Transportation for bridal party

View Quoted Comment For our guests we are. They don't drink, therefore alcohol is irrelevant.

Oh well then!

No they actually don't drink. Again, I know my friends and family so I'm not too worried about it. The topic was about transportation, not alcohol.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately, when you post here that you aren't going to obey basic rules of etiquette, it opens up the discussion for why you would spend money on a party bus when there's no party.

View Quoted Comment Don't need alchol to have a party! And basic etiquette is knowing your guests, providing them with what you know will appeal
to them. Since I know my guests, I know
alcohol does not appeal to them. So I'm using the money that I had set aside for a bar for something that they'll enjoy.

Is there a religious reason why your family absolutely does not drink? Because if not, it's proper hosting (like many PP have said) to provide the option of alcohol. I know many people who drink only on occasion, and a wedding is one of those occasions. If it's self provided alcohol, it's not going to break the bank for you to have SOME alcohol.

As for the party bus, I think including or not including SOs can be up to them, as long as you offer. Some will want their SOs to have a car to drive them home at the end of the evening. But I agree that a limo/party bus is not needed if you're all going to be sober. Save yourself some $$ and get a school bus.

People are just trying to help you out. Nobody wants to be the bride that everyone talks about for years where everyone left their wedding early and had to sit on a bus with other people similarly unhappy.

What's the something that will they enjoy? Is it Entertainment wise, like a dance troupe, a singer, comedian, magician?

View Quoted Comment I think it's the party bus.

I'm realy enjoying this fancy ride and am so glad the money was spent on this rather than some celebratory drinks...said no one ever.

View Quoted Comment I love how so many of you are concerned about alcohol at my wedding, which none of you will be attending!

Yup. Totally how it went.

View Quoted Comment I doubt they'll leave early. They never leave family functions early because of lack of alcohol.

People are going to provide feedback, if you don't agree that's fine, but don't continue to engage because it just comes off as defensive.

People may say they don't want to drink, and they very well may not, but it is assumed alcohol will be provided at a wedding (religious reasons, etc. are an exception). Is consider having beer and wine (you don't have to go nuts, but at least have something); maybe there are some guests who will want something with dinner or during dancing?

OP- I want to congratulate you on maintaining your cool. Yes, it's normal to provide alcohol, but it is absolute foolishness to insist that you provide alcohol when your guests don't drink ( and yes, I do think the OP knows her guests better than any of us). It's like insisting that someone offer a beef, chicken and seafood option to a convention of vegans or vegetarians.

Perhaps weddingwire should have considered a penalty of a 50 point loss for 'piling on" in their most recent restructuring.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. Honestly, after this, I doubt I will ever ask for advice here again. I don't need this from people. I'm dealing with enough in my life. All I wanted to know was about transportation.

Good to know nothing has changed here in the new year.

OP, I don't think SO's need to ride in the party bus. Mine are not. Also, why not provide a consumption bar? If no one drinks, then you are still saving money, but also providing the option. I very rarely drink, but I do enjoy having the option.

View Quoted Comment Because just to have the consumption bar, weather they drink or not, is a $300 fee. So since they won't drink, it's a waste of $300

It's your day, if you really don't want it, then no need to worry about it.

You're gonna get all kinds of responses from the forums (I learned this lesson), not everyone is going to like what you like and people will express that. Be ready for all kinds of responses when posting and carry on. Don't sweat an internet forum,it's really not worth it.

View Quoted Comment I think there is a difference. Vegetarians won't eat meat for a celebration, people who don't usually drink may want to have a drink or two during a wedding.