vows... rings..... *sigh*

You can choose to write your vows together and have them pledge the same thing or you can write unique vows to one another. Just if you do the latter get on the same page with length and what not. Plus you probably don't wanna vow to always remember to rince your dishes or put down the lid of the toilet or any other vow that is easily broken.

Have fun with it, I've been sort of on and off working on that for about 6mths now.

We are writing our own. When you meet with your officiant she will let you know when you say your own vows and what is the standard as you put on your rings.

You can choose whatever you want. STBMrs Smith is right just get on the same page about what you're writing... you don't need to read it to him beforehand but you don't want to write a 3 page novel and he writes.... harley... i will always love you and honor you.... lmao it would be a little anti-climatic, lmao

i think it is beautiful, Cydney posted some really pretty ones from wedding.. i'll see if i can't find it.

My fiance and I are using the Promise poem by Dorothy Colgan for our vows. I think they are simple and pretty. Then our officiant is coming up with something for the exchanging of the rings.

Our church won't let us do our own vows. We were told we could add to the traditional ones, but I know I will be too nervous to do that. I prefer to say something at the reception, where the atmosphere is a little more casual--and I've gotten a few drinks in me. LOL

Hey Harley Quinn ~

I've posted a few fun vows before, if you want to read them. You could always mix them together.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/vows-are-you-writing-your-own-where-to-start/671180118dd6e584.html

You can have different ones, same ones, memorize them, repeat line-by-line, or even say at the same time. All up to you.

And yes, there is a little vow you say as you exchange rings.

~ happy planning ~

My FH and I wrote one vow together.

its really up to you guys. we decided to not write seperate vows because our marriage is us becoming one and we felt like the vow together would be a great start.

We both wrote our own vows that we didn't hear until the day of. Our officiant had a few funny words to say related to biker's wedding vows. We both wrote our path joining ceremony.

Well, i found this and really like it, but think if we sound the same thing it might be weird lol

I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give.

I promise to accept you the way you are.

I fell in love with you for the qualities, abilities, and outlook on life that you have,

and won't try to reshape you in a different image.

I promise to respect you as a person with your own interests, desires, and needs,

and to realize that those are sometimes different, but no less important than my own.

I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you see through the window of my personal

world into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams.

I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face change as we both change

in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting.

And finally, I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give

and all I feel inside in the only way I know how... completely and forever.

For the rings, i like (and of course for this part i think we should say the same thing lol)

I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.

I choose you to be my partner,

to have and to hold from this day forward for better or for worse,

for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish as long as we both shall live.

@Harley - definitely not a dumb question at all! We're going to be choosing our own vows like you as well, and posts like this help me, so thanks for that! I just haven't started that yet, otherwise I would have asked myself!

Btw - love what you have chosen so far!