Ugh! Guests RSVPing via text & e-mail..

I know its rude! I am less than 3 weeks away, my catering deadline has passed and I still haven't heard fro everyone! I would have loved to get a text or email...only cause it would make me worry less about the food... good luck..

I am having the same problem. I told them "look I'm not taking ANY rsvp's any other way than the way that I specified". People ar really starting to piss me off

It's frustrating mainly because either we hear it second-hand (from FMIL, for example) that they just assume we know they're coming or they send a text which is just a pain. Either way, it makes it very difficult to track. I think the idea of asking people to send back the physical RSVP card just to make it easier to track is a good idea and I will start using it. We have all our RSVP cards in a basket so they're all in one place. I don't want to miss counting you because I missed your email/text! And I don't even have to worry about meals 'cause we have table-side ordering, but each person is a lot of money that we don't want to waste if they're not coming! I also feel as if word-of-mouth or a text isn't really "official" and it's more like blowing it off "oh yeah, sure, we're going".

I'm not at the RSVP stage yet, but I already know that the cost of the additional postage is just something that I'm going to eat. I don't care if they text, call, tell me to my face, mail it back, email me, FB message me, send me a DM via Twitter, etc...just so they RSVP one way or the other!!

I'm just not sending RSVP postcards to everyone. Only the people that I don't think will email/text or use the online RSVP.

I just had people call or email to RSVP - saved on postage and headaches. We had a buffet, though, so we didn't have to track meal selections.

That's when you say (after their Text/email RSVP)

"Great, now I actually need the cards back. Those go to the caterer to make sure they get and serve meal slections correct"

That's why I requested my guests to RSVP online. Those who will RSVP will save us money, and those who won't RSVP won't waste our money.

I am taking RSVPs any way I can get them (text, email, FB, carrier pigeon, etc). I would much rather lose the $.44 on the card than get the count for food wrong. I just figure as long as you tell me, I can track it. I just don't want to have too much or too little food and beverage!

Sorry, but I still just think it's plain rude for people to not take 2 minutes out of their day to drop their RSVP card in the mail, when I am shelling out major bucks for them to be a part of mine and my fiance's special day. In my opinion, that's the least they can do.

My Fh husband has been telling people if they don't send the card they are not invited and will not be allowed in. I pointed out we will need to contact them after the deadline to check and he actually said to me "No I will just stand at the door and tell people they have to leave if they didn't send back the card" I nearly fell off my chair laughing over this and he just looked at me and said "what?" So thats what I tell people now. I ask them to send it back or Danny isn't going to let them eat :-) deadline is coming up - we shall see :-)

I agree 100%. Sure it's rude, but people are rude. *shrugging shoulders* But in the scope of things, what is the bigger loss? I know it's easier said than done and this is a place to vent/rant without judgment (most of the time) but try not to let this upset you. It's the thing you CANNOT control.

Please note this comment is coming from one of the biggest control freaks on WW. See my bridal shower rant post. LOL!

Good luck and think happy thoughts about when this part is all over and you will be having your special day!

From all the posts I've seen about people not rsvp at all I think you should be thankful and leave it at that, it's not worth the stress.

I am actually doing email, text, phone calls and our wedding website, it doesn't bother me at all, as long as they're RSVP-ing I'm good. The only people that will get paper invitations are the older crown, 95% of our guest list is below 30 and we know they'd prefer to get things electronically so all our invites willl be electronic. I don't have the time to sit there collect people's address, pay money for cards that I know they won't send back and having to track them down, no way, I'm not doing that but that's just us.

@J&R S. depending on where you live it could be hard to find one of those boxes, they don't have them around anymore, I use to have one right by my house but now I have to drive a few blocks to the PO to drop it off because it was removed and I don't have any nearby.

Seriously, I'm so terrified that guests won't be RSVP'ng that I don't care how they let me know.

Iam sending invitations, but expect most ppl to rsvp via facebook or our website.

We aren't having our guests mail them back. Our RSVP cards will be asking them to RSVP via our wedding site or call us. Saves on postage and we will get our replies quicker.

That seriously sucks. Is there a way you could text/email/call the ones who haven't and ask them to please drop their response card in the mail ASAP?

I'm pretty much where Glenn is -- as long as they RSVP before/by the deadline, they can use the site, call, text, email, FB message, etc. Just as long as I don't have to track them down.

I'm sorry to hear that. You and I are in the SAME boat! Our deadline is in 11 days. I have gotten a total of 7 RSVP out of 62 and 2 were handed to me. Uhm. that brown square thing in the top right hand corner is a STAMP, along with the pretty label with our name on it, so please drop it in the mail. Frustrating. I am seriously going to send afriendly reminder email by next Wed if I don't get anymore. I haven't recieved txts yet.. I hope I don't. :0/

Just be thankful they are RVPing.

This is literally why I didn't do RSVP cards. I made a gmail address and included my phone number at the bottom of the reception cards.

"RSVP to ************@*****.*** or 555-999-8888"

I already know nobody is going to send those expensive cards back.