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What about other people's weddings have left a bad impression on you?

Jenny, on April 18, 2017 at 3:36 PM Posted in Planning 0 182
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As I'm going through the nitty-gritty of wedding planning details in preparation for the perfect day, I found myself wondering what mistakes or oversights my guests will really notice or remember about my wedding. Thinking back on weddings where I was a guest, I was surprised at the things that stuck with me:

1. The entire wedding was absolutely beautiful and elegant, but the bride looked extremely angry right before she walked down the aisle.

2. The bride felt poorly in her wedding dress during the reception dancing and disappeared for an hour with her bridesmaids. The groom acted like nothing happened and did not check up on her.

3. The wedding party got "lost" on their party bus ride, and dinner was two hours late.

4. When nothing suggested it would be an alcohol free wedding but the couple served bottles of grape juice.

5. When the invitation said 'black tie' and we were the only ones to actually show up in black tie. No one else went beyond country club casual.

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Latest activity by Ivory, on April 26, 2021 at 11:34 PM
  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
    OGJessieJV ·
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    A gap. Not enough food. Cash bar, or the thought of a cash bar. No thank you card after the wedding.

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  • Mrs.KatieK
    Master September 2016
    Mrs.KatieK ·
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    Having bad food. Not always bad tasting, but bad food choices. Like, a buffet with french toast and biscuits with various toppings for both.

    Brides changing into jeans and tees after the ceremony.

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  • KDoubleU
    VIP October 2017
    KDoubleU ·
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    Dry wedding and a thank you card with a generic printed message on the inside. I was also a BM in a wedding and the MOH only invited the brides instate friends to the shower. We didn't even know she was throwing one and were not able to send a gift in our absence. I felt bad, but I just didn't know it was happening.

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  • Private_User832
    Master August 2017
    Private_User832 ·
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    Not thinking about the weather. As a bride and groom you might love 50 degree weather but most guests don't want to be cold at your outdoor ceremony as an example.

    Being invited as "guest" when I'm engaged

    Generic thank you card that's pre-printed

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  • Jessica
    Super July 2017
    Jessica ·
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    Bad food, long wait time between ceremony and reception, not getting the k you cards, bride's having meltdowns at their own wedding in front of everyone, running out of food.

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  • BoudreauToBe
    Master July 2018
    BoudreauToBe ·
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    My cousin's wedding - huge bridal party, gorgeous attire.

    The reception was at a local cultural club (Polish, German, I can't remember). "Cocktail Hour" was outside under a pavilion for 2 hours with only popcorn to eat. The only available bar was the public bar inside the smoky club and it was cash bar.

    Food was decent BBQ and the reception room was recently renovated. The extra-long cocktail hour that I had to pay for really ruined it for me.

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  • Hope
    Expert May 2017
    Hope ·
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    I've never gone to a single wedding with booze. Not even once. And I've gone to at least 15 so far. Of those, two had food- one was a potluck served by children under the age of ten. I went to a wedding once where they had a giant picture of the bride in an elegant frame in her wedding dress on her side of the aisle and on his side was an equally large picture of the groom as a child in overalls and it was so dusty you could hardly tell it was a picture of him. Brown, thick, nasty dust. I went to a wedding once where the father of the bride walked her down the aisle in a suit and then the next time we saw him he was in basketball shorts and a steelers jersey for their father/daughter dance. One time the couple was so nervous and giggling they were trembling while cutting the cake and a random lady in the crowd (mother of one of the bridesmaids) came up and took the knife out of their hands and "showed them how to do it". The last wedding I went to didn't have a photographer- the bride and groom went around snapping selfies on the groom's phone with guests, during their first dance, and before cutting the cake.

    You can't make this shit up.

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
    Emily ·
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    When there was a 2.5 hour cocktail hour. It was WAY too long. An hour of hors d'oeuvres and cocktails is great. 1.5 hours starts to get a little boring, but manageable. 2.5 hours and I was totally bored and also wanted to eat my arm off because I was so hungry. Also a the same wedding - a chapel that seated 140 but the guest list was 185. People were squished in so tightly that we felt like sardines and were sweating like pigs. Some people had to stand outside and didn't even see the ceremony.

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  • aleigh
    Super March 2017
    aleigh ·
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    Outdoor ceremony and reception in July. It was at that point that I decided I would never have an outdoor wedding!

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    Any gap at all.

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  • MrsB
    VIP June 2017
    MrsB ·
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    1) Family wedding where I was voluntold to set up, ice cupcakes, decorate the venue, etc etc etc...all things a DOC should have done. I literally got there in my dress and was told, "FutureMrsB, you're doing this now."

    2) Same wedding. No thank-you-card.

    3) Same wedding. Invited on an invitation by myself...even though FH and I had been together for 4 years at that point.

    4) Same wedding. Poorly hosted reception. No alcohol, no dancing, no music, no food that wasn't sweet (candy, cookies, cupcakes...it was dinner time!). And then when everybody left we had to clean up because the B&G hadn't arranged for somebody to do that.

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  • Hope
    Expert May 2017
    Hope ·
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    I forgot one! Once I was at a wedding and the bride got "kidnapped" during the reception. Her cousins came in and physically carried her out of the building and drove away. The groom was so upset he chased after them and cried. It was awful. She was gone almost half an hour. She told me later they took her to get a burger.

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  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
    OGJessieJV ·
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    I weep as I sip from my flask for all of you who have attended dry weddings. I cannot imagine going to any event where alcohol is not served.

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  • Chelsea
    VIP September 2017
    Chelsea ·
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    We traveled 8 hours to the wedding and the bride/groom never even approached us to talk to us or thank us for coming. We finally meant the groom for the first time at the continental breakfast the next morning and talked to them for about 60 seconds because we approached them.

    Also, a wedding that was dj'ed by a friend with top 100 music nobody (including the poor grandparents) knew how to dance to.

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  • Hope
    Expert May 2017
    Hope ·
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    Oh! At the very first wedding I went to the playlist had three songs. Four hours of "Hallelujah", "At Last", and "I Hope You Dance". Needless to say... we didn't.

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  • Mrs.KatieK
    Master September 2016
    Mrs.KatieK ·
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    ... @FutureMrsB, crying at "voluntold."

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  • Svetlana
    VIP October 2018
    Svetlana ·
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    I worked in my teens at the venue my reception is being held. I remember a drunk bridesmaid getting lifted up and the dude sat her on top of the layer of cake that was cut and I don't think she even realized or cared at that moment.

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  • LittleDemon
    Master November 2017
    LittleDemon ·
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    My sister had a cash bar at her wedding. A cash bar with only 2 beer and 2 wine options. I repeat only 4 options for a bar that they didn't even pay for! The worst.

    On a hilarious note, her and her husband are SUPER excited for our open bar.

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    The only thing I really ever remember is the alcohol option. If there is only beer and wine or a signature drink I get annoyed. I don't mind a cash bar as long as it's offered. I've never experienced not enough food or a gap so I can't comment on that. No thank you card, no air conditioning, honeyfunds. Non of that bothers me at all. Oh! I was also recently B listed. HaHa! I think it's funny. I'll absolutely be attending and buying them a gift of course.

    Oh!! Someone reminded me- being separated from SO. The worst!

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  • Melissa
    Expert May 2017
    Melissa ·
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    I attended a wedding where a keg was in the middle of the dance floor. Around 9 the bride, groom, and their parents walked around asking for donations so they could get another keg.

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