Vow renewal trend

I have been to two Vow renewals. Both of them were at a church and they were celebrating 50 years together. My husband's grandparent's had a 50 year anniversary party with the whole family at a nice hotel that their children threw in their honor. The best thing is getting the whole family and seeing all the generations together in one place "All because two people fell in love..." Having a party and expecting to "do over" your day and get gifts is very disrespectful to the original vows you made and to those who stood by you to make them. Whether it be in the forest or at a court house, everyone gets ONE wedding.

Eh, not really. In many countries there is a legal wedding that precedes the church wedding; a wedding is both a social and a legal event. If they can happen together, then fab. But if not, there is no reason not to celebrate with family and friends.

We are getting new rings, we are having cupcakes/a cake, I AM WEARING AN OFFBEAT WEDDING DRESS, and we are having a party. However, I call it what it is: a vow renewal. My husband calls it a wedding, and that is fine with me. But everyone knows we are legally married. We eloped because we had no support. I don't regret getting married the way we did. It was an experience that we had together. I am not going all out. Most of our money is going towards our getaway after the ceremony/party and our rings.

I feel that some of you ladies are a bit harsh on those of us having a renewal. None of us are denying where we stand today and we know that our renewals are not our weddings. And if you want to call it dress up and drag same sex couples into it, what do you call what they do when they aren't LEGALLY MARRIED? That would be classified as playing "dress up" according to YOUR standards for marriage in some states that do not allow same sex marriages. It is not fair to anyone. (Continued

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It is not fair to anyone to use that argument to YOUR advantage. What one couple does not affect you in any way, shape, or form, does it? No. Are they using YOUR money to have a renewal or a second wedding? No. If you don't agree with what they are doing and are invited, don't attend. Don't look down on others because of their choice to do things different than you do.

It's not that vows expire, but often couples like the idea of being able to say new vows because a marriage isn't the same at 10, 15 years as it is when a couple is just getting married. it's a new time and means new things.

no one is forcing you to attend.if you don't like the idea, then don't attend.

I personally don't see what the big issue is with vow renewals. I wouldn't expect anyone to spend loads of money on any event of mine, renewal or otherwise.

with all the marriages I've seen end, I would love to get a invitation to a vow renewal celebrating that they are still happy.

if you don't like vow renewals don't have one

I don't have a problem with vow renewals. I don't imagine myself having a huge, full blown vow renewal. I plan to do a vow renewal either for 5 or 10 years. That will be something small, most likely a destination wedding with just my Fh and our child(ren) at the point. I wouldn't go through the whole process of planning a huge celebration.

For an anniversary, that would be just a huge party. Like for our 20th. I would love to through a huge party- no ceremony or first dances or wedding gowns. I would just wear a really nice cocktail dress and have a very nice party

I honestly don't see why this is always such a big deal for people. From someone who got married in Mexico and then legally married in the US a week later my wedding day is still the day I got married in Mexico with my friends and family.

If you don't want to go to a vow renewal then don't go!

Sometimes I think people just need to make themselves feel better about their own wedding by putting other people down. I really don't get it...

Wow, honestly couldnt make it past page 2. seems like such a hot button topic, but it really shouldnt be..if you went to a big wedding the 1st time with a gift, then dont give a gift the 2nd time, let the party be their gift to you. now i understand terms like vow renewal and wedding and i comprehend they are different, one being your not married yet and the other being you have been for atleast alittle while. but if you want to have a huge party like one would with a big wedding, and you plan on paying for it yourself and are not asking for gifts, then guests shouldnt complain. if theyre not into watching you have a ceremony, skip it and go to the reception, or vice versa if it suits you. but if you dont like the whole thing then dont go...i shouldnt have to divorce my husband and get remarried to have a 'wedding like' party. people in our lives should be happy for us celebrating such a long marriage, not complaining that were having a fancy vow renewal.

I guess the reason you would want to say vows again is for the same reason you did the first time.

because you love each other, and you want to vow love and commitment to each other in front of those people you care about.

as for why would you say the same things over again? I would imagine that you wouldn't.

after you've been together for a long time it's not the same as it was in the beginning. not that you love them any less, but the outlook is so much different and you life together is different.

you'd have much different things to say to the person.