Unpopular Opinion

I personally do not like first looks I understand why people do them just not for me. I do not like the second dress thing or the gift thing either. I really do not want to do a seating chart. I know it is crazy, but less work for me and I want everyone to sit where they are comfortable.

Ask your bridesmaid budget. They only pay for dress. and Tavel if needed. I think I am thought of As a mean girl around here cause I keep saying this. They can pay for hair and makeup if it is optional. Pet peeve when someone thinks they should not be a brides maid if you can’t put in 300 bucks.

Stuff I would not do:
Garter- I would feel super uncomfortable with my hubby, going up underneath my dress in front of our parents!
Programs- I always throw these out, and think they are unnecessary.

I would not do a first look as well. It’a supposed to be a candid moment, but how can it be with the photographer and videographer are right there?!

Unpopular opinions: I'm ok with gaps at weddings.

I think money dances are a bit money hungry.

If a couple can only afford a small cake for the two of them and provide some sort of different dessert for their guests, I'm ok with that.

I'm ok with cash bars. I'm personally not having one, but it doesnt ruin my wedding experience if I have to pay for drinks.

I'm ok with people not attending the ceremony and just going to the reception.

I'm not a fan of having to greet every single person at the wedding at some point. You have such little time to enjoy yourself at your own wedding and you still have to take time to go say hello to strangers and uncle jack and aunt diane that you haven't seen in years.

THIS:

It really grated on my nerves to be the steady girlfriend of the best man, having been together longer than the groom had known either of the two women he married(this happened twice), and to not be allowed to sit next to him because the couple in question had to have their fantasy utopian head table at the expense of everyone else in the party who was either married, engaged or dating for over a year(we had been together two years for first wedding and nine years at the second wedding).

If anyone who is in the wedding party is married, engaged or in a serious relationship, they should be seated and announced with their real date, not some cookie cutter scheme to make everyone fit together for pictures.

Grow up and have a sweetheart table.

Head tables work in Game of Thrones where people are scheming and poisoning one another, but the people you have in your party have sweethearts too and your guests aren’t peasants. It’s not like you’ll be sitting there for very long anyway because you’ll be mingling and speaking with your guests when you aren’t eating, drinking, dancing and posing for pictures. At least that’s what gracious wedding couples do at their wedding.

People need to stop just thinking their wedding is about their personal love for one another, if you invite people you need to think about guest comfort too and guest feelings. Nothing makes you look more uncaring and shallow than making other people’s relationships harder just so you can feel good about yours. That’s not how love works. That’s not how friendship works, and hopefully by the time you have kids you’ll realize the difference between being gracious and being selfish.

We’re having a sweetheart. The best man is the groom in the two above-mentioned weddings. He will be announced and walking in with his wife, who isn’t in the wedding party, because I don’t want anyone at our wedding to feel like their relationships are trivial the way my FI and I were. And neither should anyone attending yours.

View Quoted Comment Our grooms women is not happy we are doing a sweetheart table. She will not know anyone there. We said bring a date a friend. She RSVP guest for ceremony not reception. Even if we sat at the same table we could not spend time with her or not a lot. We are having about 100 other people there.

Faux weddings and vow renewals: It’s a photo op. I can’t imagine ever going to one, but I also don’t expect my opinion of them to affect anyone at all.


Cake: I’m all about the wedding cake. Cupcakes are for little kid birthday parties. Have pie or cookies or some other dessert nonsense, but I’m going to be disappointed there’s no cake. Again, no one cares what I think about their stupid cupcakes.

Money dance: I love the money dance.

Cash bar: I don’t mind. I might silently judge you, but I’ll still pay for my drinks.

Bad hosting: look, I think everyone should have a wedding with a budget they’re comfortable with, but hosting your guests should not be secondary to your Instagram. If you have 10 bridesmaids, fancy linens, and run out of food at your cash bar cocktail hour, you allocated your wedding dollars poorly.

Plus ones: I don’t think anyone should be expected to come alone. Who am I supposed to dance with?

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with you!!! I hate the garter thing/tradition, however people want to call it. I think it’s something private that belongs to the bride and the groom to share and shouldn’t be an object of entertainment for your guests. I also dislike the counterpart of this tradition, the bouquet throw. I think it’s not funny when you gather all the single people and put them on the spot in front of all the happily married couples attending the wedding. Never get up for a bouquet throw, not even once!

View Quoted Comment See I have seen more birthday cakes then
cupcakes. They making wedding cupcakes fancy

View Quoted Comment I don’t care how fancy they look, they’re always dry and the papers are gross.

Food: I personally don’t like the buffet style, I like table service and it’s not that much expensive and makes a huge difference.

Garter search/throw: HATE it!!! I’ve always said it, I don’t like it, I think it’s innapropriate.

Bouquet throw: just because it goes hand in hand with the garter thing, I don’t like it either.

Cash bar: I think you should have a bar or not have one if you can’t afford one, but asking guests to pay for drinks is not nice. I’d rather have a limited bar than a cash one. Or cut down o guests so that they can be hosted properly.

Money dance: don’t like it, I’d feel as if I’m being sold... also, it seems a bit desperate and money hungry.

Photo booth: I really like these, it’s a great opportunity to have cool pics of your guests that maybe you don’t get time to shoot with the professional photographers

First view: I don’t criticize anyone that does it, but it’s not for me. I like the tradition of having the first look as I walk down the aisle.

Father walking bride down the aisle: love this tradition. I wish my dad was alive to do it 😢

Receiving Line: I don’t know what I’m going to do about this... I don’t like the idea just because it seems to take a long time when you have 150+ guests. I don’t like it because people are literally waiting in line just to say hi and congratulations, which they can do later. I’d rather get the party started ASAP

Wedding cake: in my opinion, it’s a must have for a wedding. Regardless of all the sweets you have on your wedding, the wedding cake must be there. I don’t like the idea of cupcakes, they seem childish to me. And even though I hate the taste of fondant, you can’t beat that look! Maybe make a “dummy” (fake) one with fondant and serve the buttercream one that will taste amazing.

People attending reception but not the ceremony: basically they missed the most important part of your event and are there only for food and booze? I don’t understand how you can show to a reception without attending the wedding itself! I’ll never understand this but I guess I’ll have many guests that will do this anyways.

I probably have more things, but those are the big ones.

I’ve only ever been to one wedding, so I don’t have much to compare it to.

over all it was a very nice wedding, but there are a couple things I wasn’t a fan of:

- dollar dance. It felt awkward giving them money to dance with them. It seemed money hungry. Especially since most people already gave a gift or a cash gift.

- cash bar. I understand people don’t always have a budget for an open bar, but I feel like some sort of host bar should be there. Even if it’s just beer and wine or something. Or at least make people aware its a cash bar. My friends wedding was a cash bar and we didn’t know so not many people had cash.

- photo time. I was in the bridal party so I don’t know how this felt as a guest, but I remember taking well over an hour for photos and the reception was also about 20 minutes away from the ceremony. When we finally got to the reception area, a lot of the guests seemed cranky from waiting

- buffet. I love stations because it splits the lines up more. But a straight up buffet with 1 or 2 lines of over 150 is frustrating. The food also ends up sitting out for awhile.

Garter toss: It's an uncomfortable tradition for guests and many couples so it needs to go away. It singles out single men and those that are not married but in relationships. It makes many feel uncomfortable.

Bouquet toss: It singles out single women and those who are in long term relationships.

Giving the bride away: A woman is no ones property.

Wedding vows that are inappropriate----I'm fine with couples writing their own vows and we are writing our own however I think it's really inappropriate when a couple puts something in their vows such as "changing poopy baby diapers" which was in the vows at a wedding I went to. It ruined the mood for quite a few guests including myself.
When a bride is wearing a gorgeous dress and her breasts are hanging out for the world to see. It's not a good look when your wearing perhaps the most expensive dress of your life and your breasts keep falling out so you have to keep pulling the bodice back up.

Teasing the couple about having children or making comments to other guests such as " The groom will get the bride pregnant on the wedding night or honeymoon". It's no ones business but the couple. They might not want children, may be waiting to have children, could be struggling to conceive, or want to start trying immediately but no matter what they want it's their business and they would appreciate it if people would stop with the questions and teasing.
This are the biggest ones for me.

I think the post is asking the opinions that I have which are unpopular on ww?

apparently all of them lol

j/k but not really because I have a lot of them?

I think garter toss is disturbing and bouquet toss is dated and embarrassing to unmarried guests depending on the crowd...and a waste of money because now people don’t even toss their bouquet but buy a second “toss bouquet?” That all florists insist you need?

I’m against first looks because to me it completely defeats the purpose of that big moment of seeing each other from down the aisle (him first seeing dress especially)

im against head tables that do not accommodate plus ones for entire wedding party because it’s incredibly rude and selfish

I think throwing your own parties (engagement, bridal & bachelorette) is obscenely rude and indicates someone who is very materialistic... if someone in my social circle did this I would end the “friendship” because I like to be around understanding and caring people who would invest in their community instead of literally try to get multiple gifts from the same crowd for ONE occasion

i would see a money dance as rude and leave the event after being asked for cash on the spot

I think running out of any food item in unacceptable

i do support the “have a cake”, but I’m fine with other desserts also...but definitely would not be pleased to be at a wedding where there is a cake cutting, and we watch the couple have cake and then are served cookies and milk like daycare snack time...

This one is hot button and personal: I think brides can be a bit too obsessed with photos and I generally go ahead and leave if they have not joined us within about 75 minutes of the time they scheduled the event because it is boring and they have clear priorities: they want to remember every detail via photos instead of just living it and having a good day today and for us those weddings are rushed and impersonal anyway so we’re going home where someone actually knows we’re there and wants to have a good evening... we are fans of experience over itinerary for the big day... couples who want that many pictures of themselves never even know you left... and won’t remember your attendance if you stay

I also actually I am on with most things in wedding
🧁cake or cupcake cookie ice cream pie - just have some sweet you like. I do not like pie but I do not expect the bride to call me up
and say so what do you like. That is on me.
🍔Any food one again I don’t like it that is in me not them. Just have someone know what’s in it. I have allergies.
🎼music I prefer band or DJ I been to a wedding where they did not have one. Due to cultural. It was fine.
🍷I perfect to get a drink at wedding not have to pay but no big
💐not a huge fan of garter or bouqet toss. toss. Don’t want groom up mr dress or girls tackeling eachother fit flowers money dance is noty thing but I though it was a tradition for some. Like I said my thing is make sure you know peoples budget.

Thank you for the last one! We're doing a civil ceremony two weeks before our "wedding" and we've been calling the later one our wedding. But so many people on WW are so quick to say it's not a wedding, it's a vow renewal.

My unpopular opinions:

1. The garter toss and bouquet tosses are outdated and most people don't enjoy them (at least among my friends and family)

2. I don't think it's rude to have a small decorative cake to cut for the cake cutting, and then serve the guests something completely different for dessert (donuts, cupcakes, etc.)

3. I don't want to mingle with guests during my cocktail hour. I want to take the time to take my photos and then be able to take a few minutes with my husband to just be with each other... alone.

4. I wish I didn't need a registry. Honestly, I'd prefer cash to be able to shop on my own time and take my sweet time reading up on reviews!

5. The full invitations suites are unnecessary.

6. I think spending hundreds or thousands on a dress that you're only going to wear for one day is a waste. (I know, I know, I'm sorry but it's my unpopular opinion!)

7. Another controversial one... I love the look of diamonds but hate actual diamonds. It makes me mad when I think about how the diamond industry is just ripping you off by charging you an arm and a leg for something that isn't rare at all! Also, don't believe "conflict free" is ever truly a thing because the diamond industry in itself has created the conflict that occurs. And it's definitely not a sustainable process for the planet we live on. (Sorry, I'll get off my soapbox now...)

8. Not allowing kids to be invited to your wedding is a bit rude and inconvenient. I feel like it's pretty equivalent to not giving someone a plus one for their SO.

1. Slideshows that are extremely long. I'd rather see their pictures displayed in a nice arrangement. My mom is pushing this on me, so I caved just as long as the slideshow is by or around the bar area. Not in the actual reception area.

2. People who aren't in the wedding party or their parents should really refrain from giving speeches. It sort of just kills the wedding vibe when it goes on forever and ever.

3. Bad DJs. I know it's a personal reference, but music is key and it kills me when the music isn't transitioned smoothly and/or the playlist doesn't match the vibe. I went to a wedding where everyone was having a good time dancing and all of a sudden the dj switched to a totally different genre and everyone cleared off the dance floor.


We're hosting the bar up to a certain point (having his/her drinks), mainly because we know certain guests will get too wasted and lord knows what will happen. I don't have time for drama. Lol.

The money dance is a cultural thing for us, so I don't mind it.

View Quoted Comment Haha! I totally agree! One of my biggest wedding disappointments is when I walk into a reception and see cupcakes. I know they are becoming popular for many reasons (cost, variety of flavors) but it seems lame to me. And I have yet to eat a wedding cupcake that wasn’t dry and gross.

My extremely unpopular opinion on WW is that dry weddings are not the end of the world or height of rudeness. Every wedding I’ve been to as an adult has been dry and they’ve all been totally fun, pleasant evenings regardless. Not everyone wants or needs alcohol at their weddings or for their crowds, and it doesn’t mean that their weddings are lame or badly hosted.