Hi so I have to get this off my chest.
My fiance and I both have 2 people we plan to remove off our bridal party if things continue to go the way they are but our wedding is still a year and 2 months away that we have plenty time. One of them is his best friend well one of his best friends and one is one of my good friends. Both are in the same boat as far as being single and living life to the fullest, I am not one to judge but now that I am engaged I feel even stronger about this. I always do not agree in anyone cheating, idc who you are I personally don't like it and am the person to notify you of your wrong doing if it comes my way of opinion or if you ask me for advice or my input anywhos, one of my BM met a new guy and he is still married he claims he is separated but i call BS because he doesnt spend the night with my friend and he still lives at home with his "daughters mom" and he states they plan to divorce but it has not happened so I am already assuming he is FULLY married. I called my friend out for being immature and messy with this when she asked for advice about what she should do and I told her that she is disrespectful no matter what he says because end of the day he is still married and she should not even be in that situation. My FH same with his GM the guy I mentioned earlier he has been living his life but 1 female in particular he has bragged about to us annoyingly is a friend of my old coworkers (small world) and I was informed she is married too and this friend of my FH is aware and doesnt care. He says the same thing "they have issues they want to divorce from what she says" but I also call BS because that is not what I have heard. My FH told him that it was not okay and not to bring that around us and he better watch out being in that situation not trying to wreck a home and just be careful of what consequences can happen with a risky situation like that. My FH and I believe in the same thing, both of these 2 are messy and it is disgusting to disrespect marriage let alone any relationship and condone cheating. We love them to death friendship wise, but how can you have 2 people in a bridal party celebrating a marriage if you don't respect marriage at all with the situations they partake in. We have plenty of time to figure it out but we told ourselves we will figure it out sometime around June-July next year to finalize our decision but at this rate if they continue to be messy and think it is okay even if it means losing friendships, we rather not have them in our wedding supporting us as a married couple just because we feel they do not respect marriage at all whether it is ours or not.
Advice NOT Needed as we already spoke about it to each other about what we want to do but open if you would like! Yes we chose our bridal party earlier on so for those saying its too soon, not necessarily because outside of their adventurous lives they are AMAZING friends. This too me is just hypocritical to be supporting our marriage but insist on putting sexual and personal needs first before respect of anothers marriage. We wouldn't mind them as guests but to stand at the alter next to us, we want people who not only support us but have the respect of us being married and understand how important marriage is to us and in general and I just find it weird how one can stand by me or him during this wedding when they do not respect marriage at all. The thing also is we think our friends may know how we feel as they both told us when explaining or bragging about these affairs " no offense to you guys you guys getting married is different I do not want you to think anything else." Both of them have stated comments around if not the same as this from what I think is because they were not pleased with how we reacted.
I just had to vent and let this out to other future brides out there.
Thank you for listening if you did lol