Vegan Wedding

@MustLoveCats and other vegan/vegetarian brides/grooms - you may want to double-check about food allergies like nuts. I, my brother, my nephew, and my brother-in-law are all deathly allergic to nuts. I don't have a problem with vegan food that is delicious and filling, but I have had problems eating in vegan restaurants because of my allergy. As long as I know what I can and can't eat at an event, I am fine. Just make sure you have filling options for people with other food allergies or dietary restrictions besides soy and gluten.

Oh gosh that's awful.

I went to a vegan wedding that was the same thing. Only the bride was vegan. Catered by chipotle in a church gym, therefore no alcohol.

Smh. I wonder if anyone said anything to her

Well, she got the wedding she hosted. Her menu was what mattered (not her guests). Sorry, but you don't invite people to attend your wedding, expect them to absorb the costs of gifting, attire, travel, and lodging, and then present them with apps and entrees to which they aren't accustomed. But the biggest faux pax was the cash bar. An expensive cash bar, a vegan menu (including dessert) that doesn't resonate with lots of people....and she's mad people left early? No big mystery here.

Vegan food can be delicious but it has to be prepared correctly. My brother has been vegan like 20 years and he's made plenty of food vegan and non-vegan for his guests and its been delicious but people have to know what they are doing. The cash bar is what sent people over the edge I think.

If people are morally opposed to serving meat, they need to make that known ahead of time. Had they done that, and had open bar, I think that would have been fine.

There are so many amazing vegan options out there that an awesome caterer could have done. Sounds to me like they picked the wrong caterer.

This really sounds like a poor caterer. I am not vegan but I eat a lot of vegan dishes because of a food allergy and I plan on serving vegan cupcakes at my wedding since I can't have cake and there are several guests coming with food allergies. That being said, we are also having a full dessert bar that is completely off limits to me and there are also meal choices from the caterer that is off limits.

Also no cash bar.

I'm not vegan but I wouldn't mind being at an entirely vegan wedding if the food was good. I have several people who will be attending my wedding who cannot have gluten. I will not be having a gluten free wedding but I will have gluten free options for those who need it.

My friend once breaded and fried a mushroom called hen of the wood for me. It tastes exactly like chicken, with a surprisingly nice texture. They where like lightened up chicken nuggets, and I thought they were amazing (and I despise mushrooms). If I we're served amazing vegan food like that, I'd be down. But this sounds like a fail in food quality more than ettiquette.

We went to a vegan wedding. At the time I didn't have an issue because the food was varied and actually tasty. However, it is also the night we learned my fiance had a soy allergy. That was less than ideal.

The food can't just be about you. You need to take your guests into consideration. Sorry you had to deal with that.

Wow

To me, refusing to serve meat because you're morally opposed to it is the same as refusing to serve booze because you're morally opposed to it. The arguments of, you don't need meat for every meal, and, I'd never expect someone who didn't eat meat to offer it, are the same that could be used for booze and recovering alcoholic. For the record, I'm serving both at my wedding. I'd also wouldn't expect a vegetarian to offer meat at their wedding but nor would i expect a recovering alcoholic to offer booze at theirs.

Vegan and vegetarian options at my venue are way cheaper than meat. I wonder if they used her as an excuse to save money..

@Spaghetti Pasta and such usually tends to be really cheap but once you get into the mock meats, (e.g. textured vegetable protein, seitan, whatever product someone feels inspired to make out of soy) it can get spendy.

Good, well crafted vegan food is not cheaper than meat.

I'm of the mind that guests should be catered to....I've catered meals for vegetarians and vegans (like the one that made it to About) but they have always included items for other people who don't choose to eat that way; it is, afterall, a choice and I don't necessarily think you get to choose what 100 people will eat no more than you can choose if they drink or not. I've bee at parties with shitty food of all kinds.

Going to a wedding is (has become) a big deal; time, money, travel, sitters, gifts. I don't think it's unreasonable for a guest with that kind of investment to expect food they'd enjoy.

I like how all these people keeping saying how vegan food can be really good. That is your opinion. You cannot only serve vegan food and think you properly hosted.

To those questioning my carnivore comment: I say that as a joke. I eat a lot of meat and I do eat pasta, potatoes, rice.... pretty much carbs. I eat some fruits. But I need protein over anything else. So if my best friend said she was only having vegan food at her wedding, I wouldn't be going. I don't care what your "moral" or "ethical" problems with meat are. Our bodies are designed to process meat because we NEED it. So just because your deprive yourself of what your body needs doesn't mean I have to, or that I should support you in forcing that onto others.

I just don't understand the rancor over one vegan meal. That seems so close-minded and whiny to me (also not really based on scientific research like O&s said). Also, I think the difference between a vegan wedding for moral purposes and a dry wedding for moral purposes is that a vegan does not want to use their money to support cruelty--can't say the same about alcohol. So if you opt for a chicken meal for 100 guests, that's, like, 50 chickens you spent thousands of your dollars to kill.

And if this bride had used the same shitty catering company to supply chicken? Would've been 50 chickens that had to die just to be unappetizing and go uneaten.