Tuesday Morning Wedding

I'm not too sure if I would take off work for a wedding on a Tuesday unless they are my BEST friend or a REALLY close family member. But you are right at the end of the day the people who want to be there will be and you will be married to your FH so that's all that matters!

I would run it by your VIP's first and make sure it's feasible at least for them. Not everyone has vacation days at their workplace.

Honestly, I would be surprised if you even had 50 people for a Tuesday morning. It's a very inconvenient time. What did your families say about it? Are your guests mostly local or out of town?

Our VIP's said they would be there no matter what.

Mostly local or an hour north or south.

I empathize because I would think twice about accepting a wedding invitation for a Tuesday, as well.

I know how you feel about the date. My FH & I chose ours based on our anniversary date but it ended up being on a Friday which is more common now. I honestly think a Tuesday would be difficult for your guests.

I agree that a lot of your guests will not show, but...you'll get a hell of a discount for having a Tuesday morning wedding. If you want more people to attend I would change it to the weekend before or after...but if you don't care who attends than Tuesday it is. I have a a lot of vacation days and my company is very flexible so would take off for a very best friend, but I wouldn't take off or travel for say a 2nd cousin. Or I'd take off and complain about it for years to come. Not everyone has that kind of time off though. I'm pretty sure my FH would say to me, "Your on your own, go alone," since he only has about 5 days vacation per year compared to my 20+

I would sacrifice my anniversary date to have family and friends that were important to me be there on my wedding date.

Is there a reason why you need this date? Or you could get married at the courthouse on Tuesday morning and go to Denny's for breakfast and have your reception with family and friends on the following saturday

Yeah, give up the anniversary date. I wouldn't attend unless it was immediate family, and I'd still side-eye the hell out of it. Maybe get married on the next weekend?

I went to a wedding on a Wednesday afternoon-evening. I didn't go to the church ceremony, but I did make it to the reception, around 5 pm. Not sure the numbers for the ceremony, but the reception had at least 120 people.

If they can, if they want to, and if you give them enough notice, I don't see why they wouldn't make the effort.

I get the idea of doing it on your anniversary, but you're creating a NEW anniversary so I'd say even a Monday or Friday morning (or Sunday morning) brunch wedding would be much better. For me, working on Monday, taking off Tuesday, and then going back Wednesday-Friday is kind of disruptive.

Can you get legally married on Nov 1 and have your reception the following weekend? A Sunday brunch wedding reception would be fun!

I would probably go to a Tuesday morning wedding. I am taking a day off for an oot Sunday night wedding this year. And took a day off last year for an earlier Friday wedding. But understand that not everyone can take time off, and a lot of factors go into how many of your guests will be able to attend. We had 65 people out of 115 invited. Most of my family is on the other side of the country, and many don't have the means to travel. But the people that mattered most attended, and the night of my wedding I had a blast; I wasn't thinking about those that couldn't come, I was enjoying spending time with the people that made it a priority to be there.

A dating anniversary is pale in comparison to a wedding anniversary. You can still do something fun on your dating anniversary, but it's not really logical to have your wedding on a Tuesday because of it. A LOT of people won't be able to come to a morning wedding during the middle of the week. I think when the time comes you'll be disappointed with the turn-out after putting in so much time and effort to plan it.

We're getting married on a Monday, it's Labor Day so most people don't have to work anyways. We knew going in that there would be a higher decline, but that the people who wanted to be there would make it a priority. You are the ones that have to live with that date and if it's important to have it on the exact day, I say go for it.

I would do it, but prob will be smaller attendance than if you had it on the weekend.

I agree with getting your marriage license on the anniversary date. I'd guesstimate only 30% would come on a Tuesday morning

I don't really understand the appeal of having the wedding on an anniversary. Idk, it seems to me that when you get married your previous anniversaries don't really matter anymore anyways, so creating a new anniversary is not a big deal.

My advice? If the anniversary is that important to you, keep the Tuesday. But I would recommend moving it to the evening because a Tuesday morning during the school year...even government flex scheduling wouldn't really allow for that. And who says you can't have a breakfast-for-dinner reception!

@KD and @Sarah mentioned getting married on the anniversary date and then the reception on a later weekend. It would still give you your anniversary (and if you were doing a civil ceremony, you can still have those VIPs attend if they wanted to). It may be the best of both worlds? However if you want to have both the ceremony and reception the same day, and the date is something you do not want to budge on - then you will have to just wait to receive RSVPs (though I would not expect a large majority to show). @AmandaJeffrey mentioned moving it to the evening, this is definitely something to consider: breakfast-for-dinner (the venue that I am having my reception at, said they did this once, and they (and the guests) loved it! So you can still do breakfast.)

I do not think you will have a big turn out for a Tuesday morning wedding. (Saying that, one of my FH's really close friends is getting married Monday morning (11am). My FH is flying in the morning of the wedding and then flying back Tuesday morning. I will not be going to the wedding, as we both cannot afford to take the day off of work (I would have to take two days off due to my work schedule and he would only need to take one off)). I know a lot of people have been upset with the fact that their wedding is on a Monday morning (people have work).

I would only go if it was a sibling or best friend. Are you willing to compromise on date? If not date, the meal time?

Why not a breakfast for dinner thing? Most people would really enjoy that I think and it would likely bring up the number who would show. It would still be tough for some purely by being in the week but at night at least makes it easier. The one thing I will say is that if for some reason a decent percent of your guests work retail maybe this would actually be easier as it's hard to get a saturday off? I know when we go to throw a party we almost have to do it on a weeknight sometimes because a huge percent of our friends work jobs where getting a saturday night off is like finding gold. We even laughed that fewer of our friends would have to take time off if we did it DURING the week! Not the case for everyone but worth a thought, esp considering it might be cheaper.