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Victorian Bride
Master April 2023

Wedding for 10/20/18 Cancelled!

Victorian Bride, on October 16, 2018 at 8:49 AM

Posted in Family and Relationships 99

Hi everyone! I wanted to know if anyone has had to cancel their wedding within two weeks or less? Its all due to family drama. *sigh* FH and I are both extremely stressed. My FH's brother was to cater and he told us barely 15 days before that he couldn't do it. He had no vaild excuse, AND he's a...
Hi everyone!

I wanted to know if anyone has had to cancel their wedding within two weeks or less? Its all due to family drama. *sigh* FH and I are both extremely stressed.

My FH's brother was to cater and he told us barely 15 days before that he couldn't do it. He had no vaild excuse, AND he's a caterer. Also, lets just say, without detail, FH's sister also had a huge part in sabotaging our wedding! We honestly believe the two worked together. FH and I are just shocked at their cruelty. Their reason, I was told by my FH, is that since he is the caregiver for their ill mother, they wanted to guarantee that I'd not steal him from his duties. They are selfish and never assist with their Mother at all. We had made great provisions to care for her. As if we'd be so thoughtless to not care for an elderly lady! If only they would have just communicated their concerns, or bothered to ask us our plans?

This week is so hard. Counting down the days. Friends say not to think of it, but how do I stop? I've been dreaming of this day for months!! Our wedding was Saturday morning and it was going to be perfect! We had planned to the nth degree, as have we all. I had provided thoughtful touches like beautiful, vintage, white handcherchiefs for our guests for " happy tears." FH was marrying in his Victorian, ancestral church. So many guests were traveling to celebrate with us. We were, and are, so honored to have so many love us that much.

I've been non-stop calling guests and canceling vendors. We had a fairly large wedding. We sent out 175 invitations.

FH and I are thinking of eloping, now, just the two of us. Of course, we'd still have a professional photographer and marry in a beautiful location. We wish to marry and I don't want to plan another large wedding. Plus, we want to avoid ANY drama. If we elope in the Spring of 2019, we'd plan a big reception to celebrate our nuptials afterwards, sometime. Anyone do this? Was it successful? Many hard feelings on not being invited to the wedding/elopement?

Any thoughts, words of wisdom? I appreciate each of you so very much!! Thank you in advance.


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  • Victorian Bride
    Master April 2023
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    Thank you so much Monique! I appreciate your comment. Tonight was to be our rehersal and then dinner. I can't wait for the 20th to pass. Yes, we are going to elope in the Spring. The venue where we are eloping is offering an outside ceremony site and I'm worried I'll freeze if we marry before Spring. Time will tell. I just want to marry FH. 😊
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  • Victorian Bride
    Master April 2023
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    I'm a positive person, but I'm having a really hard time today with our betrayal. Tomorrow is Friday- was to be our spa day. FH and I would have been Mr and Mrs by 11:00 am on Saturday. I know it wasnt meant to be, obviously, but just thinking about all the hours& hours of preparation, looking forward to seeing dear friends & family who live far away, the loss money on vendors, florist ...ect I just wish the horrible responsible parties would have left well enough alone. I was looking forward to posting our BAM. But, on the bright side I do have our private elopement to look forward, too! Thank you for listening. I think under the circumstances being a bit sad is normal.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
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    I am so so sorry, I can't imagine what could have happened that someone would do something to you to make you have to cancel your wedding and elope?? You will still post a beautiful BAM, it's just on hold. I can't wait for your elopement BAM! Maybe do something sweet and special with FH this weekend to make up for it a little? Celebrate your love no matter what this weekend together. ((hugs))


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  • Victorian Bride
    Master April 2023
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    Thank you so much, Jennifer!! 💕💖💕 I appreciate your comments more than you'll ever know. I caught bronchitis from all the stress. I have a compromised immune system. I think FH, who is a great cook, is going to make my favorite soup for our "wedding day." And since its going to be cold with 80% chance of rain, we'll watch a good movie while I recuperate. And yes, we'll gladly share our BAM. Just hope sooner rather than later. 😊 Can't wait to marry this man!!
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  • Heather
    Just Said Yes September 2019
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    I am so sorry to hear about that; families are incredibly difficult to deal with and I know cancelling must have been one of the most difficult decisions you both have had to make. Hang in there and elope...the ceremony will be intimate and you will avoid crazy, last minute drama.

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  • Victorian Bride
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    Heather, too right! 💖 Thank you for your kind words. I had the most beautiful wedding planned. We were even going to be featured in a local wedding magazine. But, I can't dwell on what we've lost. It's hard not to though. It's still so fresh, we ARE looking forward to our no drama elopement. 🤗
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  • Marah
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    Good luck hun and take a fabulous vacation
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  • Jane
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    I'm so sorry to hear that they have pushed you into cancelling. I hope your secret wedding fills your dreams. Be strong... don't let her win completely
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  • Leah
    Just Said Yes May 2019
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    Hi Victorian Bride!

    No words for you sweetie... No one should go through that, it absolutely isn't fair. Have you found any solution to your big day?? I'm hoping something good comes out of this, even if it's "just" an elopement. Girl, if you have to elope, OWN IT! Be proud of it! Even the brightest moments come on the rainiest of days...

    Hoping to hear some good new back, keep your chin up!

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  • Victorian Bride
    Master April 2023
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    Thank you so much, Marah!! Yes, a vacation is DEFINITELY in order!! ❤
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  • Victorian Bride
    Master April 2023
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    Hi Jane! ❤ Thank you for your compassion. You are so sweet. I can promise you his evil sister will not win. She thinks she's stopped us from marrying, which was her primary goal. She'll have no clue about our elopement, which will be wedding and honeymoon combined. We have a gorgeous venue chosen! She has no idea of my character or how strong willed I am. She met me once for less than 5 minutes. Her loss.
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  • Marah
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    I suggest something undiscovered like everyone goes to the Bahamas or somewhere tropical or Paris
    We are planning ours for Scotland for the highlands games
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  • ISaidHallYes
    VIP November 2018
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    My heart breaks for you and to see you postpone your wedding again. Sending you all of the well wishes. I’ve seen some of the details and hard work you put in. Hopefully you can use some of it in the future!
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  • Victorian Bride
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    Oh Leah!! What beautiful things to say!!❤ Yes, I'm a positive person even through all of this ridiculous turmoil. We are planning a beautiful elopement, just the two of us, at my dream venue!! 🤗 So something good IS coming out of this fiasco. We'll have a full wedding, just no guests. When we mail our wedding announcements, it will include an invite to a black tie wedding reception. So while I still have pangs that I won't marry the love of my life tomorrow, I am looking forward to the future. Thank you so much!! xo
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  • Victorian Bride
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    I love Scotland!! I can't wait to see your BAM!! I adore bagpipes and think they sound so romantic. So excited for you!!
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  • Victorian Bride
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    I appreciate each of your heartwarming comments!! Yes, I worked tirelessly on our wedding( as you know), which was a true labor of love. I hope to use some of our special touches both 1st at our wedding just for two, and then at the black tie wedding reception we are planning about 90 days after we elope. Thank you again, for your kind words during this difficult time. I appreciate you so much!! ❤
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  • Victorian Bride
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    Well, It's October 20th!! I wish to congratulate each bride who will become a MRS. today. Remember how special today is and don't sweat the small stuff. Try to enjoy each and every moment. I pray your day is filled with much love, extreme joy, and more happiness than your heart can hold. Can't wait to see your BAM's!!! God bless you all today. 💐🥂🍾
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  • J
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    One of my friends eloped and had a party to celebrate 2 yes after the fact and I think everything went well no hurt feelings on my end.
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    Thank you, Jacquie!! I appreciate your sharing this story. 💕
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