Threesome as a wedding present?!

Hard no for me and especially on the honeymoon . That should be all about you as a married couple.

I know a few couples who have played with this type of thing . Some swapped with other married couples. At first it was all fun but I can say first hand with three different couples it ruined them. One wife kept going back to the other man and broke all the "rules" . One man left his wife and moved in with the their friend....while the wife didn't want her friends husband at all. So two ended in divorce and one stuck it out and I think no longer play with other couples .

Do you think just because you're married, your insecurities will go away and THATS why you're contemplating it? just want to know before I can provide an answer.

To answer someone's question, no I've never had a threesome in a previous relationship which is why I was curious to know others' experiences.

Thanks (almost) everyone for keeping an open mind and providing constructive feedback. After reading through all of the responses, I think I was fantasizing a little (ok a lot) too much and agree that introducing this on our honeymoon is not the way to go. I was overlooking all of the important details like communication, boundaries, and most importantly finding a safe third person who we are both comfortable with. I don't think this is something I'm going to rule out as a potential in the future but will definitely go about it a different way. And in all honesty, there's no rush, I'm ok if it never happens too.

I personally am way to selfish to even consider a threesome. With that said, clearly if you are having insecurities BEFORE doing it, this is NOT something you should consider let alone do.

I did have friends that "swapped" with another couple. At first she would say it was exciting. Before you knew it they were in divorce court. Her husband left her for the other woman he was fucking.

I feel as if you share once, you just keep sharing.

I can honestly say from personal experience to not do it at all. My future mr. an I did it for my birthday and I immediately regretted it.

I personally would never do this. I can't imagine watching FH with another women. I definitely don't think it's wise to find a women on your honeymoon. Especially with the health risk of an STD and who knows what else.

It is a bad idea. Do you really want to want your new husband cheat on you in front of you?

No go.

Okay, now that we've got the actual issue resolved, can I express my amusement with, "I married my dick for a reason: it's mine only"? Because referring to one's husband as a dick is not normally considered a positive.

If he isn't really good to go with this....dont do it. Its a disaster waiting to happen. This isnt something you just "SURPRISE" someone with. If he's 45% ok and you're 99% ok with it. You will get more out of it than he will and then you will have the I wonder if she will step out on me with a man or a woman thoughts running thru his mind.

Put yourself in his shoes. What if he kept bringing it up but you weren't 99% ok with it. How would it make you feel if he surprised you with it.

Maybe as a coming home present? I'm with others on the honeymoon. It's for you as a couple. But in all honestly what happens in your bedroom is up to you and FH. Maybe bring it up to him again?

I think you should just talk to him first. If you are both totally cool with it then go for it. But it shouldn't be a surprise. You would need to discuss boundaries first and what happens after etc

Heeey! Did we all forget why we're here. Marriage isn't just a "I love you do you love me check the box" it's a life changing commitment. A vow, promise to exclusively honor that one person; LIKE CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH remember? Your partnership should glorify God not to be taken lightly but maturely, truthfully. Marriage separates you from so much and it's a privaledge to be part of the world's oldest institution. The only institution ordained by God.

Bluevelvet, if they've agreed on the terms, it's not cheating. Don't be judgmental and insensitive to other people's sexual preferences.

@angela that's what your Christian marriage is. There are plenty of other religions and gods in the world, and some of them believe in multiple partners. Trust me, your god has no place in my marriage.

Amen, Nikki.

The the words spoken to each other are found in the dictionary. Promise, faithful, honor....

@Angela don't assume everyone believes as you do. In no way does my marriage have anything to do with religion.

FFS Angela