Unpopular Opinion

View Quoted Comment So according to you I should force my FH to not have who he cares about the most in his sides I should make him have 4 boys. So it looks good. Or I should not have the girls I want.

View Quoted Comment I love the first dances.my favorite part by far.

View Quoted Comment Very true people do.

View Quoted Comment I’m not doing the garter thing either. My grandparents are going to be a big part of my wedding and i don’t want him going up my dress infront of them
i wont do programs either, mainly for the fact that I already have enough to do and don’t want to add another expense or item on my to do list.
I used to not want to do a first look... I’m still not sure but since the wedding will be on the beach and there is a good chance he will see me way down the beach... I am considering it. I am not sure yet.

I’m going to start off by saying if you like the things I do not particularly like that does not mean I think you’re “tacky” or just have awful tastes!
1st unpopular opinion would be burlap and mason jars as decoration. This is probably because I live in a very rural area and these things are used a lot here. For work and decorations.
2nd would be the dollar dance. I don’t mind if anyone else does it! I am just not a fan of attention and would be uncomfortable with someone giving me a dollar to dance with them. (My fiancé has some odd uncles 🤣).

I agree with many items on this thread but one I don’t see mentioned yet is a visceral hatred for THIS hideous font. And it’s even worse when attempting to be “rustic” on a brown background. 😖

(Is there anyone out there who didn’t read this example as the other word for female prostitute? WW filters wouldn’t let me spell it out...)

This font is THE WORST. It’s the 21st century version of Comic Sans. I’d literally rather use Wingdings. 😑

View Quoted Comment I have moissanite, too! Way more impressive if you ask me.

View Quoted Comment I have odd tastes and I’m positive that some will think my wedding is “boring” or “too plain” and I’m sure some will love it (myself and fiancé included). I’ve always wanted to go against the flow though and am happy to do things differently than everyone else. Actually, the wedding dress I bought I was told by the shop owner (I went elsewhere to purchase the same dress) that my dress did nothing for my body and looked “100 times worse that the first one”. Lol! I think when planning a wedding you really have to put your blinders on to others opinions and do what you and your fiancé want. I hope none of these opinions have put a damper on others plans. I say, you do you! I’m not into mason jars but I’m sure another bride could fix them up and make them look perfectly them for their big day.

My unpopular opinions:

Honeyfunds are convenient. If I want to give a gift and the couple has already been together a while (as most of the ones I know have), I'd rather chip in for them to have a great experience than to have crap they don't need. Being able to give online is great. I don't have to go get cash and I don't keep checks.

Fine with a dry wedding. I grew up in a very conservative Southern area. My county was dry until I was in my late teens. No alcohol is just not a big deal to me. Furthermore, I'm fine with a cash bar. If I don't want to spend money, I just don't drink. No sweat off my back. Not doing that at my wedding cause my friends care, but I honestly don't.

I am super anti jewelry, specifically diamonds. I think they are ugly. Just put some glass in there. It's the same thing. If I could forgo all wedding related jewelry I would be a okay, but FH is traditional in that way.

I think spending a lot of money on a wedding is outrageous. I am at like $7000 and can't believe people spend more than that on a big party. I'm not buying any flowers after looking at prices. How can anyone justify that on something that will die immediately afterwards?

Also, I hate all the kitchy wedding stuff. Why is anyone buying personalized hangers? No, I don't need a fitness program designed with my upcoming wedding in mind. WHY IS THERE A SUBSCRIPTION BOX FOR BRIDES?

I have more, but I will just be done now.

I've already posted what I think a bride should do when she has a bridal party or her groom has a groom's party full of men who are already married. After their ceremony: their groom should have his party members announced with their dates at the reception and be seated with them, and the bride should do the same.
Anything short of that, in my opinion, you are being selfish towards your wedding party. If you are really meant to be together you should not try to separate those people who are together.

Yeah, fine, it's your day. But don't be surprised by people wishing you less that well on your marriage adventure. It hasn't worked out well for the couples who have done that to me and my FI. Thus my FI is now a two time "Bestman" for the same groom. It takes it's toll.

My fbil had a sand ceremony. We wont be doing that. They also had no music. Granted there wasnt dancing, but still, some music would have been nice. We will be having music.
Bird seed. My mom put together little pockets of bird seed for my first wedding, I pas picking bird seed out of my hair for a week! And I was washing my hair daily at that point. Wont be doing that again.
I got my nails dine for my aunts wedding. No thank you! Acrylics hurt! I dont mind getting a basic manicure, with strengthener so my nails are strong enough to be long enough for an amazing paint job.
Lets see....what else...oh real flowers. We live in tennessee and it can get very hot, so fresh flowers dont stand a chance.
We are going to request money towards fun activities during our honeymoon, but we also are going to have it paid for before the wedding. Any donations will probably go towards bonus things, like a jar of moonshine for fh (I dont drink, so maybe a jug of tea for me), differemt museums (pigeon forge is where were having the whole shebang. Ceremony in the cabin we are using for our honeymoon! Around $5000 for 2 weeks stay in a massive cabin thats big enough for my family to stay with us for a couple days before and afterward, as my whole side is from out of state lus my kids from my previous marriage, so 9 + fh and I). Because we have lived together for the last 6 years, we dont need anything for the household, but we dont expect anything from anyone except their presence, you know, and their blessings. We dont really care about things or money as long as we have enough to keep our bills paid, we are happy. And I'm rambling. Ugh. I'm sorry, its late and I'm tired yet wide awake...

View Quoted Comment My fiancé has a sister and a brother, both of whom he’s very close to. When she got married, both of them stood on her side, and at our wedding, she’s proudly standing on his. She and I are very close but we all loved the idea of having her stand on his side (mutual decision, not forced). I understand you have a right to your opinion, but it’s neither a weird nor ridiculous move to have someone who you love stand up next to you, even if they’re not the same gender. To us, it doesn’t matter if it’s an even number or we have a female standing on his side. We’re going to be surrounded by the people we love most, and regardless of what it may “look like”, that’s all that matters to us.

View Quoted Comment My 2 photographers have 15 minutes of my very precious time for staged photos.... and up to another 15 to capture staged photos that don’t include us (the couple)

if they cant, between 2 of them, manage to get a single good picture in 15-30 minutes: than so be it but I will be walking away and rejoining my guests after 15 minutes and my wedding party will be free of them too after another 15... neither photographer is to speak with my guests and will be asked to leave immediately if they ask anyone to pose for unwanted pictures after their 15-30 minute window.

M y wedding is about us spending time enjoying each other and I cannot see the point in “perfect pictures” if you don’t have the fond memories to accompany them

the photographers can take candid pictures until I find it too annoying to deal with them being in the way anymore and then we will pay them the full contract balance and ask them to leave so that people can actually start to have fun without feeling like a zoo animal on display

View Quoted Comment I 100% agree with this!! Were having a sweetheart table too. This just happened to me last Sept. I had to sit by myself when he was in his cousins wedding...soooo boring.

View Quoted Comment The thread was on my unpopular opinion I’m completely intitled to think it looks weird and ridiculous if you disagree then you can just not quote me because it’s not going to change my mind and write your own post letting people know you think it’s fine. This was just for opinions not for you to go around policing mine.

View Quoted Comment This is about opinions that’s mine. If you don’t agree with me instead of quoting me just have your wedding the way you like it. You’re not going to change my mind on how I think that looks but that shouldn’t matter it’s your day don’t be so self conscious.
There’s a couple things in this thread that people have talked about that I’m doing but I’m not going around to defend my wedding to them because like myself that’s their opinion and they don’t care what I think.

I have some very unpopular opinions

1. I hate the "IT'S MY DAY" attitude and how self absorbed some people seem to get about their weddings any more. If you only want it to be about you, elope. Don't involve or invite others and then treat and host them poorly.

2. Couples who put their "vision" of a one day party over people.

3. I've never liked the idea that the wedding party should just shut up and wear whatever the couple wants them to, whether they like it or not. These people are supposed to be your nearest and dearest who you want standing beside you on your wedding day, why would you want to treat them like that? This goes to the vision over people thing.

4. Along with the above, I feel that the couple should pay for the bridal party's attire if they are requiring specific outfits. They are just photo props to fulfill a vision after all, and all props should be covered by the couple. It shouldn't cost a ton of money for someone to stand up in their friend or family member's wedding. The wedding party also shouldn't be expected to pay for or attend any showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, or do any DIY or other work for the wedding.

5. The excuse of "I don't want people I've never met at my wedding" used when not wanting to invite SO's. If you don't care enough about a person to do the bare minimum to ensure they are comfortable and happy at your event then why even invite them in the first place?

6. Really, it's all about treating and hosting your guests and wedding party well instead of acting like the world revolves around you just because you chose to throw a big party to celebrate yourself and your life choice.

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Ohhh, yes! all of the this!!

I paid for my girls dresses. I wanted those dresses, granted, I made sure they liked them since they had to wear them, but it was still what I wanted at the end of the day. I figured it was on me to pay for it.

Oh I totally agree - I'm not saying she has to agree with my opinion, I wasn't trying to police or troll, so I apologize if it came off that way. I think we just need to all be respectful in how we choose to express our opinions around such an amazing time in our lives, and I think calling something weird or ridiculous just because it's doesn't fit your vision is a little insensitive, so that's what I was getting at. I didn't mean for this to turn into a big thing, because I'm all for making the day personal to you and your partner, but the wording just got to me. That was all!

View Quoted Comment I don’t think you were

but I can see how sometimes when we are of differing opinions it can be “better” just to post yours than to specifically quote someone who you just want to specifically disagree with

im not accusing or suggesting anything like that is necessarily the case in this particular circumstance but just clicked one to be an example of an idea