Cindy
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Wedding bringing up emotions?

Cindy, on September 22, 2021 at 6:15 PM Posted in Community Conversations 3 36
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Has the wedding brought up any emotions ?


I’m over the planning . I’m over covid and vaccinations and family drama . I’m 6 months away and I just want to elope . Am I the only one struggling ? I’ve talked to my fiancé and he wants to go through with it .

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Latest activity by Cindy, on October 1, 2021 at 9:36 AM
  • Melinda
    Dedicated March 2022
    Melinda ·
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    Yes, you are not alone!

    Between covid and family drama i've had the " why the heck didn't we elope?!" meltdown more than once. We are powering through though knowing it will all be over in 24 weeks.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    I guess because we had the wedding WE wanted (before Covid), no drama. But the last 30 days was still stressful and we had a “maybe we shouldn’t get married” fight the week of. It all worked out and the stress was SO worth it.


    Can you guys move forward and have the wedding you want while ignoring the problem people???
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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated October 2021
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    I’m in the same boat (reversed though—I’m insisting we go through with it), and it is ROUGH! Even though I don’t want to toss the money, the stress of covid, people canceling, vendor issues… it’s intense.


    But the good news is that now that we’re close, I know we’re on track to get through it and in the end we’ll be married. 😁
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  • Cindy
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    Cindy ·
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    Same ! I’m not even done hiring vendors 🙃
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  • Cindy
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    Cindy ·
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    Same! I want the wedding but between family drama and covid bringing drama I just want to throw the towel . But I know I want a wedding and also the money invested so far I just feel like I have to roll with it . Good luck !
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  • Cindy
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    Yeah we’re going to go through with it . Just sad his family (80% of them ) dont feel comfortable going even tho their vaxxed
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  • CountryBride
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    CountryBride ·
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    I have some days where I feel this way
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  • Chaka
    Savvy October 2021
    Chaka ·
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    I felt the same way several times through the wedding planning process. We were too deep into the process to elope. Everything is so stressful.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
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    Find a bride who isn’t stressed during the planning process, hasn’t wanted to throw in the towel & elope? Good luck with that! Totally normal!
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  • Expert June 2021
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    Was engaged for 17 months. 15 of those months were during covid and definitely felt this way every other day. But that’s just wedding planning with or without covid. The stress is a lot and you often don’t know what to expect until you’re in it. Covid just magnifies the stress and anxiety. Hubby and I went through with the wedding in the end and are so glad we did though it wasn’t without its rocky journey planning during a global crisis that ultimately made us closer in the end. If you know you would be perfectly happy with eloping and have no regrets than I say it’s worth considering but if you find yourself going back and forth and knowing you would always beat yourself up about not having a wedding I say keep on planning.
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  • Cindy
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    Cindy ·
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    Thank you ! We’re having our wedding ! It’s tough season but we are excited no matter who shows up
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  • Kayla
    Savvy October 2021
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    Girl, I feel you. None of my fiance's dad's side of the family is coming bc of covid. Disappointing for sure but even more disappointing when you see them out and about, going on vacations, etc but won't come to their own sons wedding. We even offered to have them drive up and watch from their car. Like i said, definitely sad...but we will cherish all that do come!

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  • Hannah
    Dedicated October 2021
    Hannah ·
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    You are NOT alone!! It’s definitely difficult. I have thought about quitting and eloping a handful of times.
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  • Milada
    Rockstar October 2021
    Milada ·
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    This has been the most stressful experience of my life. We wanted to elope but the courthouse in our city has suspended weddings so we figured we'd go through with it. Yeahhhhh, no. I'm excited but I also relish not being able to just wash my hands of everything.

    You are not alone!

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  • Vicky
    Devoted October 2021
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    You are not alone, our original date was 3/20/2021 and we postponed to October 2, now I'm a few days away and of over it all. Wish i would have just planned something small but I have always wanted a big wedding. Hang in there you got this!

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  • E
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    Just want to say you are not alone!! After 2yrs of wedding planning just to be disappointed by so many friends and family members (even with legitimate reasons it still hurts) we are scrambling to get everything done and the price just keeps going up … ugh!! In 7 yrs together, we have never fought so much - it’s going to be better on the other side 😘 hopefully it helps to know you are not alone!
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  • Maddie
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    I'm 5 months out and I totally feel you. I'm the one who wanted the wedding and my Fh wanted to elope from the get go because his family is so big. I wanted a small wedding, but he said if we had a wedding it had to be with all his family. So i'm here planning a wedding that is vastly different from what i wanted. I went through like a good month not long ago where my FH was not being supportive at all and I wanted to cancel the whole thing and elope but I knew I would regret it and resent him for it. After I told him how much his disinterest was hurting me, it got better and I'm back chugging along on the planning and feeling slightly excited again.

    I'm also luckily in SoCal where Covid number are doing pretty good, so I'm starting to stress less about that. It's always in the back of my mind though.

    I hope you can work through it, or be happy with the decision to elope. I knew I wouldn't be ok without my family there or else I DEFINITELY would have.

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    I'm here with you! I am over it. I finally got to a point of which I was feeling slightly excited again and then had disagreement about a covid protocol with my fiance, I just can't anymore. I told him I want to cancel/postpone if we do what he suggests. The entire engagement has been 150% stress basically from start to finish (MAYBE there were a few days right at the beginning before the wedding planning started). We have one month.

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  • Kristen
    Devoted October 2021
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    Trust me, I've been there. We postponed our wedding twice because of COVID, and even now, I'm having flashbacks. There were many times where my fiance and I said to each other, "Forget it, it's not too late to elope." Now, though, I'm so grateful that we didn't, and in just one more month, we'll know just how worth it, it was to wait and to be patient. You'll get there, too. Smiley heart

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  • Cindy
    Dedicated April 2022
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    That’s so annoying I’m so sorry . 80% percent of his family isn’t coming because of covid concerns because some people aren’t vaccinated . 🤦🏻‍♀️ It’s so sad . We just have to remember it’s our wedding and who ever makes it yay and whoever doesn’t ok .
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