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Master March 2011

Wedding Piercings?

LutaWolf, on July 17, 2010 at 10:13 AM Posted in Planning 0 26

My photographer has (facial) piercings and while I really don't mind. Some of them are gaudy so I asked her if for the wedding she could put on something more simple since guests will be taking pictures too. No Problem, she said she would have any way even if I hadn't asked and told me about the one wedding where a BM refused to take her piercing out and it put the bride in tears. That got me wondering. How many of you have someone who is pierced in the wedding or so on? Are you asking them to take them out put something else in? Do you think someone should even ask a pierced person to remove their piercings?

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Latest activity by LazyAssMama, on July 17, 2010 at 8:08 PM
  • FutureMrs
    Super October 2010
    FutureMrs ·
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    I have my lip pierced, and I'm not taking it out..and 3 of my BM's have their nose pierced, and I'm not asking them to take it out.. Doesn't bother me none.

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  • Brandy
    Dedicated June 2011
    Brandy ·
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    One of my bridesmaids has plugs in her ears (like the giant circles that have her ears stretched to the size of about a quarter.) Not that I have a choice, cause they won't shrink back to normal, but I asked her to be a bridesmaid because she is someone special to me and important in my life. I love her just as she is...and I want her to be comfortable too. So, I told her to find some pretty sparkly ones and rock em! Smiley smile

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  • Angie
    VIP August 2010
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    I have my nose pierced and I am not taking it out. No one else in my wedding party has any other piercings aside from the usual earrings. If they did though I would not ask them to remove them but I would hope they would ensure the jewelery was tasteful though.

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  • Mrs. Speer
    VIP May 2011
    Mrs. Speer ·
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    Three of my BM's have their noses pierced and then myself and at least three others have their tragus pierced (I know its not as out there in the ear but its still a piercing) but I don't mind them leaving them in. All of my girls wear small studs in their noses and I believe all of us have a small stud in our tragus so its not too gaudy!

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  • Sharon
    Master June 2010
    Sharon ·
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    Ask your photog about small lip or nose piercings as sometimes they just show up as black dots in the photos.

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  • L
    Master March 2011
    LutaWolf ·
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    I'm cool with piercings but when I say gaudy I'm talking neon pink with spikes. Outside of the wedding, I love them because they are here and just cool..... I can understand asking someone to change the piercings to small balls just like you want your BMs to wear certain jewelry, you don't want to clash so I don't see anything wrong with it.. I wouldn't ask someone to take a piercing out though but changing it, I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

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  • L
    Master March 2011
    LutaWolf ·
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    Also vendors, what's your rule of thumb as far as piercings?

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  • Nicole
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    Nicole ·
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    I have my tounge and my nose done and all my girls have either nose or tounge and we are just having them put our colored jewelry in so they match..... the only thing I'm having people cover is tattoos. I'm covering mine and my girls are covering theirs.

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  • The O-fficial MrsJoseph!
    Master September 2010
    The O-fficial MrsJoseph! ·
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    I agree with Luta, the gaudy stuff is out. I don't have anybody in my WP with obvious piercings - but both a BM & I have our navels pierced. I *think* one more BM may have hers pierced, too... But with those it doesn't matter since the belly is covered.

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  • jlam
    Master August 2011
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    I agree Luta. You can't expect them to not wear their piercing at all... that is a part of who they are. But I think it's perfectly acceptable to ask for them to wear simple studs that don't attract a lot of attention. Everyone else's jewelry is expected to match and I don't think this is any different.

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  • Alison
    Devoted July 2010
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    I would never ask someone to take out their piercings. Maybe because I have piercings myself. I don't know, I can understand that some people don't like them but you can't expect someone to take them out. It is part of who they are. If they had tattoos would you ask them to cover them all with makeup? As for the bridal party with the piercing, if she didn't want bridesmaids with piercings, she shouldn't have chosen the people that she did. Talk about bridezilla!!!

    I have my tongue, inner ear, and the back of my neck piercings showing, as well as 3 of my 4 tattoos. One of my bridesmaids has tongue, nose, and lip. I wouln't ever dream of asking her to take them out. I don't even really care if they don't match...That's just me.

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  • The Awesome Thief
    Master February 2010
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    My MOH and BM had nose piercings. MOH had her septum done and she usually has the ring pointed into her nose so you can't tell. My BM had her nose pierced and has a crap ton of holes in her ears. Both asked me if I wanted them covered or anything. I told them that I didn't care about what they did with them cause I knew they were there when I asked them to be in the wedding. It doesn't bother me at all. I also told them that they didn't have to cover their tattoos and that they could wear whatever jewelry they wanted to. That wasn't something I was worried about.

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  • K
    Master October 2011
    Kiss My ·
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    Me, personally, I wouldn't ask to have them removed because the piercings are a part of them. Like my tattoos I have are a part of me and will be shown during the wedding but then again piercings and tattoos would fit perfectly in my style of wedding anyways.

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  • jlam
    Master August 2011
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    For tattoos... most are fine with me, but if it was big or distracting I really would prefer my girls covered them. I just don't think a formal setting is a place to show off tattoos. In my opinion, anything like that just takes too much attention away from the real reason everyone has come together to celebrate.

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  • Alison
    Devoted July 2010
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    I agree that the style of wedding has something to do with it. I would also agree that it may be fair to ask them to wear something like a small stud, but if that is the case, you should buy the studs for them.

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  • Jessica
    Savvy May 2011
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    I have piercings and so do most of my bridesmaids. One of them has a huge tattoo covering most of her upper arm. I'm not asking her to cover it but I did ask the photographer to try and get most of the pictures without the tattoo in it. If people are to busy paying attention to who has what pierced or tattooed to remember what we came together for then I probably shouldn't have invited them in the first place.

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  • Mandy
    Master October 2010
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    I don't like it when people judge me for my piercings & I really don't appreciate it when I'm asked to take them out. Mine are pretty normal. I have 3 in each lobe, 1 in the center of my left ear, & an industrial in my right ear. Oh yeah, & a tougne ring. I took my eyebrow piercing out because I had lots of touble with it & it did hinder job interviews, but now I feel like the piercings I currently have do that as well & I don't undertstand why. I'm sorry, I got off subject. I think that if it is something that stands out really bad, they should atleast be willing to put in a retainer (clear ring) I think that if you know that the people your considering for your bridal party have piercings, you should ask them before you assign the positions if they are willing to take them out & go from there. It shouldn't be a last minute decision.

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  • Mandy
    Master October 2010
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    I'm not bothered by tattoos either. I have one on my shoulder that will be visible & I'm not going to cover it up. One of my bridesmaids has on one her breast & I'm not asking her to cover it up (it barely shows in her costume, see below)


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  • T
    Just Said Yes September 2010
    Tamesha ·
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    Me being the bride am not sure if I will keep my eyebrow ring in; but I will not object to any of the bridal party wearing theirs if they had any. It's like Alison K. said why did you choose the people you did if you want them to change who they are.

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  • J
    Super September 2011
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    My Fh has a ton of tattoos and all of his groomsmen do too..it is who they are, Fh warned me before he asked them, b/c we both agreed that it would be rude to ask them to change anything for our wedding.

    One of my friends is kind of an attention whore so she's constantly doing outrageous things to her hair or body for the shock factor and I was worried about what she would do if I asked her a bm, so that was a factor in not asking her to bm (No, I'm not that shallow, there were bigger reasons, but this was a factor)

    My bff has a tattoo on her upper arm that is a heart and I kid you not it just says BAD in big bold letters. Uhmmm she's covering it for her own wedding, so she has no problem covering it for mine. In this case it's just the particular tattoo I dislike lol

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