To shove or not to shove?

FH says he is going to smash the entire cake into my face... I said if he does he will have a very lonely wedding night in the dog house If I spend over $300 on a MUA and hair, I do not want cake alllll over me, not to mention the cost of the damn cakes, I want to eat it and not have it all over my outfit. I told him he dab a little icing on my nose. I do think a little fun play with the cake can be cute but I do not think ruining a brides dress over a cake fight is appropriate.

@Brittany, that's what I've heard as well. Plus, I don't want cake all over my face. It's gross and it'll ruin my makeup. I told DH if he did it, I would walk out. We didn't smash and the cake was delicious.

Spazzy- Not everyone waits, I have been to a ton of weddings where they cut the cake right away to get it out of the way.

Does this look attractive? No? Then I wouldn't.

I am definitely not a fan of the cake smash. I also read a few times (not totally reputable articles of course) that there are alarming statistics correlating cake smashing and divorce rate. I know it sounds silly, but on a deeper level I find it to be pretty disrespectful, soooo it kinda makes sense.

I've never seen anyone do this in the UK at any wedding I've been to (and I used to work weddings so I've seen a lot). No offence to those who like it, but I think it's awful. Even the feeding each other a bite is a bit twee for me, but that's just me I think.

FH and I are a very silly, playful couple, but I'd be so pissed off if he did it to me.

FH wanted too, until I explained to him just how much hair and makeup cost. Then he asked if he could just put some icing on my nose, which I'm OK with.

Considering how much I'm paying for hair and makeup....absolutely not!

No shoving of the cake for me. I like to EAT my cake, not wear it on my face.

Not after getting my makeup done lol. A little dab on the nose or mouth isn't too bad but not a face of cake.

I don't like it, I think it's just rude and borderline tacky. I know FW thinks it's "okay" but I'm not and she knows not to do it.

Yeah, casting my vote with the majority here. I'm not paying over a hundred dollars for my makeup to have it ruined by CAKE. No. Way.

No. Just no. Good heavens no.

I have no clue, i wouldnt be mad if he did, actually i may do it to him, it all just depends on the moment, and your personalitys

I had never imagined doing it, but it was one of the few things he really wanted so we did. Our strategy was a "1 napkin rule"--no more mess than could be cleaned up by 1 napkin. We both did a little icing around the lips with our fingers, and it made for a sweet kiss and fun pictures.

The pictures where one or the other takes actual cake (not just a dab of icing) and puts it up the nose, in hair, clothing, etc., are truly horrifying. I've seen it done, and even though both were involved and appeared to have a great time, it seemed a little out of place that they then both had to go to the bathroom and wash clothes, hair, faces, etc.

Thanks for your opinions! From the majority of responses, I'd say that this is one of those things that is slowing being phased out. I'd assume that this is due to the fact that weddings are more of a production than they used to be and now, brides spend hundreds of dollars on hair and makeup. Perhaps in 100 years or so, this will become one of those things that people look back and say 'what the heck were they thinking'. You can research old wedding traditions that to us seem totally bizarre now, but back when they were practiced, it was considered normal.

I told my FH I call this "grounds for divorce" (jokingly of course). I really don't care for it myself as I hate being messy or having anything on my face/in my hair. I think it just boils down to what people want to do. I will say that if either of you have a decided preference it's likely a good thing to talk about beforehand. I let my FH know that I wanted to do that cake cutting and feed each other a bite, but to please just make it a small piece and not smear it everywhere. Some guys may think it's expected so IMO if you are against it it's probably a good idea to make that clear.

I told FH that I did not want a cake smash. He was surprised that I thought I even had to tell him that.

I think it is one of those passive aggressive things. One smashes the cake and the other is accused of not being a good sport about it.

Feeding the cake to each other represents your very recent vows to provide for and care for each other.

I think the cake smash is awful. Why would I want to ever smash something in my partner's face?? FH kept teasing me that he was gonna cake smash me lol. He knew I hated it, plus getting my hair, makeup, dress, etc. messed up was NOT okay with me. We ended up doing a dot of icing on each other's noses and feeding each other very nicely which I think was cute

Icing on the nose, maybe I could live with it. If he puts cake in my face he is in MAJOR trouble. Marriage will NOT be consummated that night!