Unhappy with my ring after soldering...(pic)

So, where is it held together at? It's not ugly, maybe after you are married you could take it back and specifically ask them to seal it all the way around?

Yeah...we thought of that, but we didn't really want to spend the money. We had a strict budget and have stuck to it...Maybe eventually...

It's not ugly at all. it's beautiful.

believe me, i know where you're coming from. my e-ring is from a pawn shop, and it's a bridal set that's been soldered. i wasn't happy with the gap, either, but then i just calmed down and realized that it's not the ring itself that counts--it's what it represents. and that i was likely the only one to really notice--or care.

but i also understand that sometimes the small details are the ones that matter to you, so i bet after the wedding, you could take it back and get it sealed all the way around. (: i wouldn't think that should be a big/abnormal request.

I just thought about it, that's exactly what my mother's wedding ring looked like before she upgraded it (except her's was gold). It wasn't sealed all the way around either.

I understand being on a strict budget, if you knew how much my engagement ring costs you would probably throw up. LOL.

I think that it is beautiful. I can see how it would look funny to you after seeing it one way for so long though. Don't get discouraged though. It is fixable. You may not be able to fix it right away but a least it can be done.

Thanks everybody. I know it's a silly detail, but this really was the ONE thing I cared about and was looking forward to about the whole wedding process. I had wanted to elope and this ring is what got me through. I just kept looking forward to that moment where we exchanged rings and finally got married, and now it feels like a let down. Three years of anticipation and I get something I don't even like? WHY?! And I feel stupid for being upset about it because my family acts like I shouldn't be...sigh...

It looks lovely. I bet they CAN fit it later, if you don't get used to the different look. Maybe talk to your photographer about taking ring close-ups after it comes back from the jeweler a second time?

I'm scared now, though. Mine fit perfectly into one another and there can't be a gap! We got a custom set made and I know your feeling of nauseated disappointment. I got what I asked for, but somehow didn't realize how much the set would look like...well, like a one-fingered brass knuckle. It's pretty but it's not my style---but the money's been spent. So I'm GOING to like it, dammit. *tear*

I felt like the soldering was almost unnecessary. All they soldered was the very bottom. I was like, why bother? Stuff is going to get stuck in the gaps all the time...Ugh! I'm mad, I'm crying, and it sucks!

@Tammy I agree about the money being spent. I'm probably just going to have to learn to like it. But I don't even want to wear it. I loved showing off my engagement ring, but I'm worried I will hate my wedding ring. LAME.

If you really hate it you can have them separated again. It'll be pricy because it's a lot of labor, but it can be done. They would have to file them apart, file down the excess and then re-polish it up. But you'll never get it filled in all the way, it just isn't how it's done. Soldering is complicated and you'd risk damaging the detail of the rings if you fused it all the way around. It isn't like glue… They take a solid piece of metal and melt it into place to attach the two pieces.

That sounds like what the lady said at the store - that it would mess up the setting if we added a filling. My mom's wedding ring is soldered and is held together perfectly, which is why I think I had that in mind, but this type of ring just isn't that way. Oh well...

It is very beautiful, the gaps do not take away from it's beauty, they add to it.

rejoice and be happy, you and hubby in a matter of two days, you will be sealed together too.

enjoy and celebrate both unions!

I think it is gorgeous. The gaps are not noticable. Soldering is necessary because when your rings rub, it can deteriorate the gold and loosen your setting.

When FH did my ring, in order to get the two side diamonds, he bought an enhancer because the jeweler said there were issues with heart shaped diamonds. I have a piece of gold that is just there. Check out the pic. I thought it would be shaped around the diamond. It can't be done. I am not soldering my wedding ban because I want to wear it solo at times, so they will be loose with a gap, again, which can rub the gold, etc.

Check out the pics and you will see what I am talking about.

It is the ring that symbolizes your love for each other. I am not sure why you are so upset about it. It is gorgeous for one and two, not the necessity you need to marry you fiance. My opinion, suck it up, be happy you have someone who loves you and wants to spend his life with you and fix it later.

I think it very pretty you just need some time to get use to it..don't worry be happy!!

It's certainly not ugly. The gap just shows that there's actually two rings there instead of looking like it's only an E-ring. Almost all sets that I have seen have at least a small gap when you're wearing them. I think you will get used to it.

I think its beautiful not ugly at all. Just give it some time you'll get use to it.

I don't think it is ugly at all, I think it looks gorgeous!

I personally love the gap :-) It shows the definition between the engagement (promise of future) and the wedding (promise of a lifetime) rings! Yeah, things may "gunk" up between them, but a soft bristle tooth brush buffing should handle most any problem. I think it's beautiful! Give yourself some time to adjust to the new look of your completed set.

I think it is pretty, but I sooo get the sadness! we had my rings (engagement and weddings rings-i had two, one for top and bottom) sort of custom made. the jeweler did it all from scratch, but was supposed to copy a ring we had shown him and just make it better quality.

the first time we got it back, it was ALL wrong. Just like you, i wanted the 3 to sit real tight next to each other...they didnt, there was a gap between them all. it was also thicker than i wanted, etc. thankfully, since it was custom work, my husband was able to go back and show them how it was NOT what we asked for and they re did the ring. so it ended up well. However, I remember how upset i was when i got the ring from them the first time I just sat and cried and felt terrible cause we had already been engaged for a few weeks and I was sooo looking forward to getting my ring, until I actually got it!

I think it's gorgeous! =]