Wedding Website FAQ

Q: What is the dress code?

Offbeat Bride has a list of suggested FAQs, I just went through and picked out the ones relevant to us.

I wound up going with:

Where and when do I show up?

When is the RSVP deadline again?

Will there be food? What if I have a dietary restriction?

Can I take pictures?

So... what can I expect at a Jewish ceremony?

Will there be dancing? What about other entertainment?

What should I wear?

What about shoes?

Where do I park? Do I need to pay for parking?

I want to watch the livestream. When do I tune in?

And then some questions covering my pronouns and who FW's BF is. (I'll gladly post those if anyone else is nonbinary and/or wondering how to explain their metamour's presence, but I imagine they're not super relevant to most of this board.)

@Tania... idk if I agree with the gift question...

I think if its outdoors/standing only/on a cliff/anything out of the ordinary you need to state that so guests dress appropriately.

I think its nice to put a timeline for the day:

Q:What is the timeline for the day?

A: Promptly at 3 the ceremony will begin, dinner at 5 and dancing after dinner

Any info about typical weather or location that might influence their wardrobe choices, like the ceremony and/or reception being outdoors or on grass.

You might want to include that your venue doesn't allow alcohol if you are the person I remember saying that. People usually like a heads up about things like that.

1. What time should I arrive? The ceremony is scheduled to begin at 6PM, so we suggest being there by 5:45PM, so you can be seated before the ceremony begins.

2. Are children allowed? This is an adult only ceremony/reception. Thank you in advance for your cooperation.

3. Can I bring a guest? Due to fact that venue capacity is limited, we are unable to host any additional guests that were not formally invited.

4. I don’t see my boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other on my invite? We didn’t know you had one! Please contact us to see if we can accommodate the extra guest.

5. Ceremony location? The ceremony will be outdoors (weather permitting) at the same venue as the reception. The Nutmeg- Adress

6. Can we take pictures? Sure! As long as you share them! ;o) Please post pictures on Facebook and IG using #AustinLovesKasey. (Please use your best discretion to not interrupt the ceremony.)

7. What should I wear? The venue is semi-formal. We know you will all show up looking your best and fabulous!

8. What’s for dinner? The ceremony will be followed by a cocktail hour with appetizers and formal dinner. Meal choices are Prime Rib, Stuffed Shrimp and Chicken, and are noted on the RSVP card provided with your invitation. Please initial your choice when you return the RSVP card. (If you suffer from food allergies, please contact us so we can speak to venue about alternatives.)

9. Now on to the important question, will there be an open bar? We will answer your question with another question. Have you met us? lol! Yes, there will be premium open bar throughout the formal reception at the Nutmeg. :o) Wine service will be provided during dinner. So wear your dancing shoes and plan transportation accordingly!

10. Room block? We have reserved a room block at the Doubletree Bradley at a reduced rate for out of town guests or those who want to stay at the hotel where the after party will take place (link to room block in hotel accommodations link on website). Shuttle service will be provided from hotel to venue, please use “contact us” link on the website if you are interested in using the shuttle. Doubletree Bradley- Adress

11. When will the party end? NEVER!!! Just kidding! The reception will start with cocktail hour from 6:30-7:30PM and end at 11:30PM. We have a room reserved at the Shade Bar and grill for an “un-hosted” after party that will go until 2AM. Shade Bar and Grill-adress

12. What’s next?? Invitations will be mailed out in the beginning of March, with an April 22 RSVP date. Please respond by RSVP deadline, we need to get the final #’s to caterer two weeks prior to the event. RSVP’s not returned or late may not be able to get incorporated into the final head count to venue. (If your RSVP response changes after you sent the response, please contact us to let us know of any changes so we can inform venue).

Following

We included information about valet parking and local hotels. We also included the following information regarding children and plus-ones for single guests (who are mostly our cousins).

Q: Can I bring my children?

A: Unfortunately, we are unable to accommodate children at our venue due to limited seating capacity. We apologize for any inconvenience this may cause, but we hope that this advance notice means you are still able to celebrate with us.

Q: Can I bring a guest?

A: We are having a small, intimate gathering of our nearest and dearest. Due to limited space, invitations are intended only for the guests who are named on the envelope. Don’t worry, we will be sure to seat you with people you know and love!

Is it common for weddings not to allow children? I see no reason not to allow our guests to bring their children (as long as they make sure they behave). I understand seating and budgets for food. Thankfully our place holds twice as many people as we expect so seating is not an issue but I can understand not wanting to feed that many extra mouths.

I do believe not allowing children is common. Whichever choice each couple makes (to allow or not allow), there are valid reasons for both sides. While my sister had an adults only reception, FH and I are allowing children. I think a lot of it has to do with how a couple envisions their big day.

Allowing our guests to bring their children to our wedding would add about $3k to our catering bill. We're in NYC so the per person cost is not cheap. If it were more affordable, I'd invite children...but we have a tight budget to begin with and we had to make a lot of uncomfortable decisions.

Ours is a Q&A addressing: where the wedding is, bc our family are in two different states, the venue locations, travel & hotel arrangements, mailing gifts, dress code, children, and photography.