Vegan Wedding

@Kate, True point. Maybe the groom was just picking his battles?

I went to a wedding last year where both brides were vegan. The food was good, though unfortunately the mosquitoes in attendance (of which there were plenty in the unlit outhouse 200 feet away in the rain) were not vegan.

Honestly if it was an open bar and vegan I would be okay with it!

I do not find most vegan meals apprtizing and without booze I would have been miserable. i would try to hold out as long as possible. im sorry the bride was sad people did not eat but honestly if the food isnt what the guesta will eat then that is what happens.

@Kate! Yes! And the ceremony was outside without a tent in a complete downpour. Someone (I think a cousin of one of the brides) yanked an umbrella from out of my hand, saying it "was for the wedding party." It wasn't.

Yeah, like Danielle said, I have had some downright inedible chicken, a cold and sweaty pasta bar with abundant meat and cheese, and just all-around bland meat at weddings. It's certainly unfortunate that they didn't vet the caterer to make sure they got a good one, but I really don't think veganism is the problem. (I'd also like to point of that veganism goes was beyond soy products. Fried potatoes, garlic bread, and pesto pasta are all vegan and I bet no one complains about those things).

If they are truly vegan because of their personal beliefs, and not recent "What the Health" converts, then why should they compromise their sincerely held convictions not for just one meal, but a meal x100 (or however many people they invite)? For those who believe that eating meat is an act of violence, that would be turning your wedding into a mass slaughter.

I am having a vegan/vegetarian only wedding, and I don't see any problems with this. I informed my guests about our menu choice. when they come they know what to expect. The problem in this wedding was the cash bar and a bad caterer. There are outstanding vegan catering options available but they are usually a bit more expensive. I opted for a well known vegan/ vegetarian caterer and could never pay for meat with a good conscience. It is absolutely against my believes and all my guests know. People can deal with one meal being meatless!

I'm sorry you had such a bad experience!!! The cash bar is definitely tacky but I completely relate to the couple not serving meat if it's against their beliefs.

We are having an all vegan wedding, that being said 30%of my guests are also vegan and I am getting our catering from an all vegan bar and grill that I take my non veg friends to all the time and they either can't tell the difference or enjoy it just as much. We also had non veg friends sample the food we ordered to make sure they liked it.

We will have sloppy joes, jackfruit crab cakes (which taste the same as regular), vegan mac and cheese(non soy), various veggie sides like roast garlic potatoes and asparagus with a lemon cream sauce, plus a taco bar and amazing deserts.

I purposely picked more casual foods that are generally enjoyable and can be made veg without much change to the taste or appearance. I know the majority of my guest will enjoy it!

Eww sounds like horrible hosting. I would've probably left too.

I'm a meat eater through and through, but I wouldn't expect a vegan to serve animal products at their wedding. Nobody should have to compromise their ethics. I would just grab food beforehand if I knew in advance; I'm a very picky eater so it's not uncommon for me. One meal without meat won't kill anyone.

As long as people are aware beforehand and the food is prepared well there isn't a problem. It doesn't seem to be the way in this case, which is unfortunate. It was poor catering from what I can tell.

My question is this.... if you are so ethically opposed to serving animal products, why would you marry a meat eater?

If it's two Vegans/Vegetarians and they choose not to serve, fine whatever, but if only half of the couple is ethically opposed to meat, I don't see why that's acceptable.

I'm going to take heat for this but I love this joke.

A vegan, an atheist, and a cross-fitter walk into a bar. I know that because they told me within 5 seconds of meeting them...

Personally, one of the most lavish weddings I have ever been to was for a Jewish friend that kept kosher. Even he had tons of non-kosher food for all the guests.

On another note Chrissie Hynde had a great Vegan restaurant in Akron I used to go to. I'm not vegan but I love good food.

I'm a carnivore. While I may not agree with other people's beliefs and choices, I respect them enough to offer them a meal option at our wedding. And an open bar because no good story started out with "I was eating a salad....".

@Katie thank you for making me spit out my drink

@TwistedPrincess I agree. We are carnivores but when we were deciding on our menu we kept in mind those who are not. We have 1 app that is vegan/vegetarian friendly, salad (comes with the menu we picked) and we have to provide our caterers with the names and numbers of the vegan/vegetarian dishes we are providing to those guests. Our venue only does open bar, but we were going to do that anyways so it was a no brainer.

I am a carnivore. I do not eat vegetable of any kind. I did keep in mind to have a veggie option for those who do not eat meat. That being said you could not pay me enough to go to any event that only had vegan food there. I don't care how close we are if you aren't giving me real food to eat I won't be there.

@Shauna I reread the invitation and every insert included in it when we got home Saturday night to see if I had missed the part where it said vegan only meal and nowhere on the invite or inserts was there anything about food options or what was being served. The vegan dessert was delicious and honestly if I hadn't already know they were vegan I probably would never figured it out. But a heads up about dinner would've been awesome on their end especially for those with allergies and picky eaters. We were googling places to eat that were open after 10:30 pm. FH has Chron's so there is food he cannot touch and sadly some of the food served was included in what he cannot eat

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Shauna, you're a carnivore? So you ONLY eat animal products and never pasta, rice, bread, potatoes or any type of grain or starch? And never a fruit or vegetable of any kind? If that is true, then you have more problems than being served a vegan meal at a wedding. That's a pretty sad diet.

That's unfortunate. :/

That sounds awful. My only guess is that the bride didn't do her research before hand. You said it waws beautiful, that great but she didn't properly host it. Now she'll probably hear about it for years and find it upseting. Feed everyone things they'll eat and give them good drinks, thats all there is to it

It honestly just depends on the food because there are some food dishes that are not appetizing and they're not vegan. FH and I are ethical vegans we met in vegan singles which is a Facebook group so the whole foundation of our relationship is based on being ethical vegans and no one has said anything to us about our vegan wedding everybody's been very excited and supportive of course half our family and friends are vegan though too so it would be against our beliefs and morals if we were to serve anything that wasn't vegan though we also are serving our food gluten-free and soy-free too, as me and other guests have dietary restrictions and we just wanted to be safe so no one would have a reaction at our wedding. Everyone who has seen the menu so far has said that looks amazing and they can't wait and we also will be having five hours of open bar so no one has said anything negative to us. In fact there are many non-vegan family and friends that are nothing but supportive. It honestly just really depends on how the food is prepared.