Using a "fake diamond" engagement ring

I think it's sad. We know people who try to say they have stuff that is better than they actually have and it's just sad. Why make up stories or try to keep up with the joneses. Just be real.

Yeah its tacky

And you decided it's your job to do that? Other than you, who cares whether or not the diamond is real?

KitandKaboodle,

I'd never go around telling people I thought her ring was fake! That would be so unnecessarily nasty and cause so much unnecessary drama! I wouldn't want to embarrass her, besides, I think her ring is pretty.

Did you even read my message? Where did you even get that?

Honestly who cares? If it looks real and people think it is why bother correcting? I would get annoyed with correcting people if I had a fake. Sometimes it's just easier to go along with.

Also if she's not outright telling people it's real, she's not being tacky at all. It's no one's business but her and her FH.

I wouldn't say tacky, I'd say it's just SMH material. I had an acquaintance in college who had a ring like that and everytime she showed it off or talked about it I just felt bad for her.

You'd never go around telling people I thought her ring was fake, yet you're posting here that you have a passion for jewelry and a bit of an expert so you know a diamond that size would be $10k - $15k and they're not rich. If it is fake, so what. She's happy with HER ring. And as you can see, I did read your post.

BTW OP, I had a friend who wore a fake engagement ring. I never questioned or challenged when she showed it off. You know why, because that's what her fiancé could afford.

My bff had to sell the diamond out of her ring because they fell on really hard times and needed the money. She was ashamed to tell me for a while because she thought I would think less of her, or her DH. I told her that I would never judge her for something so stupid and that she had to do what she had to do to take care of her family and to screw anyone who judges her.

When I worry about what someone else thinks I remind of what Martha Graham said: "What people in the world think of you is really none of your business.” At the end of the day, it doesn't affect me what someone else thinks. It's their problem, not mine.

Count me in camp "who cares."

I'm also in camp "who cares".

My ring is tiny and dainty and definitely not one to brag about how big or expensive it was, because it wasn't. It's a white sapphire and when I'm talking to friends who are interested in the ring, I tell them that. But I don't correct every single person who mentions the "diamond". I don't care one way or another because I picked out my own ring so it's exactly what I want, but sometimes it's weird to respond to a compliment with anything other than "thanks".

Non diamond does not mean "fake". It's still a real stone, just not the typical choice.

I agree with kitandkaboodle who cares. As long as she is happy that is all that matters.

Why do you care?

@Elizabeth - I was just about to ask the same thing.

She shouldn't have to correct anyone. She's happy with her ring no matter what it is. So why do you feel you need to point out on any media outlet if her ring is real or not.

Let me start with telling you a story...

When my parents got engaged they were broke college students. My dad saved and bought mom a nice gold ring with a real diamond.

A few months later he had to come back and confess that he needed money to pay for school. She offered to pawn the ring and that's what they did.

People would ask her what happened, thinking that the missing ring must mean they'd broken off the engagement. She'd then have to deal with explaining the "embarrassing" situation to them.

Eventually they were able to buy the ring back and all was good.

The point is, don't judge people for buying the ring they can afford. My parents both look back on that and see how it would've been more wise to buy a cheaper "fake" ring at the time, and possibly upgrade it later, instead of getting the nice one and then having to go through selling it.

The ring I have is silver instead of gold and has a "fake" gem. It was originally intended as a promise ring and I wore it on my other hand. When we started talking about getting engaged I told FH that I didn't want him to buy me another, fancier, ring. I told him I loved the ring he got me and wanted to use that. So when he proposed that's just what he did. He knows I would've killed him if he spent a ton of money on a nicer ring. I'd rather save that money and use it on something else.

I still show off my ring to people. And if they call it a diamond, I don't bother correcting them. It would only be awkward and leave them thinking that FH was cheap, or result in me having to explain that it was my choice, not his. Either way it's not worth it. I'm thrilled with it and that's all that matters. It's the meaning behind it that's important, not the cost.

If she's happy with her "fake" ring, who are you to question her? If she tried to sell the ring or gave it away as a real diamond, then there would be a problem. But it sounds like she is just thrilled he proposed and loves the ring regardless, so who cares? Let people be happy, geez.

I understand the thought of "well it's deceitful and that's wrong." But in cases like this, does it really matter? Is anyone being hurt by the "deceit"? No. The only one who would be hurt is if she told the truth and people thought less of her fiancé because of it. There's no valid reason for that.

My ring was $25. It's obviously not a real diamond. I've never corrected anyone but I've also never flashed it and said it was real. It's really bitchy to call someone out cause you're a self proclaimed jewelry expert. Let her be happy.

Amen @ 1sooner.fan