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Super September 2017

What about other people's weddings have left a bad impression on you?

Jenny, on April 18, 2017 at 3:36 PM

Posted in Planning 182

As I'm going through the nitty-gritty of wedding planning details in preparation for the perfect day, I found myself wondering what mistakes or oversights my guests will really notice or remember about my wedding. Thinking back on weddings where I was a guest, I was surprised at the things that...

As I'm going through the nitty-gritty of wedding planning details in preparation for the perfect day, I found myself wondering what mistakes or oversights my guests will really notice or remember about my wedding. Thinking back on weddings where I was a guest, I was surprised at the things that stuck with me:

1. The entire wedding was absolutely beautiful and elegant, but the bride looked extremely angry right before she walked down the aisle.

2. The bride felt poorly in her wedding dress during the reception dancing and disappeared for an hour with her bridesmaids. The groom acted like nothing happened and did not check up on her.

3. The wedding party got "lost" on their party bus ride, and dinner was two hours late.

4. When nothing suggested it would be an alcohol free wedding but the couple served bottles of grape juice.

5. When the invitation said 'black tie' and we were the only ones to actually show up in black tie. No one else went beyond country club casual.

182 Comments

  • J
    Super September 2017
    Jenny ·
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    This has been so helpful. I did not fully appreciate the aversion that people had to honey funds. I think I will just skip the registry all together. We don't want more things, and would rather receive nothing or cash.

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  • Veronica
    Devoted March 2017
    Veronica ·
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    At our wedding, my husband's very drunk aunt got someone to tell the DJ on my husband's behalf that he wanted a dance with her, his "godmother" (he didn't and she's not his godmother). Everyone was really confused but no one wanted to make a scene and stop it.

    @Hope Kidnapping a bride during the reception is a German tradition. Traditionally the grooms friends steal the bride and the groom has to then leave to find her. Most likely they are at a bar and when the groom finds them he has to pay the tab. So, the longer it takes to find the bride then the higher the tab. If they were just stealing her to get away and then come back that is really shitty. Also, I wouldn't have left without my husband without a fight.

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  • 2018
    Devoted April 2018
    2018 ·
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    Cold food or not enough food and not enough tables and chairs for people to sit at dinner!

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  • Janae
    Expert May 2018
    Janae ·
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    Invited to a close friends wedding but she "forgot" to mention to people that we had to pay for our own dinner at the restaurant she chose for after her wedding... $44 per person smh

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  • J
    Super September 2017
    Jenny ·
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    @Veronica - once you explained the tradition, that actually sounds like a hell of a lot of fun!

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  • Bemyguest
    Master April 2017
    Bemyguest ·
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    @lex use the search bar

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  • GettingMarriedinMay
    Super May 2017
    GettingMarriedinMay ·
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    1) Outdoor wedding in first wknd of Feb in Dallas. Food was a food truck and we all had to wait outdoors (freezing of course) in Long lines to get food. We, along with a bunch of people, missed their grand entrance because of it. Their reception was also outdoors and was freezing.

    2) Another friend got married in Jan in Dallas about 45 min to an hour away. She got guaranteed room blocks and started asking people to book rooms because she was on the hook for them if we didn't. So we spent another $140 on a hotel when we could have just driven home afterwards since it was less than an hour away.

    3) Same wedding as above...we didn't get a single picture with the bride and groom. She was too busy taking pics with her bridal party and only stopped by a few tables to say hello. She never came by our table.

    4) Ceremony on a golf course where she arrived in a golf cart so who cares about the high heels of the rest of the guests.

    5) Couldn't hear any of the vows as the ceremony was outdoors and right behind the venue was a residential neighborhood so we heard kids in their backyard playing and a helicopter flying overhead. The officiant should have had a microphone so we could have heard SOME of the ceremony.

    6) They hired a shuttle for hotel to venue and back but the last shuttle left at 10 and was home by the time we tried to leave. Luckily another guest who was a mutual friend offered to take us back to the hotel since she was smart and drove to the venue instead of getting a hotel and taking the first shuttle.

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  • M
    Devoted July 2017
    Masada ·
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    Being invited to a wedding, attending said wedding, finding something to do for 3 hours between wedding and reception (FH was groomsman so he was with them taking pictures) finally getting to reception to find that I had no table place card... and awkwardly pulling up a chair at a table of acquaintances. AWKWARD. Not a fan.

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  • RZ_ToBe
    Master July 2018
    RZ_ToBe ·
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    Being obsessed with photos. I get wanting great photos to remember your day, but it's really awkward standing around, randomly being rotated into pictures and not being able to enjoy the party.

    Also, the bride disappearing. Knew one that took off for most of the reception to get photos of just herself. 90% of the photos look like a bad attempt if her modeling and there were only a few photos with other people involved.

    Aka, don't forget your guests and the reception you paid for.

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  • Meagen
    VIP October 2017
    Meagen ·
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    FH's brother's wedding - he was best man, and I wasn't included on the invitation. He had to check and see if I was invited. We'd been living together for several years at this point.

    Then, at the wedding, everyone at the head table was introduced (including dates) except for me. I sat at a different table awkwardly until they all sat down because it didn't feel appropriate to sit at the head table before the bride and groom.

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  • Krystal
    VIP May 2017
    Krystal ·
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    Sweat dripping down my face during an outdoor wedding in August.

    At another wedding the bride & groom took 2 hours getting their photos taken at another location while guests sat in their chairs at the reception tables awkwardly looking at each other with no food or beverages.

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  • Kelly
    Super September 2017
    Kelly ·
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    I was in an outdoor wedding at the beginning of October and it turned out to be 90+ degrees. We were in black dresses with no cover and it was miserable. After pictures we then proceeded to pack a bridal party of 12 into a limo for 10 and drove around farm country for 2 1/2 hours doing absolutely nothing. During the limo ride we stopped at a biker bar so we could all use the restroom and interrupted a leather auction that was going on.

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  • Amanda
    Master January 2017
    Amanda ·
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    Bad food including bad cake, bad DJ/music you can't dance to, long wait from ceremony to reception. I think that's all but I haven't been to a TON of weddings.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated December 2018
    Samantha ·
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    When I was kicked out of the wedding party a month before the wedding so the bride could ask another friend to take my place as a bridesmaid.

    The same wedding was totally outdoors in the middle of July in GA.

    Dry wedding

    Honeyfund

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  • Natalie
    VIP March 2017
    Natalie ·
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    Damn Hope! So much tacky!

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  • A
    Dedicated April 2016
    AdiosNever ·
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    1. Being "invited" to a wedding where my 6yr old daughter was chosen to me the FG (without my knowledge). Her dad (my ex) just said it was ok.

    2.Driving 8 hours with FH to a wedding and having NO clue as to any type of timeline on when and where she needed to be

    3. Arriving at the rehearsal to find her dad (also GM) shit faced wasted who disappears with her and we can't find her.(thank god she knew my phone number)

    4. Rehearsal dinner we had to leave early due to him making her feel bad and cry.

    5. Get to the wedding reception area and see my daughter is at a completely different table then me (dads table) and is sitting there alone (no one else was at the table). Needless to say I quickly moved her to mine and FH table (vendor table with photographer).

    6. The food was not the best and we had to go to McDonalds for her after we left the obnoxiously long reception (7-1am) early.

    Only bright side was we got to visit/see Niagara Falls since that's where the wedding was

    No thank you card. Poor beer and wine choices. Honeyfund. 10+ speeches (some drunk and inappropriate)

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  • Kaitlin
    Super June 2017
    Kaitlin ·
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    @ hope b- That kidnapping story would have been so strange to witness as a guest!

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    Having an outdoor ceremony in the middle of January in the Midwest.

    Seeing expensive floral installations, but I'm drinking my wine in a Dixie cup while eating a sloppy joe.

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  • LuckyAK
    VIP March 2018
    LuckyAK ·
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    No seating chart. I didn't know anyone there aside from my date. We ended up meandering about awkwardly and sitting alone.

    Dollar dance.

    Annoying DJ.

    No vegetarian meal options!!!

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  • J
    Super September 2017
    Jenny ·
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    What is a dollar dance? That just sounds horribly tacky

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