2- Florist/Rental Decor Vendor

    3- Cake Vendor

    4- DJ Vendor

    5- Favors

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  • Destiny
    Super July 2012
    Destiny ·
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    My top 5 are;

    1.Venue for wedding/reception

    2. Food and Drinks(alcohol included) alsol includes the guest list with this as well

    3.Dj//music services


    5. Flowers/Decor

    Bottom 5 are;

    1. Invitations

    2.Favors(not sure if I'm doing them or not)

    3.Limo(may not be needed, but definitely not important)

    4.Officiant(my grandfather is a pastor, so that's already covered)

    5.Wedding cake(could be simple for all I care, as long as it tastes good lol)

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  • Nik_McAwesomepants
    Master October 2011
    Nik_McAwesomepants ·
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    Seems like none of us are big on the invites lol

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  • Meghan
    Master August 2011
    Meghan ·
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    Top 5:

    1. Intimate Setting- So Venue

    2. Food

    3. Attire- for my, FH and our kiddos

    4. It's personal to US

    5. I want a red velvet, gluten free cake, DAMN IT!

    Bottom 5:

    1. Alcohol

    2. DJ (I've got the music covered, since it's so small)

    3. Limo

    4. Flowers- I want pretty, but I don't care about details

    5. Linens- really, why do we stress over tablecloths?

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  • Justine
    Expert August 2011
    Justine ·
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    Top 5:

    1. Venue

    2. Photographer

    3. Alcohol

    4. DJ

    5. Officiant

    Bottom 5:

    1. Flowers

    2. Linens

    3. Limo

    4. Food

    5. Favors

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  • Katterina
    VIP June 2011
    Katterina ·
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    Oorah, I think we must be kindred spirits, because you and I have the same top & bottom 5's!!

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  • Nik_McAwesomepants
    Master October 2011
    Nik_McAwesomepants ·
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  • wonderful moment
    Master March 2010
    wonderful moment ·
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    Top five:

    1) venue (one location)

    2) open bar

    3) lighting/ decor chair covers

    4) harpist

    5) lots of food


    1) flowers

    2) invitations



    5)wedding box card

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  • *Makin' Plans*
    Super March 2011
    *Makin' Plans* ·
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    My Top Five:

    1) Venue

    2) Photographer

    3) Dress/Shoes

    4) Favors

    5) Budget ( I know - it should be more of a priority...)

    My Bottom Five:

    1) Cake (we're doing cupcakes) Smiley smile

    2) Cake Topper

    3) Bridesmaids Dresses

    4) Food

    5) Invitations

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  • Meagan
    Devoted June 2011
    Meagan ·
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    My Top Five

    1) Venue- I needed to have an outside ceremony and an inside reception

    2) Dress, Bridesmaid dresses-finding my purple was crazy!

    3) Cake

    4) Favors

    5) Photographer

    My Bottom Five

    1) Alcohol-to be honest not a big priority

    2) Linens-Its gunna be white and part of my package

    3) Videographer-Cause really my friend can tape it

    4) Flowers-aunt is going to do them, not really worried

    5) Invitations-Vistprint takes away all of the worry

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  • Sharon
    Master June 2010
    Sharon ·
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    This list would have been very different before I got married, just an FYI Smiley smile The dress would've been in the top five. looking back I can see what was really important to spend the most of our budget on.

    1. photographer

    2. food/alcohol

    3. venue

    4. DJ

    5. Videographer

    bottom 5.

    1. favors (we didn't have any)

    2. invites

    3. linens

    4. dress/outifits

    5. Flower girl/ring bearer/Bridal Party (only had a MOH & BM)

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    VIP June 2011
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    Top Five

    1. Dress

    2. Venue

    3. Food/Alcohol

    4. BM Dresses

    5. Photographer

    Bottom Five



    3. Card Box

    4. Cake

    5. Linens

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  • S
    Expert April 2011
    Stefanie ·
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    My top 5

    1- Venue - One wedding at a time only!

    2- Food!!!!!

    3- Church!

    4- DJ

    5- Photographer

    Bottom 5

    1- Cake

    2- Invitations

    3- Favors

    4- Linens

    5- Limos

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  • Susy
    VIP September 2011
    Susy ·
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    I really had to think about this


    1 Venue - has to be my church, and receptin where It can be outside and in (no cookie cutter)

    2 - Food - my heart is set on a clam bake

    3 - Attire - I really want to wear a Blue gown and i really want my fh in light grey.

    4 - Date - I travel for work so want a time I know I will be home for my anniversary

    5 - Photos - We want lots, of pics and lots of options


    1 - Cake - we are doing grocery store bought

    2 - Limo - we are only getting one because my boss thinks we need one and is paying

    3 - Favors - I don't even want them but my aunt is buying them so we will give them out

    4 - Flowers - I want some simple lillies for the bouquets but that's it really. Again my aunt and mom think i need more so they are buying more.

    5 - Center pieces - I want nice ones and I want a wine theme but what they are is minor to me.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    Here's my top 5

    1- Having a Jewish ceremony (we are among the few people we know who paid more for the ceremony--counting things like chuppah, ketubah, glass for breaking, as well as rabbi and synagogue--than we did for the reception)

    2- Food (we didn't need it to be high end, but did need it to be plentiful and tasty)

    3- Music (one of our first decisions was having a talented professional musician we knew as our reception musician)

    4- Location for at-home reception our friends could get to easily

    5- Reception decor (to make our low-end reception venue look elegant)

    Bottom 5

    1- Flowers (we had only bouquets, bout, and some freeze-dried rose petals; everything else was nonfloral)

    2- Alcohol (we ended up with an open bar only because our venue gave it to us for $250 for 60 people for five hours)

    3- Pictures (we found a low-cost photographer for the ceremony only, and relied on our photo sharing site for everything else)

    4- Favors (skipped altogether)

    5- Limo (skipped altogether)

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  • Genevieve
    VIP February 2011
    Genevieve ·
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    Top 5:

    1. FH

    2. Having my parents & very close friends there

    3. Keeping it small / Budget

    4. Cake

    5. Ring

    Bottom 5:

    Flowers (I didn't care, fortunately my mom found cheap & nice)

    Dress (also didn't care, fortunately a friend gave me one)

    Favors (not having any)

    Decorations (was given a few, but venue comes decorated)

    Stationery (I didn't have STDs or Invites, just email)

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