Unassigned seating.....

I'm not having assigned seating either, and i'm counting on having around 120 people. our venue that we chose, a park "pavilion", comes with picnic tables - so that covers that. and i don't really feel like telling people where they have to sit, i'd rather just let them decide on their own and where they feel comfortable.

We are having one big long table and serving family style but were also only having 20 guests. I hope they can figure it out

I am not a fan of weddings without assigned tables. I get anxiety just thinking about it!! You want to make sure everyone has a seat and is happy with who they are sitting around and next to. I have been to weddings without seating charts and it gets a little nasty with people taking others seats in order to sit in a large group, etc. I just would say stay away from it if you can. Smaller groups can handle a reception without a seating chart, but with 75 I think you are getting to the point where you will want to have one.

With 75 maybe at least a table chart is a good idea

I like assigned tables better. I think it makes everything more organized/formal. I went to a wedding that was unassigned, but it was very casual & just a cake/punch reception & even that was kind of a cluster.

We are having about a hundred guest and will not be having assigned tables or seating. We will have reserved seating for family and our head table.

Lesson learned from an attended wedding without assigned tables was to make sure there were a few extra tables set up and that family had reserved seating so when they arrive after taking pictures they have tables to sit at and do not need to scramble for a place to sit.

I prefer to have assigned tables. For me it's too chaotic without them. Even thinking about open seating makes the control freak in me get panicky.

I find it very rare that people actually mingle that way. What happens is a couple will sit together at one end of the table and no one else will sit at that table unless they know them or there's no other choice. Then when there's no other choice the next couple to sit there will sit as far away from the 1st couple as possible. So you'll have all these empty seats between people because they're leaving extra personal space.

I'd rather be assigned a table where the bride and groom think personalities match. I've always had a great time that way.

Unassigned seating gives me anxiety. I would assign tables.

We had assigned tables and sat everyone with people they knew.. We didn't want to have any awkwardness from our guest trying to find a table to fit who they came with, family, friends etc.. We had 50 guest so it worked out fine.. They just found their name and what table they were assigned too.. They were welcome to choose any seat at that table.

That's a big enough number to assign tables. I expected 75 and we had a little snafu with one table and it gave me anxiety. We got it fixed, but I was happy to know that we were only renting what we needed (cut down unnecessary costs), that everyone would have a place to sit and people to chat with that weren't complete strangers, that my grandparents wouldn't be next to the DJ speakers, etc.

As a guest, I like knowing that this is my seat, I'm going to set my sweater down here and not be concerned that someone else will take this seat and both my husband and I will have to walk around like the new kid in the school cafeteria looking for a place to sit.

I much prefer assigned tables. Like some of the other ladies said, the thought of open seating makes my social anxiety kick in (unless you have like, 25 people).

It's just so awkward trying to figure out where to sit, especially if you don't know many people. Empty seats get scattered randomly so the family of 4 can't find 4 seats next to each other to sit, etc. Chaos!

For the ceremony, no... But for my reception, I'm definitely doing assigned seating.

Not a fan.

It wasn't the absolute confusion that I expected, but the FOB was walking around trying to find room for couples and families at different tables. Just not his responsibility IMO.

I'm doing assigned seating and only having 50 guests. I had several people that I needed to keep away from each other. I also had 7 people say they might show up so I want to make sure only the people that RSVP'd get a seat. I would at least do assigned tables for 75.

We are doing assigned seating. We went to a wedding that didn't have assigned seating, and honestly I didn't like it, it just looked so blah to me, FH and I sat and had a whole table just for us, people next to us same thing one couple or 3 to 4 people per table. I didn't like that.

After much soul searching, (and posing the question on here), we have decided to not have assigned tables. Even with only 50 people it was simply too difficult figuring out how to keep people together. And we really did not want to be responsible for who got sit next to "you know who." Because whoever we did sit next to them would be bitter because "so and so" didn't have to sit next to them. Ya know what I mean? Everyone coming is old enough to figure out where they want to sit; however family tables will be designated. And we didn't have any guest that to be kept apart.

We will have escort "cards" so that guest can mark their place and not worry about someone taking it when they get up to go somewhere. They are edible and a sign will say, "A sweet treat to save your seat," and then something cute about finding their name and marking their spot.

I was not going to do assigned seats UNTIL the wedding I went to this saturday. There were about 60 or so guest. There was six of us total (FH, Me and the kids) the tables sat 6. To make sure we could all sit together we had to grab a table quick. Which consisted of FH waiting while the kids and I got our food (it was a buffet) to hold our table) and then once we got back then he got into the line and got his food. We also were very confused because there were special tables for certain family members and they were not assigned and so we didn't know where to sit. We also feared getting up at times to "lose" our seats. Since people were taking chairs and adding them to tables to make everyone fit that wanted to all sit together. After that I saw just why assigned tables make sense. So we are doing them. We are not doing assigned seats though people can sit in whatever chair. I don't want confused guests or to have people feel they need to rush to a table.

It's an absolute no for me.

For one, I've never been to a wedding without assigned tables (and I've been to A LOT of weddings in the past 3 years) so my guests would find it odd. And two, I hate chaos.

I will add I use to not understand how people got confused, I have been to weddings where there were not assigned tables and I found a seat but it was just me and a friend type deal. I will say that in every single wedding it ended up with just me and that person at the table by ourselves and it was lonely.

My brother didn't have assigned seating and had about 50-60 at his wedding. I ended up sitting all the way in the back because his table had to make room for her parents and I felt kind of left out considering I was immediate family so I am personally not a fan. I much prefer assigned tables.