*Update* To upgrade ring or not

Val mine wasnt necessarily negative I was just pointing out what I was gathering from this conversation, telling her our honest point if view is not being rude, it's being helpful and honest.

If my friend asks if her shirts ugly I tell her if it was or not, I'm sharing my opinions this is what these boards are for. Not for people to come on here a sugar coat your life for you and reconfirm your actions.

If I know the answer I don't ask the question, If I won't accept the answer I won't ask it either. It's a waste of message board space, my time and the other posters time and energy.

I'm not saying every person who didn't agree with her was being negative.. I get it everyone has an opinion.. But the gold digger part was a lil negative..we don't know the husband and can't assume that's what he thinks of her....if my fiancé bought me a 5 carat ring instead of a .49 would I be considered a gold digger? if you dont care for the space of this post then ignore and move on to the next..just saying.

I have a friend who 'upgraded' her engagement ring. her first ring was beautiful but she felt it wasn't good enough. she's the kind of person who never feels she's good enough about anything and is always comparing herself to others, so i'm not surprised she felt that way about the ring. i find the word "upgrade' off-putting. to me an engagement ring is a promise, not a gift. how do you 'upgrade' a promise?

so in the end, all i can say is i don't understand where you're coming from. but i love my ring, so if i didn't, maybe then i'd get it. my ring is a beautiful family heirloom so the value runs very deep. so do what makes you happy...

@Reenski I agree with you! I agree! I appericate the thoughts and comments from all. Now, if I could get some rainbows and unicorns I would take that over a diamond upgrade anyday. lol

@Amy thanks for understanding. I love my ring but come on who wouldn't get a slightly bigger diamond if they started with a 1/3 carat! lol : ) Maybe not every year but I'm taking the first upgrade.

And to put the gold digger notion to rest I make more money than my husband and own my home (which is now ours) but I ain't no gold digger with a .33 carat ring!!!! lol

I don't know if she was necessarily saying you're a gold digger... I looked at it differently, like saying that he think you NEED a new/bigger ring every year and that THAT is what is important to you and not a healthy/happy marriage.

Kali- My ring was under $2k and I love it. I would never upgrade because it doesn't matter to me; however, if it was something that mattered to me and I could afford it I would. Your husband spoils you and that is GREAT! We are all spoiled in our own ways, I get spoiled with a new tattoo every year, or new earrings, new iphone (every time they come out with a new one!), etc. I think that when you are in love you spoil people because you want to make them happy. If you can afford it then why not! If it is special to you and your husband and you daughter then most certainly do it! Each person is different, I can say I think it's silly, but thats only because I like different things. You may think it is silly to get new tattoos. LOL. If your husband wants to spoil you then I would say you are a lucky lady. We all work hard and what is the point if we don't do nice things for each other. My other addition would be I hope you do something nice for him every year.

@Amanda let's just say I wake him up Very nice EVERYDAY! ; ) and thanks my sentiments exactly. I love tats so that is awesom! We are getting matching ones but can't decide on what to get. Leaning towards the number "1"

@Kali- Very nice! I want to get puzzles pieces that would fit together

@Amanda that is kewl. We were talking about going to Sturgis and thought it would be nice to get one there to remember the trip.

Who would not want a bigger diamond? ME! I don't have a diamond I have the stone of my choice. My daughter has the stone of her choice. Rings custom made also. We would never upgrade.

To upgrade is your choice. Of course you came on here for opinions, you got them. Will what anyone here says change your mind? No, your mind was made up to upgrade because it will be so special to your daughter. My daughter wears jewelry everyday she would die if I upgraded.

My ring is for me not for others to hear it is perfect internally.

That's awesome! I love romantic stuff like that! I do believe that is what keeps a marriage happy Enjoy the trip & if you upgrade the ring enjoy every minute of it! Some people aren't lucky enough to get spoiled. I'm grateful I am a rare one, like you.

Thank you ray ray that's exactly what I was saying... If I wanted to say you were one I just say it....

It doesn't matter how much you make, that doesn't change the sentiment of the ring... Sorry

How is it less expensive to upgrade every year rather then wait until 5 years? presumably every year will be more money than the last so why not save the money every year and get the upgrade in a few years. upgrading every years sounds ridiculous, no offense

My thoughts on upgrading is that you're taking away the ORIGINAL stone your FH/DH proposed with. That stone, the very first stone you ever saw, the one you said yes to, will forever be gone when you replace it with a new stone.

Size DOESN'T matter.

I plan to upgrade my ring at some point. I don’t see anything wrong with upgrading every 5 years, but I do think yearly is a bit excessive. Plus you wouldn’t even have the chance to get used to size of the ring when suddenly you’re upgrading it again. I would upgrade every few years or more and save your money or spend it else wear.

I am spoiled everyday. Anytime someone puts a load of laundry in or cleans up the kitchen. OMG if someone cleans my truck or the barn I am in heaven.

To answer your question. Yes it is a bit spoiled lol but hey if you can do it and if you can sleep at night not feeling guilty about it, then do it.

Haha MJ thats how i am spoiled too!

@kali P: ACTUALLY- just GIA inspected does NOT make them conflict free. GIA inspection just inspects the gems for places and gives reports on them. In order for them to be conflict free they have to be ethically sourced. GIA has nothing to do with that.

also, conflict free IF GIA certified diamonds are not actually as rare as you are making them sound. all you need to do is search a site like brilliant earth to find a decent amount...

my ring is also IF, super ideal cut, .33 carats. my diamond is from canada and GIA certified. while i would love an upgrade some day i will never trade in my original. i told my fiance he can get me an upgrade for our 10 year wedding anniversary.

I wouldn't upgrade either. After only a year?? This is the diamond that my baby picked out for me and this is the diamond I will always have.