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Wedding or House? (Venting)

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Jia, on June 26, 2016 at 11:52 PM

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So I just really need to vent right now. We are coming up on the end of our lease & looking to move. Now we always thgt you need an insanely large amount of money for a down payment for a home but recently found out that's not true. We decided that in order to save money for our wedding ($10,000 strict budget) that we need to find a place with lower rent. A house would costs us close to what we are paying now. I honestly don't really want to buy a house now because I know it come with some added bills other than mortgage. Everyone I tlk to about this situation is either not married or never had a wedding to begin with, so they do not understand my point. Like as superficial as it may sound my wedding is more important to me. Never thgt I would be getting married so I want it to be perfect. I'm so frustrated & just over venting to ppl who don't really understand where I'm coming from. I really wish ppl would stop trying put their opinions off on me as facts. Ugggh

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KRAIN · on July 1, 2016 at 12:01 PM
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House trumps wedding every time. You can't live at your venue.
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OGAubrey · on July 1, 2016 at 12:27 PM
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We did both; We saved as much as we could after landing our first full time jobs and were able to save up the 20% for the downpayment and save for the wedding. We closed on the house exactly 3 months ago and I LOVE being a homeowner and soon soon-to-be-wife. It's also the first marriage for both of us and we wanted to get the equity from owning a home instead of renting and essentially paying someone else's mortgage.
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Savvy October 2016
Heather · on July 1, 2016 at 10:02 PM
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If you aren't in love with the house, don't buy it. You BOTH need to love the house for it to be worth taking the money away from a wedding. A house is a huge commitment and while I agree with everyone saying the house is more important, if you don't like the house then you will only resent having to take money away from your wedding to pay for it.

A wedding holds different weight with different people. Some people are content with just a small wedding if it means they have a house, or are very relaxed about the details, while others really care about every detail and have had a blueprint for years (think Monica in FRIENDS). That being said, I'd be open to finding a home that you love in the area you want to relocate to. You never know what you might find, and if you find something that you love then you'll find a way to make saving for both a priority (it can be done. It's not fun and you will probably have to cook more, stop getting Starbucks, stop your Netflix temporarily, whatever small conveniences you are paying for, etc. but it'll be worth it)
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