Using a "fake diamond" engagement ring

Why does it really matter if it is a "real diamond" or not? It doesnt matter it any less important if it isnt real. Besides the whole diamond market is a huge scam anyway, good for her for not buying into a diamond = love thing. Let your "friend" be happy about her ring and her engagement. You should be celebrating with your friend not talking behind her back.

Am I the only one who thinks its hilarious that someone who's a "jewelry expert" can look at any ring based on a shitty photo and tell you the price?

Gemologists use intense microscopes to look at diamond quality, but you KNOW how much that would've cost.

Oy.

Self proclaimed 'expert' or not, how exactly can you tell it's fake by a facebook photo? Diamonds can be 'large' and still inexpensive if their clarity/color are not ideal, and vice versa. And like others said, maybe he saved and/or went into debt. either way, WHO CARES?

Mind you own business.

ETA - i also really hate when people start a post with "I don't want to come off bitchy/catty/rude/etc." and then proceed to post something that is bitchy/catty/rude. Just because you pre-qualify your statement with a disclaimer, that doesn't make it ok.

Fyi, people we're mentioning that you may feel attacked - that wasn't my intent. i want to clarify that it is the same as giving someone a compliment on anything. if someone says your bag or shoes are nice and I got them from steve madden... i am not going to say "yeah, they are knock off giuseppes or michael kors" or "it's not real leather" most people will just say thank you and move on... i think that's what everyone else is saying. even if she is pretentious, why waste a thought on someone like that unless it bothers your own perception of you. just some food for thought.

My ring is an heirloom and worth $25k, I wonder if people think I'm just being flashy. Even though it's half the size of most of the ginormous halos I see on here lately. SIL's ring is probably worth 50-75k, also heirloom.

You know what happens when you assume, yeah?

I actually think it'd be very strange if she did correct everyone.

Friend: What a beautiful and HUGE diamond ring!

Future Bride: Thanks! It's totally fake!

As long as she's not telling people it's real, it's actually classier to just take the compliments.

Okay, you said she isn't correcting them. Since the engagement ring was PRESUMABLY purchased by her fiance - not her - maybe she doesn't know?

WTF is up with WW this morning?

OP, to answer your question, Yes it is tacky to fool people into thinking you have something you don't.

But this girl is not doing that. She hasn't posted "OMG look at my huge diamond!" or anything like that. She is just not correcting people who comment on it, because as Reese said, it's "classier to just take the compliments". So this girl is not being tacky.

I agree with Reese and Kassy. But I have to say that if it was me, and my stone looked like a diamond, but wasn't, I'd feel weird about it.

Why is anyone concerned about her ring, IF its fake & shes happy that's all that matters. You don't mean to sound "Catty" but you are & somewhat trifling. What matter is it to you...are you jealous...Yeah, you sound jealous. Sad really.

1. Why is this even a post?

2. WHY is this even a post????

Why should it matter if her ring is fake or not. This girl is obviously happy to get engaged. Let her enjoy her ring regardless if it's fake.

I wholeheartedly agree with all who mentioned the fact that the post started with that it was not meant or intended to sound catty. This usually is a clue that something catty is coming. Sort of like saying bless her heart then saying something awful. It doesn't negate the negative portion of the comments. Also because digital media can make tone not come across correctly, it usually best to avoid topics where you have to explain to the reader that you aren't being catty, judgmental, or offensive. How many times have you heard, "Don't be offended, BUT.....". OP it sounds like there is some ring envy going on even if its not a "real" stone.

I love my ring. FH didn't have to go into debt to pay for it, and he picked it out for ME. And it means I get to marry the love of my life. He could have gotten me a ring out of the gumball machine for all I cared. I get to spend the rest of my life being married to him.

ETA: She may be messaging people privately to tell them the ring isn't a diamond if in fact it is some other gemstone, just because she doesn't want to disclose that fact publicly on her FB.

I also have a friend who had a 4 carat diamond ring that was a family heirloom. But that wasn't public knowledge because who cares. Because it was so large, most people, wrongly assumed it was fake or a cocktail ring.

I'm on the "who cares" team.

My engagement ring isn't big, flashy, or expensive. When FH and I were talking about getting engaged I actually told him that I didn't want him to spend a lot on my ring. We have a daughter, and I'd much rather put that money towards her college fund, or a down payment on a house. The commitment was what mattered to me, and I love my ring!

I've since gotten a few snide comments from people when I show them my ring, saying things like, "Oh, it's nice.. and years down the road you can upgrade to more expensive ring!" Like, why the hell would I want to do that?! To each their own, but when I look down at my finger 25 years from now, I want to see the ring my FH got down on one knee in front of our friends and nervously proposed to me with. The sentimental value is WAY more important to me than a flashy piece of jewellery.

Real or not, if she's happy with her ring, let her be happy.

I am not in The Who Cares group. I think when people start commenting about the “diamond” instead of “ring”, it’s tacky to intentionally mislead people by omission into believing it is a diamond. That’s like wearing a fake Louis Vuitton purse, having people comment on the pretty LV bag and not correcting them. She should be proud of whatever stone she has. Non disclosure when intentional is just tacky. Why not be proud of your ring? However, we are also assuming it’s not real. Maybe it is? You never know..

Also, prices range dramatically with quality.

Sure it may be annoying especially if she's a social media over-sharer, but why do you care? If people assumed it was a diamond I wouldn't use a platform like that to, essentially, publicly deprecate my FH for not being able to afford a real diamond...

Yes, your post sounds catty. Why do you care? I love jewelry and consider myself an expert too- but it’s none of your business. Why do you care if it’s not a real diamond? Maybe it’s a simulated diamond. Maybe it is a topaz, sapphire or moissanite. I have a blue sapphire- no, it’s not a diamond. No- we don’t have a lot of money. But it was a lot of money for us at the time. Diamonds can be boring to some people, like me. I love gemstones and really don’t think it matters if she’s not correcting people. Not your problem.