Tuesday Morning Wedding

This is incredibly inconvenient and yes, if you invite 100 people, you will have 50 show.

I know that it would be really hard for me to do that. Especially right before the Holiday season. If its the date that you want, then that is something you will have to except.

As @Jacqui76 mentioned, Nov 1 is a Sunday this year. I know it's not a lot of time, but is it possible for you to plan something for 2015 instead? I'd be fine with a Sunday brunch wedding, but not a Tuesday morning wedding. I'd have to be very close with the person, and even then it might be difficult with my work schedule (mid Oct - mid Nov is one of our busiest times of the year at work).

I haven't read the comments yet.. but you need to consider kids will be in school, people work, and you're coming up on holidays.

Do what you want, but you won't have a high acceptance rate.

I will say though that my dating anniversary with FH is October 6 and while it would be cool to get married on our dating anniversary that day is a Thursday in 2016 so we are getting married on October 1st. October is an important month to us because it's when we got together and fall is our favorite season so we are happy to just be getting married then! I think you getting married around your anniversary date is special too and you would be creating a new day to celebrate!

Yes, your VIPS may show, but it's incredibly rude to ask them to take a day off (or two, depending on where they are). I only get 10 days off during the school year, and I'm very careful about which days I take off. If you were my sister, of course I'd be there, but in the back of my mind I'd be grumbling.

I have to be honest that when people say "if they love us they will be there" I cringe.

No, it doesn't work that way. You are planning the MOST inconvenient wedding I can imagine and you want everyone to use their vacation time and pull kids out of school because you are stuck on a date and a morning wedding.

If you plan something inconvenient you will not have the turn out you want. You need to decide if having the people you want to attend be there, or if you want to stick with the most inconvenient plan ever. The two don't go together.

People show they love you by supporting you, being a great friend, being there when you are having a crisis, when you are sick, etc. That is what is important, not whether or not they attend a very inconvenient wedding. Missing your wedding has nothing to do with how much they love you - being there for you throughout your life is what is important.

What is more important to you - being surrounded by those 100 people at a time and place that ensures the best attendance, or being stuck on getting married on your dating anniversary on a Tuesday and having an incredibly low turnout?

Honestly I would be extremely surprised if you had a 50 person turnout. Really Janeen nailed it here.

Have your wedding that weekend, and if that Nov.1 date is that important to you still, celebrate both dates. But once you get married, are you really going to celebrate your "dating" anniversary?

Or other option would be wait to get until 2019, that would at least be a Friday.

You know, if you get married on a different day, then THAT will be your anniversary...

I love how a date and breakfast are more important than providing a convenient time and place for your guests. I'm pretty sure if you invited 100 people, you'll have about 25 people show up... probably your parents, maybe siblings, and the rest will be the older relatives who are retired and don't have work and places to be on a Tuesday at 10am.

And because I love Lucille Bluth and this meme.

DH and I wanted to get married on our 10 year anniversary. It was on a tuesday. So we told our parents and siblings we were getting married that day at the courthouse so they could ask of for work and planned a celebration for the following weekend. You are not going to have a lot of people there for a Tuesday morning wedding

I'll be honest. You would have to be in my immediate family (parents, siblings, aunts, child) for me to attend a Tuesday morning wedding. I understand the date is important, but I would want my guest to be there for it also.

If the date is the most important thing to you, just get married at the courthouse and invite your immediate families. A Tuesday wedding for this reason makes no sense.

I think you would be lucky to have 50 show up for a Tuesday Morning wedding. No matter how close I was to the bride and groom, I wouldn't be happy about taking a Monday off (For your BP) for a rehearsal and a Tuesday. I'm a teacher, me being out not only puts me behind, but my students behind. Of course I would take off of it were for my best friend or immediate family, but that's about it, and I still wouldn't be super happy about using 16 of my 32 hours I'm allotted each year.

Did you notice that you said "Those who care about us will be there right? " and said you don't want a 50% decline rate and then in a follow up post, "I empathize because I would think twice about accepting a wedding invitation for a Tuesday"

I think you answered your own question. You will have a lot of declines.

While your statement "those who care about us will be there right?" is usually true, it's only true to a certain extent. I only have two personal days a year (I'm a teacher) and if I've had to use them up, for my wedding for instance, I would not be able to take off time for a Tuesday morning wedding. No matter how much I loved you. I could potentially take a docked day and not get paid, but that would be extremely, extremely inconvenient for my finances.

My point: there are people who will not be able to take time off but who would otherwise want to attend your wedding and share your special day, so you're putting them in a very inconvenient position.

I would only take off work for a sibling. I like the idea that you should get legally married at the Court house or something on Tuesday and have a brunch on the weekend! That sounds nice!

I would never attend a Tuesday morning wedding. First of all, my siblings wouldn't have a wedding on a weekday morning because we don't all live in the same city. Those are the only people I would take work off for.

I honestly think it is completely rude and selfish!

You seem to want a big fun reception, i think that your best option is to do the small ceremony with a weekend reception to celebrate.

FYI - we changed the date to Saturday, November 5, 2016! Thanks for the feedback ladies