Unpopular Opinion

View Quoted Comment I completely agree with the photo thing! I'd also rather enjoy the experience than spend so much time documenting manufactured moments.

I think a reception when you are already married is fine. Just be up front and honest. People will find out. Don't lie to friends. A couple of days fine, but much more, own what you are doing.

As to a significant other, in my family, you do not have a significant relationship till you are out of college. I don't care if you have been "dating" since 6th grade. Not every BF/GF is a significant relationship. Too many people abuse plus ones, they invite family members who did not make the cut, etc. Basically trying to control the guest list. Someone here wrote about two people who each used their plus one to invite half of an uninvited couple.

I've been to a few in the last couple months. But one major issue I had was the brides not playing anything other than slow music, getting drunk and ignoring guests. It was awful

I probably have the most unpopular decision. It that I personally do not care what people do at their own wedding. It’s their day and sometimes their money. If I’m invited to a wedding it is to celebrate the love between the bride and groom. If I have to stand because there aren’t enough seat, so be it. At least I was invited to share their day. They have a dry wedding? oh well, doesn’t bother me. They have a cash bar? Okay I will plan accordingly. They have a honeymoon fund? okay cool, if I have extra cash, I’ll put some in.
hey have a money dance (which is normal at every wedding I’ve ever been to) here is another $2.

They have cupcakes instead of a cake, not an issue with me.

I have found that the most stress is to try to please everyone else that we forget to enjoy the planning ourselves 💓

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I passionately despise the bouquet/garter toss. I actually had an officiant get upset with me because I chose not to participate in the bouquet toss. He actually said to me, "What you don't like men?" My boyfriend at the time asked him what did that have to do with a bouquet toss. He walked away mumbling. When the bride threw the bouquet, about 6 women dove on the ground. Everyone's dress went up exposing their undergarments. One woman was wearing a strapless dress and both of her breasts fell out. Just shameful.

Not sure if you watched Sex in the City, but my favorite episode was when the attended a wedding and the bride tossed the bouquet in their direction. All of them watched it hit the ground, then turned around walking. That defines my opinion of the bouquet toss. It should ignored and dismissed.

View Quoted Comment I don’t watch much TV but now you gave me a reason just to go and watch that episode of Sex and the City. Must be the display of my sentiment right on the screen 😂

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You wouldn't have like our wedding then. However, we had a buffet for a specific reason. One of my BM's husband is a pastor of a small church. They feed about 40 families twice a week. Plated meals would have cost too much money, but ordering an additional buffet for about 50 people was more suitable. We purposely ordered more food then we needed because we new it would come in large tin trays. After the reception, they just packed up the tin trays that were already covered and ready to go.

View Quoted Comment Ohhh, but that’s such a thoughtful thing to do though. I like the sentiment... In my case, it didn’t make a difference money-wise. However, I love why you did it and it’s a heartfelt thing that unfortunately I can’t do with my setup.

View Quoted Comment Lol right man I am having the poor girl buffet and cupcake wedding. With unmatching Dresses same color about.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you on 7. That’s why I went with Moissanite instead of a diamond (or a white spahhire which are still really expensive and look muddy). I like the look of a diamond but they are the biggest rip off I know of! The moissanite is got was less than an eighth the cost of a diamond equivalent.

View Quoted Comment Buffet at my place is 10 more bucks a plate that’s a huge difference to me. Somone that un able to get it I will get it for them. Yes we will get his grandma her food happily.

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I accidentally ignored guests! I forgot to go to table visits. I was on the dance floor all night. So, if you made it to the dance floor, I danced with you. I felt so bad after, but I was having such a great time. (I wasn't drunk, just finally taking time to enjoy the night)

View Quoted Comment I will be opposite people will say I did not dance. Talked to guest all night. But I can’t walk with out running into something. Then people want me to shake and groove around others wothnout getting hurt or hurting them.

View Quoted Comment OMG! This is déjà vu. We went to a wedding a few months ago. There were, according to the bride's mother 350 guests. They had a 3 tier cake which clearly was not enough for all of the guests. The couple, bridal party and the couple's family all had cake and champagne. The rest of the guests were directed to the "dessert table" which had doughnuts, cookies, brownies, coffee and tea. I couldn't believe they had the audacity to do that. But they did.
I'm with you on this one. We did all candid photos for our pictures which took approximately 30 maybe 45 minutes. We had a live band for the cocktail hour. We also provided red wine, cheese (gouda, brie, bleu cheese, feta, Monterey and gorgonzola) crackers, tropical fruit, water, fresh lemonade and tea.

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Your welcome. It annoys me when people try to tell someone else what something is. It is what I say it is. Not what you determine is appropriate or right.

Child free ceremony/reception are a personal choice. We made the decision to have a child free ceremony and reception after meeting with our videographer. Once he let us know what the cost was to edit out noises from the video, it was a no brainer for us. Yes, we had many guests complain and ask us to reconsider, but we stood our ground. A majority of them did not attend, but that was okay.

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I'm with you on dry weddings. Some of the funniest weddings I've attended were dry weddings. Mostly because the reception was in the fellowship hall of the church, but there were maybe one or two that were not and were dry. They were blast.

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I am so with you about speeches. About 7 months before our wedding, we attended the wedding of one of DH's staff. The couple, MO/BM, bride/groom's parents and grandparents, and countless others gave 3 - 5 minute speeches. All in total, the speeches took about 1.5 hours from start to finish. And to make matters worse, they wouldn't serve the food until after all of the scheduled speeches.

View Quoted Comment Lol pretty much every last element of my wedding has been trashed. I feel like some of these girls think of themselves on someone else’s day also. Like the couple not have the wedding they want cause others don’t like it. The thing is no matter what you will find some Debbie Downer inspecting some one else’s wedding to bad talk it.

I'm with you on this one. I have a friend who has an on again/off again relationship with her current boyfriend. They have been off/on for over 20 years. Their break-ups are legendary. Cussing, fighting, destroying each other's property, calling the police, etc. When we got engaged they were broken up. Six months later they were back together, but then off again a few months later. When we sent her invitation, we did not know they were back together, and did not give her a plus one. She called to let us know they were back together and he would be attending. I told her he is welcome to attend the ceremony, but the head count was final for the reception. And yes, you guessed it, before we got married, they broke up another three or four more times. She did not attend either, but that's okay.

FYI, they're not together and have been off for about 9 months now.

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This post is not to put you or any other bride down. It's just to discuss things that another bride doesn't care for. That doesn't make it trash. It just means it's not something we would do.

If this post offended or insulted you in any way, please accept my sincere apologies.