Using a "fake diamond" engagement ring

Not your business. You don't sound like a good friend.

You don't know 100% that it's NOT a diamond.

I think it's tacky that you're posting this. Sorry.

I'm interested in seeing this ring. Can you find a stock photo of it? I wouldn't want you taking her picture and posting it.

I mean, I'm pretty sure you're not a flower...

Yet, here you are using a "fake default picture".

I'm also in team WHO CARES!!

Who cares how big the stone is, how real the stone is, and what carat the gold is. An engagement is a romantic, beautiful thing, and if her stone is CZ, WHO FUCKING CARES.

I think it's tacky to talk about your friends ring on a internet forum. If I was her I would be more concerned about my fake friend. "Not a fake diamond".

It could very well be real - people go into massive debt for engagement rings all the time and take years to pay them off. It's dumb, but it definitely happens.

Oh and one more thing. A friend got an 8,000 credit limit at a jewelry store to buy a ring so you never know maybe her ring is real and her FH put it on a credit card. You are way too judgmental and stuck up please mind your own business.

Since most people are mentioning debt, her FH could have saved for years for that ring. You don't know. And just because she didn't say it was a heirloom doesn't mean it isn't. Mine diamond is an heirloom and I don't go posting it everywhere because it is nobody's business.

I don't think shanna meant to come off rude or stuck up. I think she was just sparking up conversation. my thoughts on the topic is that its not tacky unless she is saying her ring is a diamond and it isn't. it could possibly be one though. maybe his parents helped pay for the ring? or maybe he saved up money. My FH is awesome as saving up money and when he makes a big purchase people are always asking where he got the money from. he just says "my bank account. where else?" also, I feel like "diamond" is such a widely used word. like if I went to claires to look for cheap CZ earrings, I would most likely ask "where do you guys have the plain diamond earrings" I wouldn't ask for CZ earrings. so when someone says "big diamond" to her, she probably wont correct them. its not a big deal in my opinion.

I don't think it's tacky. It's not up to anyone else to judge if her ring is real. She is proud of her ring, and that's all that matters. My grandmother used to say that it's not our job to police other people's opinions of us, it's our job to make sure we are happy with what we have and who we are. They may not have a lot of money, so it sounds like she's proud of what she has. Also, she might be trying to be considerate of all the people assuming it's a diamond and not making things uncomfortable for them. Why make things awkward if they don't have to be?

I don't think OP is being judgemental, just asking whether or not we think it is weird. If I knew for sure that it wasn't a diamond, I would think it's a bit strange that she wouldn't say something if people are making a big deal about it. There are a number of girls on WW with beautiful non-diamond stones who state what their stone is when they post pics of their rings. But, because you have no way of knowing whether her ring is a diamond or not, I don't think we can really answer your question fairly.

I normally don't get involved in these type of conversations but I do have to say ...to each it's own and if it is a CZ than so be it... She's obviously happy she got engaged. My fiancé doesn't make much and what ever he made, almost half of his salary goes to both his kids for child support. He did whatever he could to save up and bought a very expensive ring for me and a matching wedding band. The center stone is very clean and is a little over a carat. That said some people at my work talked behind my back saying its a CZ. Made me feel like crap cause it was a my bridesmaid. You never know

The future bride I think is just excited and I wouldn't pay her any mind.

I think non-diamonds are a great alternative, many times they are conflict-free, which is important to me. I could not live with a blood diamond on my hand, personally. It's why I chose an ethical morganite stone.

But yes I think it's flaky when someone acts like they have a diamond and it's clearly not. It says a lot about who she is and the importance she places on how people perceive her. If you really wanted, you could comment asking what type of stone it is...?

Ugh see this is why I hate posting on WW and do it so rarely. So many people misread or misinterpret comments! Or bored trolls looking to start drama.

- I never said she was a friend. I never said she was someone I disliked either. She's just "someone I know."

- Did I not say in BIG CAPITAL LETTERS that I was not judging her for having a CZ or non diamond ring? I believe I used the word BEAUTIFUL in fact.

- Posting anonymously on a random forum is hardly calling her out or publicly shaming her. None of you know who I am and none of you know who this girl is. This is not going to get back to her.

- The first sentence of my post said that it was not meant or intended to sound catty. I thought that would be disclaimer enough. People just don't read.

Thank you to those of you who got the point of this message! Now time for my 6 month hiatus while I forget why I never post on here in the first place.

Really? Bored trolls looking for drama? Almost everyone who posted on this thread is a WW regular. If anyone is a "bored troll looking for drama," it's you, OP.

Peace out, dude.

I don't go around telling everyone mine is moisannite. It's more trouble than it's worth to explain what that is and why we chose it. It hurts no one to let them think it's a diamond. If people ask I tell them, and the people that count know what it is....seriously, who cares.

You asked, WW answered. In the words of the lovely five star members, "You are being an askhole."

I agree that the OP was just being conversational and not judgey. She clearly said the non-diamond choices were also beautiful. It was more of a discussion of "should this be disclosed?" when people are commenting. People need to chill.

I have a white sapphire, and I purposefully told my FH that was the stone I wanted. I like that it is almost as hard as a diamond and I like clear stones because they match more. It is beautiful, it is not a "fake" diamond, but a real sapphire.

EDIT: I do tell people though - not only is it a white sapphire, but lab created! Oh the horror! Except I don't need to worry about the ethics of my jewelry since even the silver/palladium is from recycled metals and handmade by a woman in California. If people want to judge, let them.