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VIP August 2016

Wedding "Shade"...

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Minerva, on May 10, 2016 at 5:22 PM

I am very close to my dad, but won't be having him walk me down the aisle. Instead, I'm walking myself down the aisle. I'm not sure why I feel so strongly about this, but it is just what feels right for me (it's also what my mom did when she married my dad - they are still married 30 years later). I thought that my total lack of a bridal party would get me some side-eye and wedding "shade." Nope, it's my decision to walk myself down the aisle that shocks people...

So I want to know, do you get wedding "shade" thrown at you for any of your non-traditional decisions? Or maybe even some of your more traditional decisions? Let's share in solidarity!

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Bee · on May 11, 2016 at 6:43 PM
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1. For not inviting my family. I cut ties with them 8 years ago after years of abuse. Not changing my mind for a pretty big day in my life.
2. For keeping the wedding small. It's still too large for my liking but apparently 50 people is too small for a wedding. Coincidently none of these people complaining have volunteered to pay for our wedding.
3. For not doing a rehearsal/rehearsal dinner. We ended up caving on this since some bridal party members wanted it but now it means that literally 1/2 our wedding (bridal party + dates + his mom and stepdad) will be at rehearsal dinner and the places around our venue aren't cheap so we're looking at almost a $2.5k bill.
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Krystal · on May 11, 2016 at 10:13 PM
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My mother is giving me grief because my FH and I want a 2 hr reception then a bonfire on the beach. She thinks wedding receptions should be 4 hrs and in a hall. I told her this is what we want and ppl who have a problem with it can stay home.
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Minerva · on May 11, 2016 at 10:45 PM
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Well, I just got some additional shade this evening. We are having a very small wedding and some of my coworkers started asking me about it tonight. I was polite and told them that it was a very intimate wedding - only family and old friends. That didn't go over well. Sorry for the vent, but seriously, such awkwardness isn't necessary. Why can't people just be adults?
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MrsBBR · on May 11, 2016 at 11:28 PM
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@Sundevilgirl your last sentence. You nailed it!! @Minerva, sorry they're being jerks, no two ways about it.
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studentloansforlife · on May 11, 2016 at 11:29 PM
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Yeah I too am walking myself down. However, this is my second marriage so things are a bit different.
I might get some side eye about a non religious ceremony too but I don't care.
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I am Mrs. rjd · on May 13, 2016 at 12:08 AM
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Second marriage and we are senior citizens--"why do you want to get married?" Because we want to! A couple of people think we should just have a very small DW where we are going to honeymoon--some of our kids can't afford to fly to Hawaii so why would we cut out some of the most important people in our lives? I'm also walking down the aisle alone--it's been mentioned that it would be "so nice" for my sons to walk me. Um, no, they are groomsmen. Plus nobody is giving me away--FH and I are freely giving ourselves to each other. I'm sure there is more but I don't gaf. We are having good food, an open bar, a great DJ and a joyful attitude.
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