Venue doesn't allow alcohol - Updated pg. 4

I support your guests not spending money on gas, plane tickets, pet care, child care, gifts, proper wedding attire, and anything else wedding related if you can't provide a damn free drink for them. Tell FH that.

If you're having a mid afternoon wedding, you wouldn't necessarily need a new venue. Just do a cake and punch reception.

Hosting guests properly > "gorgeous" venue

Alternative solution: Have a "brunch" wedding at your "dream location". Yes, I would prefer to have a nice mimosa with my cake, even at 10 in the morning, but Im far more forgiving of early receptions being dry than I am of dinner receptions. Also understand that non-meal time receptions generally only last 2 hrs-ish. Do it short and sweet and forget about it

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See above suggestions from others

ETA: saw your comments. 1: O&S was not rude. Relax. 2: Everyone is on a tight budget. I got a second job for 3 months in a retail store to make enough to pay for a bar (beer and wine), DJ, and photographer. Have you or FH thought about getting a part-time job? I work 50 hours roughly every week at my career while finishing my Masters so, If I have time to get an extra 20-30 hours of work in, any one does. There are tons of work from home jobs, too.

OP - O&S wasn't rude. She's right. You even said you noticed an intense thread.

Did you expect something different when it's the same topic?

The Hidden Porch in Catoosa, OK

Every special snowflake thinks their situation is different. NEWS FLASH! It's not.

@nicole. . . if you think that comment from O&S was rude, you must be new.

Two options:

1-find a new venue

2-have a brunch wedding.

Having a party on a Friday or Saturday night and not serving alcohol is bad hosting. the end.

I actually posted this yesterday on another thread, but here goes.

We fell IN LOVE with a gorgeous venue. It was stunning. On the water and beautiful. It was a (relatively) new venue on the lake in the neighborhood that I grew up in. How perfect? I could get married on the lake where I watched fireworks as a kid? Hell yeah. But then we thought about it and remembered that 75% of our guest had to get on an airplane to attend our wedding. And this venue was abut 45-50 minutes from the airport AND not really near any nice hotels big enough to accommodate our guest list. So we kept looking. And you know what? We found a venue we absolutely LOVED. It was downtown, close to the airport and there were about 15 hotels in a five block radius.

It was a no brainer. Your guests do so much to come to your wedding. Give them the best experience you can.

Definitely find a new venue. You can totally find a place that you love that allows alcohol. I know my number one place was booked for all the days we were considering and I found a place that I love almost as much but is cheaper. You never know if the next place will be better. There is no way you can not have alcohol if your FH and guests drink. That's ridiculous.

Okay, E-Tex, my mistake.

How has it been ranked "bride's choice" when they don't allow alcohol??

Beutivant - thanks for the share! I see why you changed venues; it definitely makes sense seeing it from that point of view. I appreciate that!

O&S was certainly not rude ....

Because PC, those brides are probably just as inconsiderate of their guests as the ones are here that think dry weddings are a-ok.

Extremely small budget= cut guests list to properly host.

AND FIND A NEW VENUE.

OGJaci - I definitely didn't mean to come off as unkind to anyone. I was just maybe a bit taken aback with my 2nd forum post having pretty heated responses, but as someone pointed out I should have expected it - definitely just not used to this type of thing. I'm sorry if anything I said came off as offensive; was not my intent.

Nicole- maybe you could take engagement pics that the venue that you love?

You do whatever it is you like. Dont let others influence you. I just went to a dry wedding and been to another before this one and knowing what the case was, we brought our own alcohol had it out in the car w a mixer and a cooler of ice and jello shots. We weren't greedy as others had the same idea we all shared! Both weddings were still a blast the bride amd groom did not mind and everyone had a great time! Don't worry about what others say as this is your day just as much as anyone else. Its not called having a reception because people took "time out" for you the reception IS the celebration for you and you FH, its all of yours and his preferences once you start pleasing everyone else then its not for you and your happiness. I say keep planning as you like and I wish you all the best!

Spazzy - lol I'm sorry! I didn't even think of Thirsty Thursday. Last time I got drunk I fell off a table in a bar, if that makes up for my blasphemy?