A.B.
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What are You Skipping? (20/21 Edition)

A.B., on March 9, 2020 at 10:03 PM Posted in Planning 2 20
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Hello Everyone,

I know this topic already exists in a of old threads but I'd like to revive the conversation. I'm planning to skip a lot of things in order to save money and to save time on the day of (which saves $$ Smiley winking ). So what are you skipping or reducing and why? Also, anything big that you AREN'T skimping on?

I'll start.

Skipping:

*Garter & Bouquet Toss

*DOC

*Non-cake deserts

*Save the Dates

*Send Off

*Fancy bridal party introductions and jigs walking in (I loved being a bridesmaid but these were super awkward for me!)

*Programs

*Guestbook and favors are up in the air, leaning no on guestbook and maybe on favors

*Receiving line

Reducing:

*Time - Ceremony will be 30 min, reception/cocktail hour 4.5 hours

*Invitations will be paper but RVSP will be by phone/website

*Bar will be beer, wine and nonalcoholic drinks - 4 hour open bar for these beverages though. Last call a half hour before we pack-up.

*Flowers - will be minimal bouquets (maybe sola) with a few blooms each and greenery or all greenery

*Decor - center pieces will be greenery, candles and table numbers. Venue has string lights already - I may add a few. Considering skipping an arch (they're so expensive and renting with logistics is more of a headache then buying and close in cost).

*Signage - I'll have a poster seating chart and maybe a welcome sign. It's the sign stands that are holding me up as they cost so much. I found really great deals for custom signage that could really spruce things up but they need stands and frames! Smiley atonished

*Menu - will only be a small sign that lists the beer and wine options set up at the bar, hopefully to reduce time waiting while the bartender lists the options.

*Cake - going to focus on flavor and just have a plain white tiered cake with an inexpensive topper

*Guest list - mostly family. We each are inviting 3-4 friends (mine are all in the bridal party haha!)

*Toasts - keeping them to a few during dinner and advising our speech givers to keep it short (they'll be grateful for that I think!)

Not skipping/skimping:

*Food - will have a salad and plated meal and if we do a cocktail hour, trays of appetizers.

*Music - will have a DJ going from ceremony through-out the reception (and play some ambient music while he eats of course - not starving the vendors!)

*Photography - I got a good deal but it's still a lot! (second only to food and drinks!)

*We'll have a first dance and a cake cutting where we'll say a brief thank-you.

*Dress - I'm spending nearly $500 on a dress. I know for some that's a steal but for me, it's ridiculously lavish. Still, I really want it.


So what are you all skipping, reducing and going all out on? There's still a few things I'm debating on - would love suggestions. Smiley heart



20 Comments

Latest activity by Dawn, on March 29, 2020 at 9:35 AM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I skipped save the dates. I reduced decor.
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  • Jordan
    Expert March 2021
    Jordan ·
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    We are skipping the money dance, I feel weird asking people for money.

    Thinking about skipping a cookie bar for the end of the night? Unsure on this one.

    We did skip programs, and unsure on wedding favors. (i feel like most people unless its a food item doesn't keep anything they get from weddings) I know the weddings i went to, i didn't want to keep something with someone else name plastered all over it.

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  • Tiffany
    Expert March 2020
    Tiffany ·
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    Skipping DJ, Cake, first looks, wedding video, garter toss/bouquet toss, big send off,fancy transportation to or from venue, bar/alcohol (it's a morning/breakfast wedding 11am ceremomy) , no ring bearer. Reducing reception time 12:30ish to 3 or 3:30ish, photography is 4 hours. Not skimping on food or decor! We have tons of yummy breakfast food including a pancake station and we have so many cute details!
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  • Crystal
    Devoted October 2020
    Crystal ·
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    We made our save the dates Christmas cards to cut cost.


    We are cuttingSmiley tonguearent dances, garter/bouquet toss,Dessert table. Programs, menus, big flowery centerpieces (I almost cut those completely)
    We didn’t skimp in, DJ, it was the one thing my fiancé really really wanted. Wedding invites (we we are using a coupon). I really want to do the shoe game. And I think I’m going to try and sneak some Star Wars surprises for my fh (possibly a grooms cake)
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  • Nicole
    Super August 2020
    Nicole ·
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    Skipping:
    DOC, ring bearer/flower girls, backdrop for our sweetheart table, money dance, favors

    Not skipping/skimpingSmiley tonguehotography/videography, desserts table, dress, photo booth, ceiling drapery, DJ/emcee
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  • Nicole
    Dedicated June 2020
    Nicole ·
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    Skipping: flower girl, ring bearer, dollar dance, favors


    Going all out on: food/cake, dessert bar, my dress
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  • Allie
    Dedicated May 2020
    Allie ·
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    We are skipping:
    Save the Dates
    Ring bearerTraditional flower girl(my niece will be 7 months old and is our honorary FG) VideographyShoes( not skipping but paid like $20 for sandals)
    We are splurging:Venue!!! Definitely pricey but exactly how I pictured my dream wedding so WORTH it!!DJ My cake (5 tier! 😍) and an awesome cake for FH(honestly more excited to see his!! Lol)PhotographyFLOWERSS wow we are dropping some $$ on flowers 😂Gifts for my bridesmaids, really want them to feel special My dress!!! Definitely splurged there but worth it
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  • Madelyn
    Dedicated June 2020
    Madelyn ·
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    Oh goodness, I’m skipping a ton when I think about it 😂. I’m skipping: alcohol, dancing (I know- but our church venue doesn’t allow it), menus, assigned sitting, DOC, programs, wedding party introductions, real flower centerpieces (I couldn’t justify the cost of them!), ring bearer, flower girl, a DJ (again no dancing so then a DJ wouldn’t be worth it...) and favors.
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  • R
    Devoted December 2020
    Rachel ·
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    We are skipping:
    Programs, flower girl/ring bearer, bouquet/garter toss, parent dances and line dances (cha cha slide, etc), favors

    We aren’t skimping out on: food, alcohol, and music (band)
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  • K
    Devoted February 2022
    Kristie ·
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    Skipping: Flower girl, ring bearer, menus, programs, signage and ceremony/reception decor


    Toned down: Bridal party flowers (silk), centerpieces (waterbeads in a vase with submersible lights on a charger - I got them for 50 cents a piece), bar (beer, wine, a signature cocktail and soda) and photography
    All out: Food, music and venue
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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2022
    Jeanette ·
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    Skipping: bouquet/garter toss, save the dates, send off, any first/parent dances, recieving line, favors (but doing welcome bags for hotel), formal intros, possibly a DJ, flower girl, ring bearer, menus, programs...

    We're probably adding a fun "how well do you know the bride/groom?" game since it'll be an intimate wedding. 😊

    Also will be ordering in flowers at local flower market then arranging ourselves. Did it for my brother's wedding and it was fun!
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  • A.B.
    Dedicated November 2021
    A.B. ·
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    So many wonderful responses. I hope everyone has wonderful days at their wedding! NGL, the expense is kind of killing me but I still want to do it. Smiley smile

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  • Kayla
    Devoted May 2020
    Kayla ·
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    Skipping

    Save the dates, Bouquet toss, garter, receiving line, bridal parties, DJ, programs, menus, seating charts, no heavy decor ( simple floral arrangements, selfie station, and dessert table/bar set up. No mail rsvps - online, formal intros

    Still deciding on:

    First look, first dances, fancy exit, cake cutting

    Not Skipping

    My FSIL is a bad ass wedding photographer and is helping us tremendously with photography and additional photographers, Alcohol will be full open bar and food will be Tex Mex (mmmmm), Really want to play the shoe game, flowers we went all out on and I am super excited about! We did order Koozies for favors per a lot of guest request lol (big beer drinking group)

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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    This is always a really interesting conversation. I'm always curious to see how couples are making the day their own Smiley smile

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  • VIP August 2020
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    Skipping:

    *Programs- it's a short ceremony.*Champagne toast- I don't remember liking any champagne from weddings and I do remember hating some, people can toast with whatever they're drinking.*Calligrapher- I've been following a calligraphy blog for years, and now I can use it for our invitations!*Arch- at the end of the aisle, I'll be in a long white dress and my fiancè will be in a tux. People don't need flowers to tell them where to look.*Getting ready photos- it's nice to look at these because it's nice to look at wedding pictures, but if you think about it, it's kind of weird to watch people get dressed in slow motion, which is really what's happening in them.(I don't mean to offend to anyone who did or is doing this.)*Transportation- our ceremony at reception are at the same place, most guests are local, and the hotel block is less than a mile away.
    Does this count?*We're doing a poster instead of escort cards which may/may not save paper and/or money.*Favors=donuts.
    Not skimping:*Photographer*Florist*DJ*Dress/shoes/hair & makeup
    *We have a beautiful venue that includes (and by includes I mean we pay them for) food and all rentals.

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  • VIP August 2020
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    I don't know how to edit. Sorry that looks so awkward^. I swear I pressed enter between each one.
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  • Christina
    Dedicated January 2021
    Christina ·
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    Skipping:
    - garter/bouquet toss
    - bridesmaids and groomsmen (just doing a best man and MOH)- non-cake desserts - speeches/toasts - bar/alcohol (neither my fiance or I drink)- flower girl/ring bearer - fancy transportation - bridal shower- programs- menus- wedding planner (just doing day of coordinator)- save the dates - wedding favors - video-parent dances- receiving line- seating chart
    Not skimping on:Venue, photographer, decorations, food, attire, hair and makeup

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  • Day
    Expert July 2021
    Day ·
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    Skipping:
    Bridesmaids (Instead: 2MOHs and BMs)
    DOC and PlannerSpeechesDJ (Doing a Spotify playlist *crosses fingers*)Fancy TransportationParent Dances? (We’re a lesbian couple and our dads will not be attending... Thanks to all the amazing women who will attend!)MenuExcessive signage (It’s a small place)

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  • Bride
    Savvy March 2021
    Bride ·
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    We are skipping the garter/toss, Bridal Party Dance, DOC, programs/menus.


    Not skimming: Food, Alcohol, Cake

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  • Dawn
    Savvy September 2020
    Dawn ·
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    Skipping: Ring bearer, 2 choices of meat, tux(will purchase suits instead) pricey wedding dress,
    Menu, memory table, real flowers, transportation, save the dates, seating charts/table number.

    Not Skipping: Photographer/Videographer, Dance floor (venue has carpet have to pay for the dance floor)4 tier cake, great food, real plates/silverware, favors( I purchase 2020 Wine glasses, they don't have our name on it) Alcohol (FH said no dry wedding, I only drink wine)

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