Ugh! Guests RSVPing via text & e-mail..

After reading all these posts about people rsvp-ing via social media, I'm wondering if I should just send an e-vite.

Not really, but seriously. I feel for you Hayley.

I'd just ask politely that they send the card back anyway. Tell them that tracking by email and text is really difficult, and you can't ensure you get things correct- which is why you requested the cards.

We considered doing the e-vites but I really wanted to make invitations so I did. I spent hours getting them just right, and pre-addressed and stamped all of the RSVP envelopes. Out of 45 people invited, only 5 returned the RSVP cards, so I know how annoying this is. the rest RSVP'd via Facebook, email and text. I was sad, but Hubby's response was to say we should have just done e-vites instead LOL

It's funny (actually not), bc i was totally one of those people. but everyone knows i'm the forgetful one, so it wasn't a problem (at least i think).

it's apparent that this RSVP thing is something we can't control; while it might not make you feel better, at least they are replying! there's a post on here where the girl is missing link half of her responses or something crazy like that!

I would say "Great! Now if you could please send me your RSVP card, I can mark you down for your meal." Or something to that effect...

I have the exact same problem date twin : ) My mom has told those who assume I know are coming and therefore don't feel the need to send in the RSVP, that I want them for sentimental reasons. So not the case but anything to get them to send the cards back in. I too paid alot of money to print those cards, address them and stamp them. It's sooooooo easy to just drop back in the mail. Still can't figure out why it's do difficult for some people.

This is why I chose not to do the rsvp cards....my reception cards advise people to rsvp by phone, email, or our website.

...and I bet half of them won't even do that...people are lazy!

I think you just have to chalk it up to using the text/email as their RSVP, and keeping a mental note that they're rude, lol. You can't MAKE someone send the RSVP card back, unfortunately. When they have their own events, hopefully they'll realize how annoying that is and feel bad about it.

Mark a note of who sends their RSVP that way and when it comes time to send thank you notes- text or email it to them (whatever the method they chose for you)... !!!

Given that I had to make phone calls to over half the people I invited, I would be grateful for a response in any form.

I can kind of understand responding my email and it's relatively easy to keep track of. But text messages??? Seriously?!?! Good grief!

It's just an evil you have to deal with. It's become generally accepted practice to RSVP this way for many weddings, and for even regular parties.

I'm lazy, I'm always guilty of this =[

Thats irritating for sure!!! i didnt put postage on mine for this exact reason.. well that and Im broke... but still!!!! I would be mad too.

I've officially resigned my pissed off about RSVP's role. I can't control it, so I'm done being mad that I can't control it. Looks like next Monday after the shower I will be on the phone and texting like crazy. Fun.

Our best man, FH's brother, who visits the house at least twice a week, STILL has not told us his meal choice or the name of his date. RSVP's are due this Saturday and I have about 135 people unaccounted for, at least 20 who I'm not expecting anyway. I had to text a Bridesmaid because she also never responded to her meal choice but at least she got her dress!

I have been told:

My cat stole the rsvp card. (It was found with a bunch of other small items under the couch.)

I never received the invitation. (We sent a duplicate after it was requested and STILL no response.)

You should have just done an evite. (Seriously!? - of course, the person who said this is single and has never put a wedding together.)

We started calling, texting, and facebooking people this week. I was harassing my aunt for a response since both her kids are in the bridal party. I can not wait for this to be over with. Almost there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ahhhhhhh!!

Be happy they RSVPed without you having to chase them down.

People don't do a lot of snail mail anymore. Almost all my bills come via email and are auto-deducted and no one sends me much of anything except formal invitations.

I agree with Pumpkin. Be thankful they are letting you know. Many people have probably misplaced the cards you sent anyway so better they text/email you than stay silent. Just track the respones on your own. The Guest function on WW has a great set-up for this and you can even export the responses to an excel document.

I hope that this is something I wont have to deal with too much since a close family friend is paving the way for us now. We have alot of the same people on our guest lists and she is a huge bridezilla so after her yelling at people to send the cards back, hopefully theyll just do the same for mine lol.

This is why we did online RSVPs. No way in heck I was going to be dealing with that! We might have gone the traditional route... However, USPS doesn't pick up outgoing mail from people's homes anymore (or at least not in many places, like where I live). If people just have to leave it for pick up at their home, that's one thing. However, if they have to walk a few blocks, or try to find a blue box or a post office to mail it... while it's not THAT hard, it's an extra step between the invitee and getting the card back that makes it that much less likely to happen.

Double post.

I think it is just rude to disregard the time and money you spent on your invitations/response cards/postage. One thing is to misplace the card(that can happen), but to just assume that they don't have to send it back when you already paid for postage, is plain rude and lazy. All they have to do is find the nearest mailbox and drop it in. I know it is frustrating and you have every right to be upset. Though we are all text/email prone by habit, it is not ok.

You should tell them that you need the card back. That is the best way for your to track responses. You might not always be next to your guestlist when they text/email. You have a lot going on and you don't want to miss someone.

My opinion.