Too much pressure to be pretty?

Never forget - all that matters on your wedding day is the fact that you are marrying your husband . All the extra stuff is fluff and it will be such a whirlwind you will forget the "small stuff". I have always been a member of the IDGAF club, please come back and join us again

I totally hear you. I try to remind myself that I look like what I look like, and people are used to seeing me look how I look. Big nose, frizzy hair, mediocre make-up, big arms, and awkward facial expressions. There's absolutely nothing I could do for my wedding day that could make me look weirder than I do on a normal day.

Join the IDGAF club girl! here, you can sit right next to me.

Love... I got something to say on this post hehehe... I was the same way. Felt guilty like I need to be skinny, toned, tan, perfect in every way on my wedding day. The truth is I wasn't and I am not 19 years old anymore. I have had a child which I am damn proud of... I don't have a thigh gap.. but I have a beautiful life now and a husband that loves me. I look at my pictures and we are so in love and happy... and honestly... I think we look terrific! Everyone had a great time at the wedding. Even though my curled hair started falling out we were dancing at the end of the night enjoying ourselves. I try to point out my positive features... and I only remember the celebration of our love for each other.

Try not to be so hard on yourself... just know it will be beautiful. It is about the vows and the celebration... and believe me your MUA, hair person, photographer, all your vendors... will make the day look glorious.

As long as you are having fun your happiness will shine through and you will be beautiful

I feel you. All this pressure, hair trials, makeup trials etc that never come out perfect and we are too critical of ourselves. My FH brushes all this stuff off when I worry and says you'll look beautiful no matter what stop worrying but we are women and we will be the center of attention that day. We have to just breath and know that it's going to be great! Def doing some yoga today to relieve some stress. 2 weeks out and I'm really starting to have some anxiety I wasn't expecting.

I feel the same way-- it's the thing I'm most anxious about on my big day. I have been second-guessing all of my attire decisions. I've been stressing over when to start working out, when to start tanning, etc. But I really love Jackie's advice and am going to try to remind myself of what she said above every time I start to feel overwhelmed with fear on being an ugly bride on my wedding day. =/

ETA: Thank you for sharing that bit of advice Jackie!!

I think we can all sympathise! As long as FH thinks I look good when I walk down the aisle, that's the main thing. Once that's over, and a few nice pictures have been taken, then I can look forward to my grandma telling me I've got too much makeup on and she doesn't like that my dress doesn't have sleeves etc. etc. You can't please everyone!

As long as you and FH are happy with how you are, which I know you will be, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Relax and have fun, and if your makeup runs and your hair falls out, then hey, that just shows that you were having a great time and partying it up!

If you have stylists trust them, it's their job. & when in doubt use lots of hairspray!

It's good to shout out all our ridiculous insecurities and cry a little. I hope you feel better. If not try alcohol.

I felt the same way. Make sure you get a hair and makeup trial. That way you'll know what you're going to look like! My curls were definitely falling out at the end of the night and I forgot to reapply lipstick...and I really didn't care because I was having so much fun.

There's a saying:

"Every bride wants to look pretty on her wedding day, but every bride ends up looking beautiful"

And it's true!!! It has nothing to do with what's done on the outside, but the happiness that shines through Try not to stress, and to the people who matter, you will be the most beautiful bride they have ever seen!

I've been to a wedding where a young bride wore no make-up, didn't do anything to her hair, had no nail polish ... and she kind of looked unfinished lol.

So as long as you get some make-up on, get your hair done up, put on the dress, shoes, veil, and jewelry, I'm sure you'll look beautiful!

I think we all feel the pressure! And no one realizes how mentally, physically, and emotionally TOUGH it is to be a bride until you are one! There's a little saying I say to myself when things go not as planned or I'm starting to panic.

"Surrender to what is; Let go of what was; Have faith in what will be."

Lately, it's been helping me get through and let go of small details in planning!

A happy bride is a beautiful bride

I feel you! I was even bitter that my DH waited so long to propose because my prettiest years were behind me! But I accepted it and worked with what I had. I was self conscious about my laugh lines, but I smiled all day, so they were not noticeable. Just pamper yourself and you'll feel great

I went to a wedding where the bride wore very minimal make up, the dress was about a size too small and about 3 inches too short. Yes I remember that, but I also remember the love those two emanated during the ceremony. it was beautiful.

We will all look awesome on our days

Girl I totally feel you here, why is there so much pressure for the bride to look “photo ready,” with special airbrushing and all this crap and you know our partners are just gonna show up and do fine!! The hormones have been really awful for me too, making me feel like I need to really pay $500+ for airbrush, saree draping and all the works and it’s horrifying; I love your visual of carrying the sign around of you! LOL I guess your wedding is long past now so I hope it was just the best and all you could have imagined! We are our worst critics and I say we all make spaces for ourself at the IDGAF club!