Transportation for bridal party

Shaming those who may want an adult beverage or two during a wedding and suggesting they need help is inappropriate. I need a few drinks to let loose and dance, so I should get help?

Dry weddings are the WOAT

Not sure why alcohol was mentioned more than a bus in this thread, but maybe I missed something.

Anyways, OP- we are getting a party bus because it's the easiest method of transportation for us- I don't enjoy climbing into limos in fancy dresses and my FH is tall so this is the most comfortable means of travel for us. The party bus is taking us to pictures (just the bridesmaids and me), then all of us (both our bridal parties) will go together from the pics to ceremony then all from ceremony to reception. I have never seen SO's ride along in the bus since they'd have to do an awful lot of sitting around. Also, you can party in a party bus (so named because of it's club like atmosphere and flashing lights and music) without alcohol. It's nice if you provide it, but i've definitely seen people get to pretty serious dancing in a party bus without it so I'm not sure what the alcohol has to do with the party bus.

View Quoted Comment Because I'm a post I made a few months ago I asked about how much alcohol I should get but those guest aren't coming now. A few nights ago somebody asked about a dry wedding and I explained one reason why we wouldn't be having alcohol, which is there are some alcoholics in the family, but the rest of our guests don't drink anyway.

While I disagree with you on whether an adult party should have alcohol (yes) and I think it sucks your post got derailed, it really is ridiculous that you keep inferring that people who think adult parties should have alcohol have a drinking problem. Just because someone wants alcohol to relax in a social setting doesn't mean they have a drinking problem or need help. You should stop projecting your family/friend's issues onto others.

I guess there are many people who will need help then because a lot of people don't drink often but yes, prefer or want alcohol to loosen up at big events. Apparently, not everyone is as sociable as you.

Sorry I didn't shame someone into providing me alcohol? And yes I'll get right on signing up for AA with my two drinks a week.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I'm so torn because they say it's ok but I still feel so guilty separating them even for that small amount of time.

I hired a vintage car big enough to transport my 3 BMs, 3 flower girls and me to the church. Their SO drove to the church because after the ceremony just my DH and I drove to the reception and my bridal party rode back with their SO.

This is brutal. I’m at a loss for why some of you care so much about the alcohol situation at a wedding of people you know nothing about. For the record, I drink plenty, will definitely have an open bar at my wedding, and would not enjoy myself as much at a dry wedding but a wedding is about the bride and the groom, their love, and the fusing of two families. I’m sure she knows her guests better than you and at the end of the day it’s her wedding. If she feels confident in her choice, that’s all that matters. Their is a difference between giving constructive advice and basically bullying someone for making the choice to have a dry wedding. Yikes. Come on, let’s try to be decent to each other.

That said, I would not include the SOs in your head count. As people have said, logistically it is better so they have a car at the end of the night and also they can do their own thing during photo time and not just be waiting around. Keep your head up girl and you do you!

@jcdb, people are just pointing out that dry weddings aren't really fun.

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome!! And please don’t be discouraged to ask questions here. Some of the advice on the forums are actually helpful you just have to sift through and ignore the extra from time to time. I’ve been to plenty dry weddings and they were fun because we’re fun people lol anyway don’t sweat this though! I’ve been in a few weddings and my SO wasn’t in the party so there were some things( like riding with the party) that he didn’t participate in and that’s ok! We’re adults lol it’s ok not to be attached to the hip with your SO all the time ya know? Even for a short while.

OP, i was reasonable until you inferred that I'm an alcoholic because I would enjoy a drink at a wedding. Who wouldn't? I have nothing to do all night, and probably the next morning, so why not celebrate, and ingest a few more calories than I normally would? Maybe your family members dont drink when you are around because they dont want to be judged.

And if you are going to kidnap your bridal party for pictures, then include their SOs on the bus.

...how old are you, OP? Are you old enough to drink?

View Quoted Comment That's awesome! I love the car!

View Quoted Comment Yes I am old enough to drink

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She didn't say they don't USUALLY drink. She said they DON'T DRINK.

If you poke a snake with a stick often enough, it's going to spit at you.

View Quoted Comment I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that if OP's original plan was to have alcohol for her 80 out of 180 guests who drink (almost HALF) that even though some can't make it, there will still be people who want to have a drink. Unless you're arguing that that coincidentally all who drink cannot make it. Then fine, don't offer it as an option.