Wearing white to a Wedding?

No no no! My mom wore white to my sister's wedding. She claimed she never heard the "don't wear white to a wedding" rule. I told her it's absolutely not ok to wear white to my wedding. I'm not huge on tradition but that is one I am adamant about.

Before I got married I thought it would bother me if someone did. The day of my BIL's GF wore a short white lace dress, but I was too busy to notice and didn't find out until I saw a far away picture of her and it didn't bother me. Honestly I think a lot of brides overreact, everyone knows who the bride is and the guest that wears white will just be looked at weird by the rest of the guests, no need to make that person feel bad, your guests will do that for you.

I'm super "meh" about this. I get that it's tradition of sorts, but it's not one I care one way or the other about. No matter what color my guests wear, I'm pretty sure people will know I'm the bride at my wedding.

I think if someone honestly hasn't heard that rule before it's alright, but the people that wear white to spite the bride is rude. I think people probably think white is a happy and nice color and associate it with weddings and might want to wear it. However, I'd be pretty bummed if someone wore white, white is my special color and what I've wanted to have for my wedding day since forever ago, but I'd probably forget about it pretty quickly and wouldn't care. I don't think it's a matter of confusing the bride with the guest, just that to me white is special and I want to be the only girl in white for just one day.

It would not bother me if someone wore white to my wedding, unless her dress came with a train and a veil. My dress is not actually white anyway. That being said, I do not think I would wear white to someone else's wedding, because I know some people are bothered by it, and I would not want to take the chance of offending them.

The idea bothered me up until I went to a wedding and I saw someone wear white other than the bride. Everyone gave her the side eye. The grandmother of the bride actually went up to her and said, "You're not the bride!" loud enough for everyone to hear. In reality, they're the ones who look ridiculous. So after grandma's ballsy move, I no longer care.

I personally don't care if guests wear white. I'm the only bride, and everyone will know that. Brides don't have to wear whites, guests don't have to NOT wear white.

Besides, I'm having a beachy wedding. I'm sure someone will wear white. Whatever floats their boat!

Everyone knows I'm the bride. I'm the one in the big white dress. Other white dresses are not going to end my party. I personally wouldn't wear white to a wedding unless it was part of a design, because I don't know how the bride in that wedding feels about it.

It's rude to intentionally spite the bride(s) by wearing white, but honestly, it's not going to ruin a wedding (if it's accidental OR intentional). It was a good call to let your mom know that wearing white to a wedding is frowned upon, but if she had gone ahead and worn it anyway, it wouldn't have been THAT rude.

Not everyone can afford a new dress for every wedding, so if the one wedding appropriate dress you have is white or ivory ...

Plus, as other folks have pointed out, what, are we NOT going to know who's getting married? I think that 1) knowing who the bride(s) is(are) will help a lot (like, if I go to a friend's wedding and another guest wears white, I think I know who my friend is), and 2) most people can guess based on who's standing at the front saying vows and stuff.

To me, it's not about "knowing who the bride is" or "who looks ridiculous"-- it is disrespectful to the bride if a a guest wears white, whether the bride cares or not (which probably she doesn't bc she has better things to care about).

I have. However, it wasn't an all white dress. It was white with a lot of black lace all over it so I felt it was appropriate. Are we talking all white dresses here? If so, I would NEVER do that out of respect for the bride. However, if someone wore a white dress to my wedding, I wouldn't care in the least. Everyone knows I am the bride.

I wore a white dress with large black polka dots on it to my SIL's wedding, and she said it was a cute dress. If you're wearing all white, and trying to upstage the bride in some way, it's a problem. But overall I think it's not worth getting upset over.

I view myself as a pretty chill, non-traditional bride, but I think I might freak of I saw someone in a white dress at my wedding. Red, black, sure, whatever, but no white

It would bother me. Especially someone like the mother who will be in pics with me. I'm just traditional I guess

I wouldn't wear white, but it's not something that would flip me out if someone else did.

I am surprised though that people are so clueless on etiquette.

I personally wouldn't do it, but if someone did that at my wedding, I probably wouldn't even notice.

I did wear a white. A simple dress of course! haha

My cousin, who was 15 at the time of my wedding wore a white lace dress to my wedding. Didn't bother me a bit. She had a brightly coloured sweater she wore most of the time over it.

I would never wear white to a wedding, but as I said someone else did to my wedding and it wasn't a big deal.

It is kinda weird. I wouldn't care, most likely, but I would never do it myself. If the dress has a pattern, then I think it's fine.

It wouldn't bother me at all. In honesty, I don't even find it disrespectful unless the person is wearing a wedding gown out of spite, and I can't imagine that happening very often.

People are going to know the bride is the one hidden away until she enters by walking down the aisle. Most people would realize that anyone out mingling prior to the wedding probably isn't the bride.