Unassigned seating.....

Lol@amy

Exactly Amy! I knew all the guests and if I wasn't sure about in-laws I asked. Assigned seating worked in our favor to keep some guests apart (that don't get along). They could have ended up sitting together if we had open seating.

I like assigned seating better. My Best friend MOH got married back in February there was at least 150 people like 6 of the tables said reserved and the rest said nothing. We were so very confused...

I prefer assigned seating at weddings. My cousin didn't assign tables and it was awful. Some tables had 12 people and were completely overcrowded while other tables had two people who obviously didn't know anyone else there and didn't look like they felt comfortable or welcome and were totally secluded from the celebration You would like to think people can figure it out themselves but they won't. Assigning tables isn't that hard once you know who is coming. Right now it feels daunting but when you get your RSVP list figured out it will be a cinch! Especially with only 75 people, 8-10 tables won't be hard. I did mine in an hour or so. Just relax and get your RSVP count first! Good luck girly!!

This topic gets beat to death EVERY time. I hate, hate, HATE unassigned seating. The way I always phrase is is "new kid in the cafeteria" syndrome.

Hahaha Roma! I love it. That's exactly what it feels like.

Gives me anxiety.

Oh me too.

I'm in the UNassigned camp. I don't like being told where to sit and who to sit with.

At the last wedding we went to, there were table numbers assigned (not down to the specific seat though) and people on our side of the reception eventually ended up ignoring them and moving around and it was much more enjoyable.

We are having a buffet anyways so it is already more casual. I think people are perfectly capable of locating a chair on their own. I don't want the hassle of deciding who sits where, frankly. One less thing for me to fret about!

I have never been to a wedding with assigned seating. I know that I am in the minority! I am not doing assigned seating.

I always seem to be the odd man out with my opinions but in mine and FH's families, no one ever does assigned seating. Any wedding I have been to with assigned seating has left people awkwardly sitting by others they feel forced to sit by as opposed to "is anyone sitting here? No, great! Lets be friends!" I have met many many awesome wedding guests through unassigned seating and sat by awkward and lame individuals when having assigned seating. Our family weddings consist of 300+ people and we have never ever had a problem.

Never been to a wedding so... as a guest, dunno if I'd prefer or hate it. If I'm alone, would probably hate it since am not a social person by any means. In a pair or more, don't think I'd be too fussed unless assigned meant getting split from whoever I was with.

We're doing assigned seating as there are too many folk who could start bickering (yup, they can't restrain themselves for a day) if they're too close together.

LOL @ Marissa "is anyone sitting here? No, great! Lets be friends!"

That's exactly how it has been for me too. But, I've also never known a stranger.

@Amy "Well when its your wedding you don't have to worry about putting people with other people they don't want to sit with, assuming that you are smart enough to know your guests. Unless you have complete strangers attending your wedding, or if you just don't give a sh*t, you REALLY should be able to make an educated guess of who would enjoy sitting with who. I didn't have any trouble figuring out that part at all, its not rocket science!"

You would think but guess what you hear this all.the.time I have had it happen at events. Why just because *I* am the one the doing it this will never happen? Or I'm not a smart person if it does? Don't you think those people thought the same thing? I say just because you don't like unassigned seating doesn't mean it can't work. Out of like 4 weddings I have been to only 1 was it an issue. However, it was the first wedding I ever attended with where I was bring so many guests. 4 out of 1 is still good odds.

My FBIL and his wife had unassigned seating at their wedding last year. It sucked. Of course, they did that because they(she) invited way too many people and there weren't enough seats for everyone.

Seriously if I assign seating and people take it upon themselves to move chairs around and sit wherever they want during dinner, I am going to kill them. They can feel free to do what they want after dinner but during dinner they had better sit at the table they were assigned because I worked freaking hard on that seat assignment.

I don't really see this happening though as I have seriously NEVER witnessed this happening at a wedding I attended, guests were polite enough to respect the seating chart. Every wedding (except one, which was terrible for me as I really only knew the bride) I have been to has been assigned seating, it worked wonderfully, no one complained, even if you weren't thrilled with who you were sitting with or didn't know them, you got to know them over the course of dinner.

This thread has just helped me decide to do assigned seating! My wedding is 1 1/2 months away and all along I have not planned on assigning. However, I think assigned tables will help me to cut down on number of tables, which cuts down on centerpieces and money owed to florist!

Now to decide what to do - Pinterest, here I come!

We are doing unassigned seating. Just cause everyone will know everyone since it's very small wedding. They are big kids and can figure it out themselves.