Vegan Wedding

This is why I'm not telling people our dessert is vegan. And we're offering meat for non-veg like my FH.

That was poor hosting on the couple's part. Even if you are vegan there are going to be guests who prefer meat and other non-vegan foods. Plus a cash bar?! I do not blame people for leaving early. I would.

That's horrible! I went to a wedding last year and the groom was vegan, however he just had a special vegan dish made for him and they served chicken to everyone else. I couldn't imagine being at a vegan only wedding AND having to pay for a drink. Smh.

That's rude. In every freaking way. Hungry sober people don't dance an mingle....

@Katie, nope he is not. He will eat whatever she cooks because he is use to it after 9 years together but other than that he is a meat eater.

@Samantha the dessert was amazing, and honestly I would've eaten all of it. I knew it was vegan and wanted to give it a try because I had never had vegan cupcakes

We know we have vegans and vegetarians invited and possibly attending our wedding so we will have specific dishes set aside for them. But other than that we are serving meat.

Vegan or not, the food should have been appetizing. And cash bar? Ugh poor hosting all around.

Ugh. I have no problem going vegetarian for a few meals, but vegan food tend to either involve soy, which I am allergic to,or just be various vegetables on a plate, which get very samey. Throw some cheese and butter on that and top it with a runny egg please! And the cash bar is just unforgivable.

I eat meat every day, but I've been to some vegan restaurants that were outstanding, where I ate tons. Vegan weddings can be pulled off with the right caterer. It sounds like this one wasn't.

@MrsBeetoBe now I was raised to eat everything on your plate otherwise it is seen as rude, however I took bites of everything and there was just some stuff I could not stomach. And there was so much cauliflower that the stench was over powering and a bit nauseating.

@A.L. I've had some good vegan good but this caterer just fell short on everything, I don't know if they are newer because of a new venue, or if they had an off night.

Ugh, I don't understand why people do this. I have celiac disease & therefore am strictly gluten free, but no way in hell was I going to force all of my guests to eat gluten free as well. I had my meal that was specially made & prepared separately & one tier on the cake that was gluten free. Everything else was full of gluten for everyone else's enjoyment.

And don't even get me started on the cash bar...

This sounds like what my cousins wedding will be; she's vegan and has forced her boyfriend to become vegan. She moved into his house and turned it vegan, refusing any non-vegan food into it. Sorry you had to attend this wedding, I hope you got a pizza & beer after the wedding.

@Annie luckily it was over by 10:30 we so went to BDubs and got wings and beer.

I think multiple things being cauliflower based is actually more unappealing than just having a vegan menu. If you're serving a crowd, you want to please as many people as possible and you need variety to do that. She might have been okay with one cauliflower dish, a lentil-based dish, a salad, a squash dish, stuffed peppers and a vegan pasta, provided they were all high quality. But lots of kinds of cauliflower is just unappealing.

I love poultry more than any other meat, but my guests will get to choose between chicken, beef, salmon and pasta. If I were serving chicken, duck, turkey and squab, it would be my best meal ever but an asshole move for my guests.

Vegan food can be delicious and honestly, it's for one meal. Would you expect someone who kept kosher or halal to serve bacon? Our silent vegan option will be carrot osso buco, which I'd snarf up in an instant compared to the bog-standard chicken with beige sauce.

The real ish here was the cash bar, imo.

That sucks

The cash bar is probably the main reason people were bored and leaving early, tbh.

I eat mostly vegetarian, and H is 100% vegetarian so we wouldn't have had any issue with no meat.

If the food was poorly prepared, or poorly thought out that is a completely different issue (which it sounds like what you are saying in your post), BUT this would have been a problem if they had served meat, so I don't really think this is a vegan/non-vegan issue, its a crappy caterer issue.

That's aweful

My best friend is trying to do all vegan for her wedding and i had to make her understand that all of her guest are not vegan. So wrong to do it based on 1 peraon

I feel that it's rude for anyone who isn't a vegetarian or vegan to not provide options for their guests that are, so it should work the other way around. You should always cater to all of your guests. And there should never be a cash bar.