Wedding Etiquette: If You Give a Bridal Shower Gift Do You Have to Give Wedding Gift?

I always have. The bridal shower gift is usually smaller than the wedding gift though.

I always did smaller gifts for the shower and the "main" gift for the wedding.

Yes I have always given both a shower and wedding gift

The shower gift is like where you get them something and the wedding gift i always gave money..thats how we always do it

Yep they are considered seperate gift giving occasions and there's definitely etiquette on who gets invited and to how many. :-) Check out Emily Post

I've given a gift at every party I've been too. Even the bacheloret parties.

Absolutely! As Marie said, they are separate gift giving occasions. In our circle, we gift items for a shower and cash for a wedding.

Same here Carole. I went to a good friend's wedding this weekend. A few days before the wedding, my FH asked me "We're going to a wedding on Friday right? Shouldn't we have bought a gift?" I told him that I was planning on giving cash and he was totally confused. I usually do a mid-priced registry gift for the shower and then a larger cash gift for the wedding.

I agree; you get a gift from the registry for the Bridal Shower, and money for the wedding. It might be different among Russian Jews in NYC though, typically you give at least $100 per person. I imagine that is not the case in smaller towns.

FutureMrsOhler.....That is exactly what we do. If it is a relative, the shower gift may be a bit bigger. The same goes for the cash gift.

Holly K....Italian from Philly here and we do cash as well.

Basically, we try to cover the cost of what we think our plate will be. If it is someone close to us, we give more. But, I have learned on WW that things are different throughout the country.

I give two.

Being a poor collage student it is normally $20 ish for the shower gift, and maybe $30-50 for the wedding gift depending on if it is family vs friends.

That's what I thought...thanks girls!

Yes, unless not invited to the wedding - then a shower gift is plenty.

Yes. Shower gift should be smaller; wedding gift bigger, but not the cost of the plate,unless you want to do that.

Each is a separate gift giving event. Typically, I give a gift (off the registry, if there is one) for the shower, and cash at the wedding.

I've always done both. A gift per invite.

Yes you do. When I hve been broke I have given hand made gifts at the shower or a friend of mine just recently offered to take engagement pictures for our friends as a shower gift (she is an amature photographer) Shower gifts are not AS EXPECTED you can get somethign real small.

Yes, two gifts. Traditionally the shower is for gifts (household items usually) and the wedding is for cash (hence the card boxes and no place to put gifts).

In our group of people I find that it is customary to get gifts off your registry for the shower and then some people will get you a wedding gift off the registry as well or they will just give you cash in the amount of how much they think it cost per person. I have seen quite a few items taken off our registry that we didn't get at my shower this past Sunday so I am assuming that they will be given at the wedding or we have late stragglers for shower gifts LOL.

At my cousin's wedding they got the bigger registry items like China, vacuum cleaner, etc. and smaller items at the shower like cookware, utensils, etc.

Bridal shower and wedding gifts are two separate gifts, but you can plan accordingly and split up your gift budget between the two events!

Opening gifts is a focal point of bridal showers, so you'll want to bring a physical gift off of their wedding registry with you to the shower. For the wedding it's much better to ship the gift directly to the couple's address on file with the registry!!

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