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futuremrswmh
Super October 2018

Vent! FH's divorce was never finalized!!!

futuremrswmh, on May 31, 2017 at 2:43 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 162

My FH was previously married and left his ex in June of 2015 and filed for divorce later that month. By November of 2015 they had gone to court and received temporary orders for everything (split of property, custody of their child, etc). His ex and her attorney were responsible for drawing up the...

My FH was previously married and left his ex in June of 2015 and filed for divorce later that month. By November of 2015 they had gone to court and received temporary orders for everything (split of property, custody of their child, etc). His ex and her attorney were responsible for drawing up the final divorce decree. Two years later and less than 5 months from our wedding and we just found out his divorce was never finalized...and his ex knew the whole time and kept it that way. FH is in the wrong for not checking in with his attorney but he received a draft of the divorce decree and assumed it was done...all that was missing was his exs signature and then she had to go before the judge with FHs attorney once she signed.

ETA: the issue is that the ex, or I guess current wife, has made it clear she plans to make it difficult. She has even taken to social media sayin. "Ps we are still married so good luck with the wedding" with a big smiley emoji

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    Wow!!! What is her problem! Definitely go see a judge asap. Hopefully he/she can make her sign the papers and get everything filed.

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  • Mrs_J
    Super September 2018
    Mrs_J ·
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    Woah. Ex wife is something else ain't she? Snarky little bitch

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  • CoffeeNColor
    Master August 2017
    CoffeeNColor ·
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    That seems really shady of her lawyer. But also sloppy of him to not follow up with his own lawyer. Now that he's wiser up, he had better be contacting his lawyer to get the decree finalized.

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  • futuremrswmh
    Super October 2018
    futuremrswmh ·
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    I was so angry with him because I don't understand how someone can not know that. He showed me the emails where his lawyer (a shit lawyer in my opinion) sent him an email saying "here is the divorce decree" and attached the draft she had received but never said a word other than that. He assumed it was taken care of.

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  • P
    Master April 2018
    Powers2 ·
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    Holy crap.

    This sounds like a mess. He needs to consult an attorney asap.

    I don't want be a downer but my uncontested divorce took 10 months. How quickly a divorce can be finalized sometimes depends on the work load that your county has. GL.

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  • futuremrswmh
    Super October 2018
    futuremrswmh ·
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    Since we've already sent save the dates and put down deposits we will be doing our ceremony and reception on our originally planned date. If we can't do it legally by then, we will just have to get it legalized after.

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  • LuckyAK
    VIP March 2018
    LuckyAK ·
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    Yeah just finalize it later if it's not done in time- dont give her the satisfaction of knowing she upset you

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  • T
    Super August 2017
    Toya ·
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    Wow....omg...This is crazy..I hope everything can get resolved in time for your big day.

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  • FutureMrsBurroughs
    VIP October 2017
    FutureMrsBurroughs ·
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    Oh my, I am so sorry! This just stinks all the way around! Yuck! Your FH needs to check with his attorney and find out what the laws are in both states and how that may affect your being able to marry in 4 months. Better to know everything up front that way you can prepare.

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  • futuremrswmh
    Super October 2018
    futuremrswmh ·
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    It just sucks too because she has constantly thrown it in my face that since we are not legally married yet, I'm not the child's stepmom and she doesn't even want me around the child

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  • Kiera
    Expert September 2017
    Kiera ·
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    WOW. What a piece of work his ex is! Yikes!

    My FH just had this exact nightmare! Except he and he ex split in 2007. He was technically still married when we started dating.

    Research common law divorce for your state/states. It should be something like all you have to do is prove the couple has been living separate and apart for a certain amount of time. I'd also look for a divorce attorney in TX who also knows OK divorce law and/or how interstate divorce would work. is your FH now a legal resident of TX? If so that will help. Good luck!!!

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  • NerdyBride
    Super August 2017
    NerdyBride ·
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    Omg I'm so sorry! Since they have a child, has FH been wrongfully paying her child support for the past few years too?

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
    lyla ·
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    OMG this is horrible Smiley sad I'm so sorry you are going through this. Perhaps consider a new attorney since his old divorce attorney didn't even seem to follow up or get confirmation about this...

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
    lyla ·
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    OMG this is horrible Smiley sad I'm so sorry you are going through this. Perhaps consider a new attorney since his old divorce attorney didn't even seem to follow up or get confirmation about this...

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  • futuremrswmh
    Super October 2018
    futuremrswmh ·
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    And yes he has been paying $400/mo in child support to his "wife." And yes he is a legal resident of tx

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  • MrsO2017
    Dedicated June 2017
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    She's jealous. If she was over him, she wouldn't act like this. Don't let her bother you (i know, easier said then done.) At the end of the day, he may be "married" to her, but he's your man. Her behavior is pathetic, and everyone around her can see it, especially if she posts that kind of BS online. Don't waste your anger on her. Pity her. Her life is sad.

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  • Lauren
    VIP October 2017
    Lauren ·
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    PP said it as well but Sweet Home Alabama was on the other night and that's all I can think of! Get that stuff signed!

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  • Mrs. Koalajetski
    Super May 2017
    Mrs. Koalajetski ·
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    Oh wow I am so so sorry to hear this!! I can't imagine the nightmare this is for you. I hope his ex remembers who Karma is cause she will surely be coming for her. Here's to hoping the divorce gets expedited

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  • Bemyguest
    Master April 2017
    Bemyguest ·
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    Screenshot her comments and bring them with you. Also have child support statements because they could do something about that too. Document everything. Don't handle anything with her via phone calls, only text or email.

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  • futuremrswmh
    Super October 2018
    futuremrswmh ·
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    I definitely screenshot everything!

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