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futuremrswmh
Super October 2018

Vent! FH's divorce was never finalized!!!

futuremrswmh, on May 31, 2017 at 2:43 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 162

My FH was previously married and left his ex in June of 2015 and filed for divorce later that month. By November of 2015 they had gone to court and received temporary orders for everything (split of property, custody of their child, etc). His ex and her attorney were responsible for drawing up the...

My FH was previously married and left his ex in June of 2015 and filed for divorce later that month. By November of 2015 they had gone to court and received temporary orders for everything (split of property, custody of their child, etc). His ex and her attorney were responsible for drawing up the final divorce decree. Two years later and less than 5 months from our wedding and we just found out his divorce was never finalized...and his ex knew the whole time and kept it that way. FH is in the wrong for not checking in with his attorney but he received a draft of the divorce decree and assumed it was done...all that was missing was his exs signature and then she had to go before the judge with FHs attorney once she signed.

ETA: the issue is that the ex, or I guess current wife, has made it clear she plans to make it difficult. She has even taken to social media sayin. "Ps we are still married so good luck with the wedding" with a big smiley emoji

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  • futuremrswmh
    Super October 2018
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    Not sure what posts you're referring to but thanks.

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  • futuremrswmh
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    I try not to post anything about her, that's why I'm not sure what post I mentioned her name in other than a Mother's Day post that was a positive post.

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  • futuremrswmh
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    Oh ok. I thought I had removed that comment. I know exactly what you're talking about

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  • futuremrswmh
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    I'm in the process of trying to make my page more private since I noticed she's been taking pictures from my page and posting as her own. I'm not sure how to hide all of that. I thought it already was private but clearly not

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  • Lauren17
    Master July 2017
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    What a bitch she is! This is a really awful situation and really is your FH and his lawyers fault. I hope this all gets resolved before your big day! I'm so sorry you are going through this and i know you must be beyond stressed!

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  • Kiera
    Expert September 2017
    Kiera ·
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    MelissaHH is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! You may even want to remove this thread.

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  • futuremrswmh
    Super October 2018
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    I plan on changing my ww name if that's possible to remove the last name.

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  • AwkwardToBe
    VIP September 2017
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    Also, I don't know what your FH has all posted on his social media, but you should go through his and make sure he hasn't said anything that might get him in trouble and delete those posts.

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
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    MuffinButton- we spent all afternoon yesterday telling her she needed to push this back.

    womp womp- and here we are.

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  • futuremrswmh
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    Both of us try to not post anything as they have it in their orders that they cannot bash one another. I just missed the comment by someone on mine and went back and deleted it. He doesn't post anything either. That way we can screenshot all of the times she does it without being hypocritical.

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  • futuremrswmh
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    I won't be getting legally married in October. But we will be having a commitment ceremony in October. And get it legalized when we can. I'm not going to lose thousands of dollars when we can at least do something with our families.

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  • futuremrswmh
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    Ok thanks. I'll be deleting this post now as PPs have suggested. I'll post an update if anything changes.

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  • A.L.S.
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    Wow so sorry that sounds horrible

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  • Mrs. Sponge
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    Wow. I'm sorry to hear that. That is exactly why I went to every court appearance. My ex signed a voluntary surrender of his parental rights as part of the divorce which is very rare to actually be granted. I was there when both were signed and walked out with both the divorce and voluntary surrender signed and approved by the judge since I knew my ex was going to fight it.

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  • Frugal Fiancée
    Expert September 2017
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    This is a huge fear of mine... my FH was married in 2007 (in MD) but the signed/witnessed certificate was never submitted to the courts. His ex tore up the copies and threw them in the trash and wanted them to get "married for real" again since it didn't count. FH and his ex split 4 years ago and he's checked in person and online and the courts told him there is no record of his marriage so he can't file for a divorce. I made him check in person a few months back and still no record. He has shared custody of his 5 and 6 yo so we decided to keep the wedding on the hush from them so that they don't accidentally spill the beans to his ex b/c she's crazy too. Our wedding is on the week he has custody of them and moving forward we're going to keep our bank accounts separate and my condo in my name just in case she pulls some b.s. about increasing child support b/c my income is substantially higher. I do a lot for their children as is and she's extremely ungrateful about it. I suggest you do the same with your assets. Well wishes to you sister. Prayers

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  • futuremrswmh
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    Frugal Fiancee--luckily where we live, my income can not be included in their child support situation. I decided to show this post again because I did receive some amazing advice from so many of you on here.

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  • A. L.
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    OP, stop updating. Really, it can be used against you.

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  • Nicole
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    Goodness! SO sorry! That's the last thing you should be having to worry about!

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  • IItsumo
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    Talk to his lawyer some states have a law on how many years of living apart can make it legal

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  • Elysia
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    I went through this with FH's ex-wife. She was on drugs and totally fell off the face of the earth for about 3 years. In PA it takes about 6 month if they cooperate. His took a year and a half.

    I'm sorry that you are going through this, hopefully she will get with the program and stop being so jealous and selfish. Some people just don't like to see other people happy.

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